M60
Balance of powers..
November 16 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
Oooh interesting question Taipan. Some of those things you mentioned .. can be sought, and found I believe (the trying of different things) but, I think, having your needs met.. mm well, that is a conjugal dance between the seeker and the deliverer. Sometimes the seeker, follows patterns of behaviour where, they may state they want one thing.. but often keep ending up with something quite different (but the same thing on a repeated basis...follow?? lol). Let's use your example of 'less controlling'. I have a friend, who states she does not want to be controlled, but, her many relationships see her with the same 'type' of man, repeatedly Starts off.. hunky dory and then, sure as eggs, as the months unfold, the control thing starts to slip in and.. she does a runner. I think she is fumbling but also .. some how sending out subliminal messages 'dominate me'...even though, this is expressly what she states, she does not want.I hope that makes sense...it's early here and I haven't finished my cuppa but. I guess what I am saying is, our own 'patterns of behaviour' influence the outcome and whether our 'needs are met', how fully they are met, how successful we are in meeting personal goals (as they pertain to obtaining pleasure or fulfillment). I think I am fumbling here..lol, time for that second shot of caffeine.
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RHP User
13 years ago
The key for me is not to think about it too much. I am clear in my profile what my general disposition is but am very open minded to experience different things. I just go with the flow and enjoy my partners for who they are and dance the dance... I think as soon as we take it too seriously and over analyse, its stops being fun. There is plenty of pleasure to be had. My opinion.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Interesting question. Do you feel like you are stumbling around in the dark? Can't find what you are looking for Taipan? In the matters of the heart... Yes that is hard to achieve. However if you are just referring to sexual explorations & pleasures, well yes I have found many pleasures and explored many things and I intend to continue to do so. I don't think, for me anyway, that you can find one pleasure? Surely this an evolving thing. Also I feel different with different people and in different situations. Although in general I am definitely more submissive than dominant when it comes to men and women. I reckon most people wish they had the guts or opportunities to explore more however it depends on the persons personality and if you meet people you trust and are comfortable with. I still don't understand people that talk about doing things for years and years but never do it. I don't get that.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe a lot of people are looking for that someone special to experiment with and others are looking for the experimentation with like minded people rather than a special relationship. Therefore those people tend to get out there and do crazier stuff. RHP has corrupted me I admit... But I was a more than willing participant. :D
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RHP User
13 years ago
No Meeks , this is just a general question..i love fumbling in the dark though ! i guess for some of us who have been here for awhile now , we see alot of wants and needs..Its like what Crack up said below.. "So i wondered Let's use your example of 'less controlling'. I have a friend, who states she does not want to be controlled, but, her many relationships see her with the same 'type' of man, repeatedly Starts off.. hunky dory and then, sure as eggs, as the months unfold, the control thing starts to slip in and.. she does a runner " But also i wonder if some of the wants are just pure fantasy ..then when that person is in the actual moment it was different..i remember my first couples experience ..it kind of blew my mind..my visions were one thing when in the moment it was abit scary !!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I just don't think you can anticipate how you will feel the first time you try something new. Sometimes it surpasses your fantasies and other times it can be a disappointment. I wouldn't write anything off on the first go though. Sometimes it's just too overwhelming to process the first time around. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
By fumbliing in the dark
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well I know of a dark room that I could all take you too :P
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RHP User
13 years ago
for posting a topic that is actually on the ball for an adult site (not just some twaddle that belongs in the Womens Day or Dear Dorothy Dix)I must admit that I have both fumbled in the dark and found pleasure.Also laughed a lot.For me, to really let go with someone, I need to be comfortable with them and that rarely happens with a one night stand.
