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Being fussy Who's a fussy moo?

May 18 2017

Hi 😘 So how fussy are you with who you allow into your personal space? I've found my fussiness has gone to a whole other level. I try not to discount people for small things, but sometimes those small things can be red flags, instinct is all we have to go on, and it rarely let's me down. But the longer I do this, the fussier/pickier I get. There are days where I have fleeting thoughts of taking the first guy I'm remotely attracted to lol just for some action, but don't of course, a fun thought though 😀 Just imagine doing a datefinder, for let's say Thursday, the first 5 guys to message me get a root 😂😂😂 So how fussy are you and are your resulting dry spells as long as mine? lol Do you find it increasingly hard to replace past lovers, you know, the gems? Thoughts?

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RHP User

9 years ago

its more about a connection with the person....so online chatting isnt always helpful. My 'fussiness' mainly revolves around personality, cleanliness, smoker status...etc. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

I know I'm getting fussier as time (probably my age too!) goes on. I too have thought, should I just say yes cos it's been a while?! But I just can't make myself do it. Laziness and lack of real interest on my part stops me. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

In choosing my lovers, he has set the standard and I ain't going back down below. Have yet to find another matching or above - wouldn't it be nice? 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile

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DynamicCouple36

9 years ago

The word "fussy" generally has such negative connotations, and implies that a fussy person is easily upset, paying excessive attention to unimportant things, and generally worries about nothing ( if you google it's definition) We prefer to use the word "standards" or the phrase " we have high standards" as for us, this has more positive, respectful & admirable connotations. However mediocrity may see this as being afflicted by "tall poppy syndrome". When it comes to our personal space, and or allowing someone into our personal space, we tend to never compromise. If they do not match up to the standards that we set for ourselves / the standards by which we aspire to live by and apply to our lives, then we simply don't allow them to get too close to us. (or drop our protective barriers) No one should ever have to feel that they have to compromise and or settle for second best. The emphasis is on "have to" . No one should be forced/compelled to do anything that they are not comfortable with. When we first joined this site (and others) we were eager to get into the action and or please others, even if this meant lowering our standards and opting for quantity as opposed to quality. We however quickly realised that we did not have to compromise . Why should we or anyone have to compromise if we did not want to ? If we were labelled as being "stuck up" or "fussy" then tough titties - take it or leave it - we are what we are and we don't give a sh*t !! And so, after 4 years on this site, and after having met quite a few people from highly different and varied backgrounds , we have certainly pulled back substantially, as our tastes have become more subtle and discerning. We have grown, have learnt a great deal, and now know exactly what we like and don't like. Having "dry spells" does not worry us as there is more to life, we feel, than meeting people through RHP. If the right calibre of person comes along, who interests us, then great. If not then as they say here in Australia "No worries mate" ! It's a very personal thing and it will vary from person to person. At the end of the day everyone will have different standards and levels of "fussiness" . We don't think that there is anything wrong with it, as we all generally also enjoy different tastes.

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RHP User

9 years ago

I touch I have set a reminder to message you Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday Thursday and Friday Lol Have a great weekend Hope your well - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

lol Thursday is the day, check datefinder 👍 😉

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RHP User

9 years ago

Yes I'm well thanks, hope you are too 😀

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RHP User

9 years ago

It's simple: I don't like: I don't play with, not to my liking, same there. I dunno if my standards do drop when I'm on a dry streak.... So being fussy is a sign of being confident and hence a sign of style, elegance and attractiveness. Nobody should sell her/himself under "value"

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Sawadee

9 years ago

Fussy ? another word for choosey . I always was fussy, but have since widened my scope after a fantastic liaison with a woman I would have once passed up . Probally one of the most sexiest woman I'd ever been with , so now I look a little deeper than skin deep. Call it what you will , but be carefull of judging a book by its cover , you could be missing something really good...

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RHP User

9 years ago

I am not fussy but I am choosey with who I will share my time with. If you are not what I m wanting then I will not be looking to meet up with you. If I don't like what I see then I will not play even if it means that I do not play for a long time.

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RHP User

9 years ago

Perhaps the older you get the less you can be bothered in making the effort unless it is something out of the ordinary ?

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On_Safari

9 years ago

By a few exquisite men....and that bar is seldom reached. But I have chocky desire and he's set another level of exquisiteness. So I guess I'm buggered if this relationship heads to the shithouse 'cos it was a long time between drinks. And I parch very quickly.....🤤

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RHP User

9 years ago

I know what i like = fussy in a way, i have never married but have been proposed to 5 times. Like to find the one or even a lover that is on the same page. Need there to be a conection A good wank is better than putting up with shit. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

Is my word. After being active for just over 12 months now I'm starting to understand what I really want and have to offer another person. And I'm selective. I don't want to waste anyone's time or my own. It's a tough selection process 😉 but I'm about quality over quantity when it comes to people. There has to be something 'there' to allow you near my body. Previous lovers have had an impact, but I find anyone I let into my life a little leaves their mark in some way.

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RHP User

9 years ago

I have some amazing male friends who have set the bar very high. So it's really difficult these days to accept anything other than what I already enjoy. It's probably not all that fair to the new men I see, but they'd have to possess some very awesome abilities to catch my attention 😌🙃☺️ - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

Love the word. If you are going to invite others into your private relm, you are allowed to be fussy, and why not, others are fussy when they are window shopping, things can be said and written to give you a indication of the said person/ couple, but in a face to face meet you soon pick up vibes and words , expressions etc, and yes we have chatted to a lot of people, and yes a lot are lovely and nice and extremely interesting, but sometimes may be we are to cautious our fault not others, as we have been done over a few times in our early inexperienced days, yes we are still inexperienced but we are learning, some times some words alert alarm bells with us, and we either become aloof and say no or simply delete from contact list, We are by no means perfect but we are allowed to be fussy and those who get past our fussiness will have. Nice long term funster friends, Yes fussy is good, everyone can be fussy and is allowed to be fussy, - Posted from rhpmobile

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