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BDSM - no need to be scared!!!
November 27 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
A lot of people are afraid of the unknown.I am jealous that you get to play 24/7
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RHP User
16 years ago
Ritzy, sorry to disapoint, but when people live the lifestyle, they do not "Play" 24/7. It is more a mindset, and lifestyle choice. While we are on the subject, there are a lot of couples out there, who are living the lifestyle, to some degree, and not even know it!On topic, would really like to know what constitutes your level of involvement BDM247? We love all it has to offer behind closed doors, however due to us being part of a family, we have to keep it behind those doors.Is this your first time collared? and do you wear it with pride in public?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sorry, I realise play was a poor choice of words
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RHP User
16 years ago
People have so many misconceptions about BDSM that I don't even know where to start lol :P Most common ones? * It's abuse! No, BBSM is NOT abuse. Nothing is forced. It's consensual. BDSM is about choice and requires lots of trust and understanding. *Dominants are "evil and mean" and submissives are "weak"! Also untrue. Dominants highly value their submissives and respect them. A weak submissive is pretty boring to dominate. *It hurts! Erotic pain is a life-time away from "normal" pain... absolutely no comparison. *It has to be 24/7! This depends on the people involved. BDSM role-play and power exchange relationships can be anything you want them to be. A fun game for a few hours all the way through to a 24/7 lifestyle choice. Again, it's all about choice. *The Dominant does whatever he wants with no thought to the submissive. It puts the submissive at risk! No, limits are negotiated in advance. Safe, sane and consensual means that no one is obligated to do anything they don't want to. If a Dominant doesn't respect a submissive's limits, the submissive should immediately revoke their consent. BDSM is an endlessly fascinating subject and I've been lucky to have an exceptional teacher. For me, submission is tremendously liberating but I understand that it is certainly not for everyone! :P LOL
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RHP User
16 years ago
Good on you both, we're envious that you can be so liberated and open. Great to see.Looks like we could also pick up some rope tips from you... ;)
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twowithnolimits
16 years ago
it doesnt have to be 24/7 but it sure the better way to go..and in our experience you dont have to be anywhere near as discrete as many think..... shows like Californication have helped make BDSM mainstream play...P&n
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RHP User
16 years ago
I am going to Abode tonight for the BDSM night followe by dance...and I am not scared...I like to watch. And dance. Mars
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RHP User
16 years ago
we totally understand as we are a switching bdsm couple stongly in to our edge play many couples think thats a little to kinky for them but we are sure the dont fully understand the fine line between pleasue and pain a few couples like to watch but rearly join in once they see the blood or burns on my mans back !!! were not realy that twisted??? are we???
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RHP User
16 years ago
We have some fetish dressed pics in our PG you would not beleave the amount of people who say the look scary and are put off by them.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sophie has hit it on the head... I also believe there are too many miscinceptions out there. I would expect that there are also people who do not respect the environment of bdsm play and scare people aware through inexperience or disregard. Good Luck in finding what you are after.