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RHP User
13 years ago
In answer to your question..... Yes I did find it once...when, as is always the case, I wasnt looking...and I didnt find "it" till I was in my forties...and once found it was fantastic and once lost it was devastating...and no I didnt find it off this site or any other site for that matter...a bizarre chance encounter in real life...seconds that changed and altered my lifes journey forever Everything begins and ends at exactly the rite time and place No Im not seeking it again....it cant be found twice.........whatever comes my way now will just be different - just as pleasurable perhaps but it will be different and I will never let it become so encompassing and dominating of my life again For those still searching or fumbling I say to you you may never find it..but do not give up hope ever..and enjoy the pleasurable journey along the way.............for those who share the same story as me........we are lucky to have found it once...hold tight to those memories but put them away where they belong in the memory box - to be withdrawn and examined every so often perhaps .......but do not compare your memory with your reality of now.. ...........and be brave - seek again but be realistic that it truely does exist its just that its not the same ...and in that rare case ..it may even be better !!! :).......carpe diem
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thanks Ruby, I am interested to know how people have reacted ..how about the people who wanted to be submitted and then did experience it ..was it what they had hoped for ? Power is an interesting branch off..we can meet people in normal life who are quite dominate..but then you have great sex with them or show them something new and the power shifts.. Is it weird this is making me horny !! Me bad ..
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't like the word submitted or that I am submitting. Gets my back up hearing someone say it yet I do want to be dominated. Figure that one out! I want to meet a dominant woman and have her make me do all sorts of things. Not going to say what. I haven't found it yet. :P
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thanks for the openess Meeks..Ummm so my admission..if iwere in a MMF session..would i touch the other guy ?? in the moment i probably would do ....
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RHP User
13 years ago
became a nun,and for many years was celibate.Why? I had immersed myself in a spiritual journey and I put other peoples needs ahead of my own.It was also a good excuse to not have to ask myself questions about my sexuality.Three years ago I decided to change my life,to actually physically ,sexually engage with other people,not just myself. It still scares me sometimes and confounds me a lot. Some days I am braver than others but I have learnt an enormous amount about myself and I have met some great people,...still exploring,still journeying.....literally...Sydney with Tuscan in just 6 days...woo hooox R
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RHP User
13 years ago
i am past a bottle of wine, this isn't an easy one... i think i need to think about it some more... I am still hung up on a recent comment regarding how females are like spagetti diagrams in having their needs and wants linked, my mind feels a little like spagetti ATM! Yes, good question, i hope to have answers for myself 2morrow...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'I don't like the word submitted or that I am submitting. Gets my back up hearing someone say it yet I do want to be dominated. Figure that one out! I want to meet a dominant woman and have her make me do all sorts of things. Not going to say what. I haven't found it yet. :P No brainer baby (P.S. pack your strap on and other toys) xx Those movies are just the start
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RHP User
13 years ago
but im ready to try new things with the right girl im thinking meeka100 could teach me a thing or two maybe i should go back and change my age range
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RHP User
13 years ago
Fucken hell Freya... And you to come on RHP!!! Good on you. Are you ready for Sydney??? Cripes. Lol.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm fumbling, not so much by choice but because im really not sure what I want, and more importantly I have no idea if I'd want the same thing "in the moment" the Dom thing I posted the other week is a perfect example, where i was asked to be rougher than I've ever been and while it was great at the time, I freaked out a bit afterwards because I never knew that side of me existed. Meeka meeka meeka, you never fail to get the naughty wheels turning in my mind lol.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes Mistress or do you prefer Mummy. PMSL. Take me Mistress I am on my hands and knees, ass in the air, do your worst. