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Bad Boys vs Nice Guys
January 17 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
And i choose bad.....The bad boy turned out to be a very bad boy indeed (read cheating bastard) but there was a lot more passion/conflict/sexual tension/lust/drama that kept things interesting. And he introduced me to a number of vices which I rather enjoy :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
...but often women want the excitement and challenge of taming a bad boy. Hehehe, boy, don't they get disappointed.
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RHP User
13 years ago
BAD GUYS = Players ... NICE GUYS = wants to be a bad guy!!!!! Hands down I'll just take neither...WORD OF ADVICE...Don't be a nice guy pretending to be a bad boy....That's the worst of the highly unattractive thing you could do (lower your morals) YUCK major turn off!!! Just be yourself...sounds to me all you need is confidence.
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RHP User
13 years ago
And each was with a bad boy I loved them, married them, partnered them, swung with them, lived with them, supported them, cursed them, adored them, worshipped them, admired them and sacrificed much for them Yes each of them brought me joy in many ways but sadly the pain, anguish, betrayal, heartache and tears is what I will most remember them for.....their legacy is written on my face... So give me a nice guy over a bad boy anyday..............and yes he could even be on this site....... 7 billion people in the world.. .....half of them of the male species................ ..so WTF is he ? The Quest rolls on !!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Boys are toys good or bad Men are a whole different kettle of fish
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred'Boys are toys good or bad Men are a whole different kettle of fishAnother TR classic! You know I adore your bumper-sticker soundbites. I could seriously see you making a fortune slapping this phrase on a mug.I agree with DG - it's not a magic persona that attracts or repulses. There are certain behaviours, beliefs and values that are appealing in what we imagine when we think of both 'nice guys' and 'bad boys', as there are turn-offs. Good things we think of:Nice guys are dependable, trustworthy, loyal, sociableBad boys are impulsive, self-assured, don't seek approval, thrillingNegative things:Nice guys are clingy, desperate for approval, boringBad boys are antisocial, emotionally vacant, manipulativeCliches and stereotypes of course, but without even intending to do it you'll notice that the "good thing" with the nice guy has a corollary with a "negative thing" of the bad boy, and vice versa. It's a question of finding the balance, and emulating the good qualities, while limiting the negative ones. You won't just be more attractive to the opposite sex, you'll be a better human being. The attractive part is an added bonus.Trying to be a 'bad boy' when you're not sounds disastrous, and I think will only make you miserable when a) it doesn't work and b) you feel like a jerk.
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Phantom16
13 years ago
being bad is good in the proper manner.making a woman feel sexy and being able to do the right things when it counts.positively bad is what i aim for,negatively turns peopel away.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm with DG. Did you know that you can be both???
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RHP User
13 years ago
I was a Fallen Angel for a very long time but now my wings are growing back ... ;)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
can someone verify what a bad boy is..is it the rough macho type guy who's always getting in a fight ,having the im god attitude treating females like shit or are you just talking about being a devil in bed..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFox' BAD GUYS = Players ... NICE GUYS = wants to be a bad guy!!!!! Hands down I'll just take neither...WORD OF ADVICE...Don't be a nice guy pretending to be a bad boy....That's the worst of the highly unattractive thing you could do (lower your morals) YUCK major turn off!!! Just be yourself...sounds to me all you need is confidence. This!!! There is actually a fair bit of literature around on the web and in more academic publications on the whole 'nice guy' concept and why a lot of the guys that proclaim themselves to be 'nice' are actually far from it (I am in no way saying that is the case with you OP). You would not believe the number of profiles on dating and sex sites by guys who whinge and complain about how 'nice' they are, but still no girl will sleep with them and therefore all females are shallow bitches who only want assholes who abuse them blah blah blah. When you go a bit deeper into it, you find that a lot of these men actually hold some very disturbing views about women, e.g. that if a woman says 'no' to sex, that actually means 'maybe', and that if a girl is passed out drunk then it's ok to have sex with her, really shitty stuff that means they are not 'nice' at all, they are just using that term to try and guilt women into sleeping with them / going out with them. I know what I've described above would not apply to you OP (well I don't actually know you but I'm going to make the assumption here that it wouldn't), but really the whole 'nice vs bad guy' thing is ridiculous. A guy can have the desirable qualities of both!! And I think Superfox is exactly right and all you need is a bit more confidence. Don't try and be a 'bad' boy, trust me you won't be comfortable with it and in the end you won't attract the type of women that you actually want.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I prefer a good guy - which is a mixture of bad and nice! Pusscat xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
they demand too much attention,their egos are actually quite fragile.Give me an interesting man who has emotional intelligence rather than arrogance and who gives a damn
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'll have a nice, real man any day (or everyday ...)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Simple as that! People can see through fakes easily- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
will play with bad boyz ,but will never made them as my partner/boyfriend...it doesnt matter how good looking he is, with his perfect torso, will only have nice boy as my boyfriend and indeed in the past all when ended the relationship always amicable, and i will put down to my choices of men that, made all the diffrence, no drama, or hate...thank god .