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RHP User
16 years ago
There probably are a lot of misconceptions out there, but it never ceases to amaze me the number of people who I come across who would expect that sort of thing on first play. I would have thought that you would really need to get to know someone and build up a lot of trust. And let us all remember that it is different strokes for different folks and not everyone is going to enjoy everything no matter what. For me, it is something I simply dont want to do and i have tried going down that road with experienced people that i do trust, but it just is not me.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yes, desserts, I completely agree... I think BDSM is a bit like liking artichokes or anchovies or being bi (or gay, I suppose, but I hesitate to include that because I have no direct experience)... it's either in you from birth (even if you don't realize it for years and years or ever) or it just isn't... no point forcing it... I realized fairly early that I liked being submissive in bed and that I liked girls... and that I like submissive girls ;) .... but I'd never presume to think that these are paths for everyone!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
You got me at the liking submissive girls ;) Lol. I certainly would not be threatened or scared of playing with a couple that lived a BDSM lifestyle. If anything I would be curious, I would also not pressume that because you live this lifestyle with each other that you expect all your playmates to swing that way. I am dying for the chance to have Andy and another woman dominate me together. I think I would like the opportunity to dominate a woman also...willing to try it and see how I like it. My perception of the lifestyle?.....consenting adults living a lifestyle they both enjoy and benefit from as a couple and as individuals. xx Sal
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RHP User
16 years ago
You would look really cute in the black togs with crutchless and arseless short shorts.... and heels so high you need a walking frame. I forgot to mention boobies decorated in rainbow coloured candle wax. Pity you can't sit down owing to the many play piercings in your pin cushion backside. But by golly that would be a turn on...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thanks everyone. That was so interesting. I understand what people are saying and we have tried to explain on our profile that we are not expecting BDSM play meets and are happy to take it as it comes (suprisingly alot of males asking if they can play on first meet???) I am so happy to hear that people do not seem to think that we are blood thirsty vampires who will kill you the second you close your eyes or who will tie you up without your consent.. lol. and i am genuinley suprised by the amount of positive responses (was expecting a verbal flogging lol) would love to keep hearing peoples personal experiences and posibly learn from any practising couples or singles as we are always very eager to learn further skills/training ideas. so if you have had any sort of BDSM experience/s or have any words of wisdom please let me hear them Thanking you again ember, Property of Master Julian xox
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RHP User
16 years ago
BDSM toics are becoming more and more common in the forums which is a good thing to see..... Also great to see a young couple into it early on....man I missed out on 15 years of play, denying it to Myself.... I agree that you are probably born this way....or inclined this way at least......so you are very fortunate when you find a partner who fits you like a glove.... Equally I understand people whom are put off by the idea - after all it's knot everyone's cup of tea....live and let live.....we're all different which is what makes the world a wonderful place....cultural diversity and sexual diversity.....to be celebrated if not fully understood.... So BDSM247.....go you good thing !! BadDogism Xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Having said all that....do you roleplay ? I would be interested in knowing what scenarios turn you on....roleplay is an area I am experienced in....contact Me if you want some ideas ! lol Dog Xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
thanks badbaddog.. always looking for ideas.. swing some my way please and i can ask Master if he will indulge me a little lol. we haven't had much role play recently we have been focusing on my slave training mostly .. but i would love to hear some ideas Thanks ember. Property of Master Julian xox
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RHP User
16 years ago
That sounds absolutely dreadful and if you knew me you would know it just aint me. The last time I tried anything remotely down that road, I just burst into tears and left the room, so we wont do anything like that again!!!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'bdsm247' Thanks everyone. That was so interesting. I understand what people are saying and we have tried to explain on our profile that we are not expecting BDSM play meets and are happy to take it as it comes (suprisingly alot of males asking if they can play on first meet???) I am so happy to hear that people do not seem to think that we are blood thirsty vampires who will kill you the second you close your eyes or who will tie you up without your consent.. lol. and i am genuinley suprised by the amount of positive responses (was expecting a verbal flogging lol) would love to keep hearing peoples personal experiences and posibly learn from any practising couples or singles as we are always very eager to learn further skills/training ideas. so if you have had any sort of BDSM experience/s or have any words of wisdom please let me hear them Thanking you again ember, Property of Master Julian xox Agree with badbaddog really great to see you guys get out , loud and proud, and your so willing to take suggestions into your BDSM world. Nice guys, nice! We too anticipated a verbal flogging for you! But the divine world of RHPers (who will never stop amazing me with thier generousity of spirit ) gave you pretty much a thumbs up. Sophie ....... our submissive little lovely (she is little and she is lovely) you are the thinking Doms sub! mwah!!! Julian and Ember listen to Miss Soph and listen closely! She has seriously got it together! Take care , love and peace to all sexy swingers Brae (or Mr Lucky , or Mr looking , or whoever I am tonite!!!) (Oh shit did I mention Gaz ??? I kinda just feel I have to .... ok its done now! MWAH to the sexy boy!)
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think for straight people BDSM is very hard to understand especially for people who may fear for their personal safety.For those that find it too confronting Secondlife has a very active community that lets you into the mind games of domination and submission - so much so that now real events are definitely on my list - as soon as I can convince Mrs SR to join me (the hard part).RegardsMr. SR.
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