Balancing kinky and "regular" sex

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I have a male friend who is the King of Kinksters...and married a very vanilla gal...nice lady   He told her when they first starting dating of all that he liked and had experienced yada yada yada.. - however he also told her that he would leave it all behind, just for her..   The first lie of the relationship !!!   Like do you really think he did ??   He still embraces and fulfill all his kinks on a weekly basis...., he just plays around on her in order to do so - nope she doesnt know..   ....so in order to answer one of your questions, has he found a balance between kink and vanilla - yes - if you can call it that...but just not with her......and therein lies a story about what their relationship is really like..

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  That sucks for her. I should have put a disclaimer wanting to know about balance within a relationship/fwb/fb situation.

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  playful4u

  13 years ago

  It is just like icecream flavours, you like to try the various textures and flavours, but you will never say no to vanilla icecream.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I like that analogy. Cheers.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Quoting 'Shinasbabe27' I have a male friend who is the King of Kinksters...and married a very vanilla gal...nice lady   He told her when they first starting dating of all that he liked and had experienced yada yada yada.. - however he also told her that he would leave it all behind, just for her..   The first lie of the relationship !!!   Like do you really think he did ??   He still embraces and fulfill all his kinks on a weekly basis...., he just plays around on her in order to do so - nope she doesnt know..   ....so in order to answer one of your questions, has he found a balance between kink and vanilla - yes - if you can call it that...but just not with her......and therein lies a story about what their relationship is really like..     Yup, i have a similar friend.......can't help thinking their marriage is no more than a house of cards built on lies.......   BUT each to their own i guess.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  irregularly slightly kinky...not sure where the line is though between vanilla straight and a slight kink.I think it depends on your individual view.One persons Kinkster is another persons Norm.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  My partner and I can be very straight vanilla or perverse and deviant in the extreme and we enjoy it all. How we play depends on what we feel like doing. We make no agenda, just go with the flow.I have noticed that one sided relationships nearly always end up with the kinky partner satisfying their needs elsewhere. Unless they are sexually compatible they usually end up like the subjects of the above posts.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  is 69 kinky? getting off on a woman squirting when she cums? seeing a woman get off when you lick her feet? sucking clit? would be more than happy to learn from an able teacher:)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I think one of the saddest things in the world is when you cant share a side of you (even a deep seated need in any shape or form) with the person your supposed to be be deeply connected with - who you purport to love and care for most in the world (and they you) ....sad that one has to wear a mask even with the person closest to you       Nice to see you back posting Mistress..

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Quoting 'Shinasbabe27' I think one of the saddest things in the world is when you cant share a side of you (even a deep seated need in any shape or form) with the person your supposed to be be deeply connected with - who you purport to love and care for most in the world (and they you) ....sad that one has to wear a mask even with the person closest to you       Nice to see you back posting Mistress..

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Each of us will define for ourselves by mutual agreement and consent what it is that we define as 'vanilla' and what it is that we define as 'kink'. If there's a rule book, I haven't read it although would happily buy a copy. The very best of anything has always been with someone that's a good friend too, so maybe that's 'the kink'.

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