Autism

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  good on you for asking!! research lots.. ask him! what does he need to help him function and talk to him about how some of the things make you feel, then he can tell you what his triggers are and how and why he reacts the way he does. Once you have an understanding of what sets them off and why his body and mind react that way to them, it does make it easier to live with and understand.. autism depending on its form can mean many things for different people.. socially and emotionally they can have trouble recognizing things, that to you or me come naturally. smiles, sad faces, anxiety might be hard for him to recognize. They usually need routine and structure to their days and if the routine shifts without preparation, they can have bad reactions to the situation and act out. They struggle to retain and function to auditory instruction, so giving verbal instructions are hard for them to process, usually lists, written stories or in some cases story boards (images) work better (more likely for kids).. as a functioning adult I would think that most things will be ok for him, you just need to find out what the trigger is why the trigger is and either understand it or if he wishes to adjust it, then work with him to find a way to adjust it, it might be something like preparing or warning ahead of time. I had a child I had to set alarms for so that by the time I got to the third alarm and showed him the car keys he would go straight to the car. If I asked him straight away, anxiety would hit and his mind could not process it fast enough.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Buy him a playstation - if he does have autism spectrum disorder, he'll be sucked right into it then you're problems are solved. On a serious note, don't treat him differently. He's a grown up and a human being. He's over here working so he's obviously functioning pretty well in life. If there's any shared chores to be doing, just make sure they're on a roster not a "just wing it" approach, and things will be fine.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  yeah, lol, the first two responses are spot on he loves the unlimted internet- it is like a bee to a honey pot with his note book. have not asked him what his trigger is, but he explained to me if he told someone to tie a shoelace some way and they went and did it another way it would make him upset.... thing is he was working full time in qld and has moved here for sport and has coined saved for rent. so sits on couch on note book all day everyday, just hope his mental health stays good...... seems like a nice guy comes across very informative about everything.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  When someone on the autism spectrum gets caught up on something, they can be damn near obsessive, completely hyper and over the top. Their mind is over stimulated and is having problems working it out which leads to the behaviour, which can be repetitive, innapropriate and annoying, the answer is quiet! Tell him he needs to time out for a bit and give him the space and quiet to do so. Talk to him as suggested, unless he tells you otherwise there is no need for you to treat him any differently than you would anyone else, but there are a few things that make it easier. People with Aspergers and mild Autism can live "normal" lives, they can be fun quirky people to be friends with, learn their quirks, recognise them for what they are. Structure, routine and early warnings (I'm going to.....in 15, 10, 5 mins..) are helpful. Using the person name at the beginning of a request or conversation helps them recognise that something is being asked of them or that they are the person being talked to, easy thing to get into the habit of doing and can make life a lot easier for the person. I hope it goes well.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Rhpiers, thankyou for the post's... this information is a reassuring and gold available :)

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Loving this forum. Some great advice.

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