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BBW and other Terms!
September 26 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
I was talking to my 13yo the other day, Fionabee, and she told me I wasn't fat, that I was 'proportional', not sure I like the term, but her 14yo friend agreed. Is that a crappy word, or what? Anyhow, I am now considered proportional, though not sure if that is the case when my tops and dresses need to be two sizes bigger than my jeans.... I would prefer Rubenesque, and think I would have had a lot of fun with Rubens had I been around in his day (though the models he used didn't generally have large chests)...hmmm, wonder if I was in a past life... xxJ (musing about past lives and bonking Rubens).
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RHP User
15 years ago
excuse my ignorance but what does BBW stand for is it big breasted women, big butted women , or blood big women?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stemor'excuse my ignorance but what does BBW stand for is it big breasted women, big butted women , or blood big women? I thought it was a term that everyone used these days. It stands for Big Beautiful Woman. Fionabee
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RHP User
15 years ago
interesting post as always fionabee - i'm by no means an overly large woman but i've got curves in all the right places and have been told i resemble a voluptuous greek goddess... womanly hips etc etc. I kinda like the idea that historically women who had figures like my own were a artists' wet dream. I often feel BBW - is just a silly catch phrase when nothing else creative will do. It also makes me think of morbidly obese ladies rather who are better described as buxom, curvaceous or voluptuous. Hmmm - ponders about being called or described as a 'Venus curved chocolate muse' yes i think that will do nicely!
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RHP User
15 years ago
big beautiful women , i love it
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RHP User
15 years ago
As a childless woman (by choice) in my early thirties I hate the following: MILF - tell why do women have to be a mother to be attractive? Yummymummy (accept of course the lovely lady on here who goes by a similar handle) - see reason above ...and I am sure as he day goes on I will find more to complain about.... However why do we need to have these labels in the first place???? Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree entirely and by that definition I would then be a GILF as I have one or two grandkiddies stached away. Dont think I like the sound of GILF. Isnt that akin to what fish breathe out of? Fionabee.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Im not a fan of the term myself although i use it out of convenience being that most people know what a bbw is but not everyone knows of ruben the problem i have is when women who are not big but have a few curves use this term it confuses it for everyone but i still prefer bbw to fat!!! Lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
yeh yeh I get what BBW means but got to wonder what it is for men is it BBM ???? BIG BAD MAN ?? and the MILF one yeh well if they are a mother then it just means they have put out before ha ha So are the terms for just women and not for men ???? help me out ladies please ........... and in the case of the people on here its more like yummie ,,hot ,,, and wow,,,,,, Andy XXX
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'll jump on this topic like a fat kid eating a cup cake lolUm.... In my opinion, the term "BBW" isn't offensive to me, either is "Fat chick". I'm not going to sugar coat the fact i'm larger than the "average" size (14 - 16). I understand that some don't like being referred to as a "BBW" or "fat chick"I do love sensual terms such as "voluptuous" or "rubenesque" when describing figures. And how cute is "pocket Venus"!Thing is though, a size, lets say 10... could describe her figure as being voluptuous or rubenesque ... I wont insert a fat chick / love your body or else diatribe here - BUT i will say... variety is the spice of life!Anyone up for cake?
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RHP User
15 years ago
My ex was a BBW she was a size 20, 130 kgs when we met and and at the time i thought she was the best thing going, alas it wasnt to last, have always been a fan of a lady with curves :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Im very much a person who is keen on rubenesque woman, a sexy woman can be curvy and voluptuous (love that one, just oozes sex). I remember working with a young woman with a great curvy body who was tall. I told her she was my idea of an amazonian princess, she just loved being called that, she went from meek and mild to loud and proud. BBW should go, there are terms that truely explain what a woman is and can be empowering. I find confident voluptuous women hard to resist.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Human nature, Focus Everything has to be categorically categorized and labelled and duly filed !Cheers Nev.....Category Miscellaneous.....file in round file!.....lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
I personally object to both the terms fat and chick. Is there something wrong with "larger woman"., or maybe "Bigger lass", posssibly "generous sized" and there is always the tongue in cheek one of "healthy" But I will never tolerate FAT CHICK! It is just insulting. According to all the statistics size 14 - 16 is an average size for an Australian woman so how can you then say you are a larger lass? Fionabee
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RHP User
15 years ago
