M46
Been here a while and am yet to meet anyone........
July 23 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
My advice? The idle chit chat. Breaking the ice and chatting to the woman here, is just like working up the nerve to say something to the interesting looking woman you've seen walking up and down your street for a few months now while your checking the mailbox or taking out the wheelie bin. There's no rules to this place that says you have to do anything proactive about actually meeting people...do whatever you want, I suppose...but remember, it's just like talking to people in person...face to face. It might pay off...and it might not.Just be cool, calm, casual and polite. Just like in real life. Don't be a dick. Then you'll know it wasn't something you did wrong. The alternative method..getting straight to the point with your intentions..might not go down so well with some people. Cheers..
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RHP User
9 years ago
No pants,welcome to the fora.I suggest that you have a much nicer face pic.the one with no hat.,use that. Don't be lazy.,talk a bit more about you,your interests etc.Make a woman want to meet you. Don't send Hi how are you type messages..the competition here is fierce. Good luck No pants,I hope you have more luck 🐞Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
Your competing against the other million single guys out there on RHP. I was looking through your profile and there was nothing in there that really grabbed me at all. Your down to earth etc and that's great ..... but so is a huge amount of other profiles. So apart from that, what is it about you that makes you tick, that make you stand out from all the other similar profiles out there. As said already, spend a bit of extra time writing more about yourself that tries to seperate you from all the other profiles out there. It's all been said before on the forums that it's all about marketing. Good luck W. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't have much advice. I will say that profile pictures of people's faces are a big plus (although not essential) but I personally think pictures were you are smiling and looking happy are definitely better than the serious/stern look a lot of men seem to have. As for getting back into the swing of swinging and dating again. Well, contribute to this forum, check out the chat rooms, get used to chatting to people and flirting. If you feel confident enough possibly attend some social events in your area. You can find events listed on RHP as well as other sites. I know when you feel a bit rusty you can feel a bit awkward but practice practice and practice again really does make a difference when it comes to social interactions. In my experience anyway. It is a little bit like Fake it til you make it. 😎 Online dating can be pretty cut throat and harsh so don't take online rejection personally. People are judging you on a picture and a few sentences and not the real you. Knowing how to approach the email communication dance will all depend on you and what sort of interaction or woman you are after. Some like to get down and dirty straight away and others like to take their time about it and get to know you a little first. So, as the others have said above if you state in your profile what interactions you are looking for that will help a woman to know how to respond to you. I personally would open with a friendly genuine message first up. Good luck. I hope you meant some great people and have some fun. Cheers CD.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hang in there and listen to what Q said about your lead picture... tidy up a bit and get rid of the ''red eye'' as you look a bit satanic. Not having a shot at you at all and if you don't have a graphic image program there are dozens of free ones that will do that automatically for you. Self-confidence is not always easy...just be yourself. Remember you're playing to an audience of hundreds (maybe more, depends on how much faith you have in the numbers) and out of that you'll meet someone. Don't expect a perfect match...there's nothing out there like it. Plant a seed and watch it grow and consider it an investment. Best of luck on your journey.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes maybe replace the red eye pic with one of you smiling. Also a little more detail about yourself and things you like that might spark interest. Finally get out and meet people in the flesh socially at the social events. Just relying on messages in here can be hit and more often miss. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Cheers for all the replies and advice ladies and gents, I didn't know what to expect when I posted it, but I rolled the dice anyway lol. Will definitely take all this on board. Thanks again, muchly appreciated ☺
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RHP User
9 years ago
Agree with much of the above. Kool, can you send out that memo to other guys "how not to be a dick". Kool nails it with treating women the same as you would in RL. Guys get lazy. Had this guy reply, think I'd hit on him, just in the last few days, and I was excited to see his message come in BUT then I read it and he was asking if I could hook up that day. And that was it, no other conversation. I want action and fast action but I'm not a hooker and I need to know if it's him in the picture or a stolen picture, is he really the hot 6 pack or the guy up the road who needs to be removed from the house with a crane 👌😂 and that's the bit that shits me the most the fucking deception, oops sorry, your pictures look real op so nice one 👍😉 Secondly, how do we know if you'll fit our needs sexually, that you're going to satisfy us? Any guy who cares about what the chick wants, jumps out like a shining beacon lol Women are commonly treated poorly online and with not a lot of respect, we have our time wasted, guys never have pictures up, lie about everything, we women are used to deception and laziness, so to jump out and get our interest, agree with making your profile personal, and don't be frightened to talk a bit about sexy stuff or what you like. It doesn't matter if you cop criticism for that, if the people criticising aren't your target market anyway. I cop criticism, but they're not my target audience. Discretion is a big thing for me and as is commonly displayed on the forum here, there are so many people who are VERY indiscrete. I'm a very private person and respect other people's privacy, but I struggle to find people I can trust, I've been treated badly by people who are indiscrete and avoid them like the plague, so a mention about that always sits well with me, mutual respect and discretion given and expected, something like that, and like kool said, always be respectful, whether or not you move forward to intimacy. Plenty of worthless pieces of shit around who are washed up, don't be one of them. Be patient and respectful and follow the guidebof the woman, she'll let you know if she wants to talk dirty straight up 😉😜 I do like your pictures. Hard to explain but some pictures I trust is the person, and some I don't. Your pictures look real, though I'd add more if I were you, show your body. Part of trust now for me is seeing the face in public gallery so I'd look at your profile and immediately have your vision showing your face, perfect 👍 Hang in there, it's happen
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RHP User
9 years ago
... you do have to reveal a bit more about yourself and make your profile more interesting / exciting. You do face very tough competition in here, as pointed out but a few folks already. Choose your photos very carefully. Midnight and Crackatini have given you some pointers about your photos. The right photos can make someone appear personable. Conversely, the wrong photos may project the wrong image because the person isn't smiling, the person does not look confident, the person does not look like he loves life and is having fun, etc. Sometimes, photos can project vibes and it is also a lot about marketing. I'm into polished, sleek and sassy packaging so it does help to take pride in one's selection of photos that one chooses to present here. Good luck!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Omg that's epic, bloody mobile 😂😂😂
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RHP User
9 years ago
Scuse typos in mine, bound to be a few in a book, right 😯
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yeah... photos lol I don't really like having my photo taken and as for smiling, well at the moment I have a chipped front tooth (which I kindly received after stopping some hero from hitting a girl a little while ago... better me than her though)... and it looks bloody horrible lol.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Much more betterer 😈Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
Haha nawww shucks, thanks lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Scuse typos in mine, bound to be a few in a book, right 😯 ...but if you weighed them, they would often be quite heavy!
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Whether to chit chat until comfortable or get straight to your intention, it all depends on who your target is and what she likes and dislikes. There is no rule in your approach as one woman's deal maker is another woman's deal breaker! Therefore, you really need to read through the profile of your interest target to know what she's after. And please don't rush or be pushy with the ones that don't like to get down to business without a word! For instance, if you were chatting to someone who likes to chit chat, then meet for a coffee and then see how things go, please don't ask her if she has any photos that are more revealing to share, before you even meet her! Otherwise you would either get told to FO instantly, or get played by and left you going nowhere! Therefore, you must know your audience! :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I haven't been with a woman in 10 years and I almost don't even know where to start. I find it really hard to talk myself up on my profile because I don't know how I'm going to go if I ever get the opportunity again. My confidence is shot to pieces makes life difficult, but I guess I just have to try my best and try and come across a lady who likes shy guys like myself. They are out there - Posted from rhpmobile
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