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'paintme' I'll have a nice, real man any day (or everyday ...) ...to do a pre-flight*
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'cheeky3170'Simple as that! People can see through fakes easily- Posted from rhpmobile i am what i am. good,bad and indifferent and all situation dependant. but am always mindful, polite,respectful and loyal to a fault. no labelling of good or bad. simply a man's man
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Manly_McHardon' Quoting 'paintme' I'll have a nice, real man any day (or everyday ...) ...to do a pre-flight* I want the 'wing-over' ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'paintme' Quoting 'Manly_McHardon' Quoting 'paintme' I'll have a nice, real man any day (or everyday ...) ...to do a pre-flight* I want the 'wing-over' ... a lomcevak?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have found a nice guy with an oh so hot bad boy streak! Best of both worlds....and I'm not sharing...lol SFxx
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MsBunny
13 years ago
Nice any day!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I presume by "bad boy" you mean that kind of arsehole that treats a woman like shit? Pass on that. Agree with everyone else about just being yourself, but dont be frightened to allow yourself to grow into the most beautiful, kind, loving, giving person that you really dream of being. Like attracts like. If you put it out there that you want to be cruel you will only attract an unpleasant woman that will hurt you. I shared 11.5 years everyday of my life (& 3children) with a "good" guy and had previously only been with the "bad" ones (for much shorter periods).....believe me, it is far more desirable to be with someone who adores and respects you than being treated like a filthy object. And it was more a reflection of the level of respect i held for myself. I know how i want to be treated, no matter how brief the encounter, and i know how i deserve to be treated. If you approached me with a "bad" boy attitude i'd be asking you to quickly move aside. Hope this helps :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've always been a sucker for a bad boy, with a heart of gold:p admittedly very hard to find but is alot of fun:D- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Phantom16' being bad is good in the proper manner.making a woman feel sexy and being able to do the right things when it counts.positively bad is what i aim for,negatively turns peopel away. That's the kind of bad boy I like!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Every time someone tries to label someone as "gay", "bi", "striaght", "cheater", etc. people on this forum consistantly say "Why label it? If it feels right for you, go with it" Where is the difference? Nice guy, bad boy are just another label. If you can find someone that perfectly fits one of these catagories, you've found an exceptional person. The same as "good girl" verses "naughty girl" We are complexed creatures. Good and bad are just concepts pushed upon us by society. Sure, you can be treated badly by someone but they are working their own needs. Does that make them bad?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Any where coz they have the time for it - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think what you are saying is that the behaviour is not the person.Sometimes we all behave badly if we are meeting our needs.I also thnk that everybodys definition of what constitutes a ''bad boy'' or a ''nice man'' is slightly different. However I also think that there are some very narcissistic people,male and female who totally disregard the feelings of others and consistently behave badly to only get their needs met,regardless.It is not always easy to spot them either because they can be extremely charming and can initially seem to care but in reality they are just extremely good at playing a game. Intersesting that we use the term''bad'' coupled with ''boy'',speaks volumes to me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
No reason why a nice guy can't be extremely sexy. Confidence and respect go a long way. Be yourself. Believe in who you are. Trust your instincts! Treat women the way they want to be treated. Feel good in your own skin and women will find you irrestible.
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