Nev baby I dont get the need to catergorise everything...if I want to put a square peg in a round hole why cant I?? If I dont know at what stage of a relationship I am at hell what kind of a relationship I am having why do I have to justify just so others feel comfortable?..I dont see myself as a MILF (please see previous post) or a Sub just Focus with her desires her wants her needs why label it at all??? Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ah use terms you're comfortable with?If you don't like using BBW or fat chick, don't? I'm comfortable with the terms...I don't think there is anything wrong with "larger woman" or "bigger lass", again whatever the individual is comfortable using. I don't understand, " According to all the statistics size 14 - 16 is an average size for an Australian woman so how can you then say you are a larger lass?" ... Please explain?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Um.... In my opinion, the term "BBW" isn't offensive to me, either is "Fat chick". I'm not going to sugar coat the fact i'm larger than the "average" size (14 - 16). I understand that some don't like being referred to as a "BBW" or "fat chick"Rainbow I think Fionabee may have read the above statement as referring to yourself as 14-16 not that that is the avaerage size.... Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
it just isnt the ladies getting hit with these terms either ,,,,,,,us blokes have to put up with having them too ???????? ok so I can think of any bad ones righ tnow but we do get labled ............. Andy xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
ILUVTOSMILE, which part of your proportional, rubenesque, voluptous amzonian body would you like to share with me? Seriously. What is aBBW anyway. At what size do you qualify? I have never quite fathomed why a woman would call herself aBBW. I always believed it to be big beatiful woman but have heard so many other connotations of the term that it begins to sound derogatory. The womans body is the womans body, it is the outerskin of the toal package. Lets face it once you get over the exterior its on the inside when the goodies are. A well dressed (lets say ) fuller figured woman can turn you me on as she waltzes by just as much as a scantilly clad waif. AGHH, just my thoughts.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Labels help us identify! rightly or wrongly! Look at that rock.....is it Sedimentary, or Igneous or Metamorphic......No i am not calling you a rock...loland i can hear the girls saying who cares just give me the one that Diamonds come from....lolor for the girls Look at that handbag......Kmart ( not so good), Louis Vuitton.....(excellent)for the guys Kmart (good), Louis Vuitton .......(do you really need such an expensive handbag)OrIf you were into Bdsm play...not much good if you were a top and kept hooking up with another top, when you wanted a switch or subby....ohh no, more labels.....heheheI mean sure you could still get to the information eventually but classification and labels are supposed to make it simpler to identify characteristics without playing twenty questions.Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'NevandKj' Labels help us identify! rightly or wrongly! Look at that rock.....is it Sedimentary, or Igneous or Metamorphic......No i am not calling you a rock...lol and i can hear the girls saying who cares just give me the one that Diamonds come from....lol or for the girls Look at that handbag......Kmart ( not so good), Louis Vuitton.....(excellent) for the guys Kmart (good), Louis Vuitton .......(do you really need such an expensive handbag) Or If you were into Bdsm play...not much good if you were a top and kept hooking up with another top, when you wanted a switch or subby....ohh no, more labels.....hehehe I mean sure you could still get to the information eventually but classification and labels are supposed to make it simpler to identify characteristics without playing twenty questions. Cheers Nev I think you have hit it right there!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'NevandKj' Labels help us identify! rightly or wrongly! Look at that rock.....is it Sedimentary, or Igneous or Metamorphic......No i am not calling you a rock...lol and i can hear the girls saying who cares just give me the one that Diamonds come from....lol or for the girls Look at that handbag......Kmart ( not so good), Louis Vuitton.....(excellent) for the guys Kmart (good), Louis Vuitton .......(do you really need such an expensive handbag) Or If you were into Bdsm play...not much good if you were a top and kept hooking up with another top, when you wanted a switch or subby....ohh no, more labels.....hehehe I mean sure you could still get to the information eventually but classification and labels are supposed to make it simpler to identify characteristics without playing twenty questions. Cheers Nev I think you have hit it right there!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
But they are not labels, all you have mentioned above are nouns or brandnames or Registered business names. I have a name. Why should others then hang such a derogatory "term" on another person? And it is also beyond me why a woman would refer to herself as such. If I call myself a "fat chick" then it makes it okay for others to call me the same and that becomes soul destroying. Fionabee
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RHP User
15 years ago
Like it or not, they still convey meaning and identity, ( and isn't that exactly the point of Trademarks/label....in that they seek to classify abd identify themselves a certain way) therefore they classify and label in my opinion. I agree its a less than nice category to be placed in, though i am not quite seeing your point, other than some classifications are kinder to the soul than others.Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sweetheart...I dont actually look at brand names either - if I like something I dont care where it has come from...and when it comes to sexual likes and desires why do we need to use labels??? Why cant we just discuss with prospective partners what we are into instead of labelling ourselves as something...just because I enjoy certain aspects of BDSM doesnt mean that someone else does...a 'Top" as you have so eloquently termed it isnt always going to be into something a 'sub' is..and just because the 'top' is supposedly the more dominant in the situation if the sub doesnt like to do something it just isnt happening but one only learns the limitations through discussion...I am not going to allow or like you calling me a sub unless we have discussed previously my likes and dislikes and we have actually met...sure many are going to do so but I am not going to like it...and where other labels are concerned I am not a Mother so why do I get to fit into the MILF 'catergory', allowing yourself to be labelled as a BBW or a fat chick to myself and Fionabee means you are allowing people to see yourself in a derogatory light - by accepting these labels or tags being attached to your personality, likes, desires, name is giving people the right to see you in how they inetrepret them not necessarily in who you actually are...they allow people to use preconceived notions on what your personality traits are like and thus make judgments on you through their own misonceptions rather than through knowledge of who you are... Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
