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BODY LANGUAGE... and how do you read it

February 06 2013

Do you have it down pat? Or do you just make your own assumptions? Through Dieselnoi's posting 'old school' and a couple of others, it has ocurred to me that perhaps it is time to brush up on our body language reading skills... Yes, back to school. No no wait, please just hang in there, this will be a little more useful to most than algebra. So do you find yourself subconciously making these moves? Are there others that you do when around an attractive member of the opposite sex? Apparently all these things are done on a subconcious level, take note next time you meet someone and feel attracted... what happens? Okay some common body language that women display when interested: -Tossing, flicking or playing with hair. -Fiddling with a phallic shaped object (pen, stem of a wine glass etc). -Unconciously touching themselves (stroking her neck, throat or thigh). -Pointing their knees (when you see a woman sitting with one knee tucked up beneath her the knee pointing outwards is usually directed at the object of interest). -Face on display (a woman trying to attract a mans attention with elbows resting on a surface will place one hand on top of the other then place her chin on her hands and face directly to him as if offering for admiration, also showing him he has her full attention). Now, if I am on the money, we women are pretty intuitive when it comes to knowing a man is interested, but we'll throw them in anyway, common displays from interested men: -Protruding thumbs (a man will display these alot in front or back pockets, they represent trength of character and ego). -Displaying their crotch (putting his maculinity on show, both feet firmly planted on the ground legs apart displaying the goods). -Fingers point to what he wants you to notice(thumbs hooked in belt or tops of pockets to frame the 'goods area'. -When men try hard (to loook good, tousling of hair, fiddling with tie, brushing imaginary lint from shoulder). -When men take up space (hands on hips to occupy as much space as possible NOTICE ME!! he may even rock back and forth on soles of his feet as if making love in the standing position).

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RHP User

13 years ago

I know that if someone is interested in another in a group that their torso will be square on to that person. The eyes are imortant too. They will indicate where a person's interest is focused and whether a smile is genuine or affected.

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RHP User

13 years ago

I also find this topic interesting. I realise if I am very attracted to a person I am with or I am thinking about sex, I subconsciously trial my fingers up and down my glass, not wanking it per se... But you know. ;-) Reminds me of a good Allan Pease book that I read. :) - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

13 years ago

I don't claim to be an expert in many things except probably sport....but this area comes naturally to me. The topic is so massive it would be impossible to put it all down here. The key is the subconscious behaviour as it's the mind and bodies natural engine. I mentioned in another thread that 'women can't fake it' when it comes to body language. It makes me laugh when i watch women in action when an attractive guy is around. There are two things in general that i've always disagreed on with many people...one is that women are more intuitive because of child bearing. Just my opinion but i think men are on equal ground. If you go back to the hunter and gathering era men had to have finely tuned anticipation and prediction skills. That goes a long way with regard to intuition. The other is the big notion in society that men are all visual or the visual ones. Again, just my opinion but i think women are 10 times more visual and shallow in everything in life than what men are. I also explained that in another blog which would be to long to redo here. Good topic it's unfortunate that most people would probably need 20 pages to write everything down.

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RHP User

13 years ago

But then realised I do it even when I'm having a vino with the ladies... not sure what this says about me... and my attraction to wineglasses. I do know that my posture is more pronounced when in the presence of sexiness, I will automatically stand straight, shooulders back, breasts thrust forward.

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RHP User

13 years ago

this is maybe true in most circumstances BUT to assume that it applies to all people in all situations is flawed.If a person is shy for instance the assumption that can be made is that they have no interest when the opposite might be true. Intuition is based on the receiving of information,the gut instinct is the same,and yes we are subconciously filtering that information,but first impressions are not always accurate. This is an inexact science so while in most circumstances you might be on the money there are many variables IMO.

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RHP User

13 years ago

I had a discussion with a friend recently before I'd actually met her that I'm terrible at reading body language, when I did meet her I straight away noticed the flirty way she brushed her hair back out of her eyes and the sidelong glances she was making at me, so maybe I do notice more than I think. After working in sales for a long time I've learnt a lot about body language in that regards, ie mirroring what the other person does and says, holding eye contact, not touching your nose as quite often when someone is lying they will subconsciously do it. As far as telling when a person is interested in me I still don't think I have a clue.

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13 years ago

notice Tony Abbott at the box in parliament when he is addressing Julia? He does the hands on hips thingy....swaying... Maybe we could get them in flagrante..Tony doing her doggy style ... Make lurve not war, no-one ever got killed by a clit.... Mike

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