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hmm. Submissive or dominant? I am dominant when it comes to writing on here or stating in chats what I want…hahah and then when it comes to the actually sex I want to be taken…my the pussy cat...hahah I think as a female its in us to feel that way. We jiggle all the right bits, portray a wench and then we are like pussycats in bed…..however as some women stated it’s so different with each one your encounters, I don’t like to answer questions on what do you do. Fuck me, I just think of one of the boys from here, oh I should say man, instilled this touching feeling in me. I would have locked him in and never let him go, just because he has such incredible eyes, I couldn’t stop kissing him and touching him, call me nuts I had to hold his hand. Haaaa I most likely scared him to death. I believe when you just let go of everything and follow your inner “swine” you come up with stuff which are unthinkable in the before. That’s what happens to me. I am also fighting myself to not get taken in by all this young men who knock on my door and wanting to lick you. I am fighting very hard to say NOOOO go away. But then as I say my inner” swine” as I call her is tempted.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' Hmm. Submissive or dominant? I am dominant when it comes to writing on here or stating in chats what I want…hahah and then when it comes to the actually sex I want to be taken…my the pussy cat...hahah I think as a female its in us to feel that way. We jiggle all the right bits, portray a wench and then we are like pussycats in bed…..however as some women stated it’s so different with each one your encounters, I don’t like to answer questions on what do you do. Fuck me, I just think of one of the boys from here, oh I should say man, instilled this touching feeling in me. I would have locked him in and never let him go, just because he has such incredible eyes, I couldn’t stop kissing him and touching him, call me nuts I had to hold his hand. Haaaa I most likely scared him to death. I believe when you just let go of everything and follow your inner “swine” you come up with stuff which are unthinkable in the before. That’s what happens to me. I am also fighting myself to not get taken in by all this young men who knock on my door and wanting to lick you. I am fighting very hard to say NOOOO go away. But then as I say my inner” swine” as I call her is tempted. Errr i have never thought to coin the term using those words in particular, but hey i think it works! You are bang on with definition as it stands for me AHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAA oink oink SNORT!!!! too funny
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Yes Mistress or do you prefer Mummy. PMSL. Take me Mistress I am on my hands and knees, ass in the air, do your worst. :) Meeka!!!! I am likely to wip out a wet wipe and wipe your bum clean if you call me mummy, then give you some warm milk, put you to bed, read you a story and pat your bum until you are sound asleep Mistress Boobs is now is worried, how her sub could end up gaining control of the situation and freak mummy out... Never under estimate a Meek sub . . .
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RHP User
13 years ago
never quite got the habit,just the habit of celibacy....but no more,broke that habit....and the question is ta da...is Sydney ready for the Tuscan and Freya Cultural tourx R
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RHP User
13 years ago
Early on in my life I figured out by accident that I enjoyed certain acts, I also figured out that by nature I wasnt a fauthful person, slowly I began a journey of self discovery. It took me 10 years of this journey to find someone I was comfortable enough with to talk about some of my darker, deeper fantasies, a further 3 months of chatting about them, me and him to allow myself the opportunity to explore some of these and then another 12 months before I could confess everything to this person. Now 13 years on from my initial discovery about myself I have revaluated my intiial thoughts. 1. Yes I still do enjoy those acts (and more) however I need absolute trust in someone before I can submit myself and my body to them (sorry Meeka but I have no problem with that word as to me thats exactly what Im doing - submitting my entire being to them) 2. I can not be faithful to someone who is weaker than me (obviously this has been what my previous long term partners have been). I need a strong person, someone sexually dominant, who knows how to handle me. Now I know I havent explained this concept properly - its tough to articulate, however rest assured I will know that person if I meet them. To answer your question Taipan, I do feel most people are fumbling in the dark when it comes to their own pleasaures because for many of people on here they are at the beginning of their discovery or are taking their time about it or have not been as lucky as I to find someone with which they can experience things or any other number of reasons. But the bbiggest thing in my opinion is that many people do not know what it is they are seekinng and are indeed looking blind. Without direction how can one know in which direction their journey should take? Kisses Focus
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RHP User
13 years ago
and I personally am not adverse to a little fumbling in the dark on occassions. I did most of my experimenting when much younger...during the late seventies and early eighties I was experimenting with most of the so called kinks that you are all busting to try now so I did not join with any expectations in that department. After 20 years in a monogamous relationship I was only looking for recreational sex and for the first three years of playing, I found more recreational sex than one woman needs. Thanks Guys!!!!
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