I knew you would be sweety! I love that about you....you are no ones yes woman.Ok...So just because you don't look at brand names doesn't mean that they are not valid.....just not to you, i reckon plenty of people do. Why....because they identify with it.Everyone uses Categories and pigeon holing in their day to day life, even you, without even thinking about it.As for labelling sexual likes and dislikes, surely this is a quicker if not broad brushed means of narrowing down the search and identifying a potential playmate?For sure i agree there are lots of subtleties or sub categories. let me put it this way if i can, say you had a hankering for a dark skinned gentleman with a twelve inch dick, now would you search though all the profiles and discuss each mans dick size and skin colour or seach by category ( if such a search category exists ) to reduce the leg work? then discuss/negotiate the finer points with each man in that category.Also what about the guys who love BBW's ( sorry Fee ) might they like to use that category to narrow down there search.Focus I would never be so presumptious as to call you a sub, and i would never use the word BBW in a derogoratory fashion, but as you pointed out plenty would.Just as Categories and Labels exist and always will, unfortunately like many other things they will be incorrectly used, and that is something we have little control over.Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
quoting andreweagleyeh yeh I get what BBW means but got to wonder what it is for men is it BBM ???? BIG BAD MAN ?? and the MILF one yeh well if they are a mother then it just means they have put out before ha ha So are the terms for just women and not for men ???? Andy as BBW is for women BHM is for men (big handsome man)hope it helps now turn around and gimme a hug
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RHP User
15 years ago
Fionabee:I think you're forgetting the IF YOU ARE COMFORTABLE WITH THE TERM / NAME / BRAND / CLASSIFICATION...use it, if not don't. It's really that simple. No malice was meant my previous posts. I understand that a lot of women would never refer to themselves as a "fat chick" and are COMFORTABLE with using other nouns and adjectives to describe their figure. I think that's great! Once again, whatever the individual is comfortable with. Just for the record I never said that I call other women "fat chicks".I agree with nevandkj, " some classifications are kinder to the soul than others" Indeed they are... So should we scrap the word "fat" from the English language so no one is offend?I was just thinking about a childrens' song,"Five FAT sausages"... would the song be changed?Five voluptuous sausages?Five large sausages?Five big sausages?Five plus sized sausages?Hmmm some food for thought...
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RHP User
15 years ago
"...allowing yourself to be labelled as a BBW or a fat chick to myself and Fionabee means you are allowing people to see yourself in a derogatory light - by accepting these labels or tags being attached to your personality, likes, desires, name is giving people the right to see you in how they inetrepret them not necessarily in who you actually are...they allow people to use preconceived notions on what your personality traits are like and thus make judgments on you through their own misonceptions rather than through knowledge of who you are...(focusliason)"Um... last time I checked, the terms bbw and fat chick were only used to describe your body shape or type.I don't think that people assume a certain type of personality trait, their likes or desires just because you're fat. At least I don't. I'd be pretty safe in saying that you can't judge a person's personality traits or desires based on their body size. Possibly their likes, regarding food.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Honey you missed the bit where I was discussing subs and MILF in your quotation....this section was actually meant to refer to ALL labels whether they be about body shape or sexual desires and preferences not jus BBW...and many would see a BBW as someone who is desperate - fat girl cant get anyone else, desperate, insecure, regardless of if you are or not....personality traits yes??? Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
No, I got that bit.Do people really think the fat girls can't get anyone else and are desperate and insecure. Gawd! What kind of world are we living in
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RHP User
15 years ago
Either the people you mix with are not the same as most people or you do indeed have a rainbow outlook on life (and for that I salute you). People can - and do associate certain traits with terms such as fat chick, and Focus was dead on the mark with desparate. I have actually had one man admit that he targeted larger women because they were less likely to say no. Try also lazy. I do agree though, if the individual is comfortable being labeled as fat...fine with me, Voluptuous is never a term used when describing food but fat is; as in lard! And let us not confuse the issue by adding the euphamism PHAT to the equation. For those of you unaware of this term it stands for Pretty Hot And Terrific! Fionabee
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RHP User
15 years ago
How does the terminology Hornbag sit woth you lmao
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RHP User
15 years ago
How about curvalicious! Does this come across as offensive! Cause I love curvalicious ladies mmm mmm!
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