Attached people looking for NSA fun - have you considered swinging with your partner?

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  DynamicCouple36

  6 years ago

  Xanthea Perhaps the “cheaters” are simply only wanting to get into swinging, and hence on this site, as they think it will be an easy way to get a shag. Perhaps they think that the women in here are easy ? Hence the messages along the lines of “ wanna fuck?” So they are possibly not swingers but rather opportunists? Swinging is seen as an easy fuck for them perhaps? If the single guys on here had wifes/girlfriends , would they (the single guys) still be on here ? And if so would they want their partners to also be on here ? Or is this just an avenue for them to get a quick fuck ? Are singles swingers ? To answer your other question, swinging has spiced up our marriage , we enjoy the thrill and excitement before meeting someone new and knowing that what we are doing is naughty / taboo. Love the visuals and the thought of it all , and love Compersion and Hedonism. Not that our marriage was in trouble or needed help, it’s simply put a new and exciting spin on things. We don’t let swinging rule our lives nor our marriage. It’s not the be all and end all. It’s great to meet new people. We enjoy the flirting, seduction and sensuality if it all . It feels good to see one another experiencing physical and mental pleasure.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Well thought out answers. Thank you, DC.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  You know what we would be willing to pay good money for? A RHP service that weeds out the psychos, time wasters, fake profiles, voyeurs , the liars and the cheaters. Imagine a premium service that connects you with vetted, validated and like minded, genuine, open, honest swinging and poly couples. Couples with out drama, hang ups or complicated rules who don’t treat RHP like an cheap escort service or a supplier of never ending pussy and cock snaps. Better yet a premium service that connects and sets up no pressure dates in non seedy venues full of creepy single guys who don’t understand the concept of consent. Like a Table For 8 event but for swingers with matching profiles! Why has no one already designed this service? Or did we miss the memo?

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  ReyandJean

  6 years ago

  Just watched the episode of 42 Up where the taxi driver admitted he got caught playing offside. You could see his wife was still hurting. It's all innocent fun until someone finds out. We've met, Xanthea, and so you'll know how happy we are as a couple, swinging and generally. Swinging added another shared hobby to our already full life, and it forces ongoing communication. It's been half a dozen years now and we still enjoy meeting new and old friends and fooling around. But swinging takes its place behind a heap of other commitments and fun activities and remains separate from our vanilla lives.

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  DynamicCouple36

  6 years ago

  DinnerDate On this site rules & boundaries are essential. Perhaps if the clientele were more discerning, sophisticated, educated and more respectable, of people’s boundaries, there might not be a need for “rules” ??

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  We run social events just like you described

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  I prefer a diverse mix...the larrakins, fun loving social people, people who are a little bit out there and love a good time and a few laughs. Keeps the place interesting.

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  boobsandbusted

  6 years ago

  I have no real idea about cheaters here And don’t care each to their own ,But suspect it’s quite a bit to do with feeding the egos and narsasitic ways with the thrill of the chase the conquest and thinking they are better and smarter than their partners ,not so much about the sex at all ,,cos if it was a brothel or run and tug would be easier and prolly cheaper On the partner swinging side we love it for the comuncation and trust skills it has taught us to have ,it also has helped hugely to have much more fun socially nit talking about sex either. But the chatting and talking to people we don’t know with ease these days and just not caring so much and over thinking every aspect of everything and learning to just go with the flow ,also a huge bonus is meeting awesome. People that inspire us how to enjoy life the way you want not what others deem as acceptable ,swinging has deffiantely changed our outlook on life and how we enjoy it for the better ,it’s mostly all highs but had also made us deal with lows a lot differently than we used to which is a good thing Mr b

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  teamaj2

  6 years ago

  Xanthea We’ve often wondered why the ‘unfaithful ‘ don’t put in the time and effort into their marriage instead of trolling RHP . If they did perhaps their partners would be interested in exploring this lifestyle . Like others have so eloquently said we have loved all this way of life has brought to us . For us it has eradicated any jealousy issues that we had . It is an activity that we pursue together . We have , like most busy vanilla lives. It’s a bit of an escape . We love the socialising and wild exciting times. The build up prior meeting someone new , the excitement of the unknown and the flirting . We’ve met some wonderful people that we would ordinarily not have met and made some dear friends along the way .

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  To Xanthea Couple In my circumstance the woman would have to give the green light and would be the one more likely to want to swing than myself. Although, I do get extremely horny and talk a lot of fantasies especially in the bedroom it is my partner who seeks to be more convicted and open to the idea. Also I indulge in a lot of Chemsex with my partner and friends in the past so not sure where the line between what I want from this and what i want when I am high is. But what I can say is that the woman on here are not easy and most definitely very genuine and not going to be used and more likely to use the men (single men predominantly) on here. Also from what I see is most of the single men on here could easily go on tinder and find something easier without being lower leverage point of any interaction. So no I do not feel like my woman is easy for being on here nor do I think the men are those that would not be here if they had a gf/not getting enough sex elsewhere. Anyway that’s just my two cents

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Thanks everyone. We met Mr and Mrs B and ReyandJean on our first meet and greet. We were both so nervous and probably said the wrong things. They were all lovely. We have bumped into them at parties since and they are always friendly and welcoming. We have met and chatted to many, been ignored, stood up but also met some great people. Our insecurities have been tested but we are ok.

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  Playful2looking

  6 years ago

  Swinging strengthens our relationship.....Swinging will not fix problems within the relationship..the couple need a strong bond and trust..women do much better in the scene than men . Jealousy is the main issue.. is she enjoying the sex more with him than she does with me etc.. There will always be men that are better at sex than you .but also some that are not as good.. For us we love to see each other having fun and crying out from their passion. also we go home together and talk issues through. Women also have to realise that some women may appear to be more beautiful but he is with you because he loves you.. love and sex are different for us .. love is a bond between two people sex is the cream on top... Because we are bi we are fairly open in our play.. in threesome no one is just sitting watching and feeling left out.. although there are times when sitting back and just watching the fun is a real buzz.Good luck and enjoy.. there are some very lovely people on here and in the scene .. remember talk to each other and express your feelings...if you are not attracted to the person you are about to have sex with than talk it through with your partner...be polite if you have to say no to someone..

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