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Are you on here to meet anyone?
February 15 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have been a member of red hot pie for almost 3 years now & I fully make use of red hot pie's services Everyone that is a friend on my friends list are men/couples that I have met in person & played with. But there are a whole lot more who are no longer members or that I have had fall outs with that I have met from red hot pie. I think I've met around about 20 men & 2 couples or something like that, cant remember exact numbers Most of the men I have met have been once off things, although there are a few I still catch up with from time to time. Because I take the time to get to know men before I meet them (chatting on phone & chat & webcam) I have a pretty high bedding success rate, I think its about 99.9%
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RHP User
15 years ago
I hear you about the success rate for sex....mine is 100% when I want to have sex with them lol! The ones I have said no to is probably about 30% as they have either looked nothing like their pic that was taken 5 or so years ago (Will never trust the ones that say "Oh, but I haven't changed in that time" again)...to the one guy who turned up when it was not even him in the pics at all (and that is FACE pics) and just some guys where there was no chemistry at all from my end! < I have also met wonderful people and staff from RHP at their drinks nights that they hold together with AMM! But, have never picked up from there...just made great friends and aquaintances and even ran into old friends at these drinks nights! Love them! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Just thought I'd throw in my 2 cents...I joined this site at the tender age of 20, with that typical young male outlook of "this is a sex site...I'm going to get laid". That being said, with a somewhat arrogant profile (I don't actually know, but I assume looking back that I was) I didn't particularly have much in the way of luck; never really got beyond one flirt or two. And being so young, I had far more trivial things to spend my money on than paying for membership.In the last 4 years, I met someone outside of RHP and had a year long (and my first) relationship that ended somewhat disastrously. But I remained a member of the site because I liked the forums. The topics are always helpful or insightful in some way, especially for someone as young as me. I like to think I saved myself money by learning about sexuality and society on here rather than at uni or in a book.Now that my relationship has been over for some time, and I have grown more comfortable with who I am, and shed my impossibly dreamy-eyed young self, and was confident enough to update my profile honestly, and with a facial photo, so that now you can hopefully get a real sense of who I am and what I like, rather than just "I'm a guy, I like sex".I haven't met anyone from RHP yet, but even just being a guest member and enjoying the forums is a worthy outcome for me. Life is all about finding who you are, maybe I'm finally just getting around to it!Forgive me for being a dreamer once more, but the future holds nothing but promise.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Wel I have been a member on here for around 12 months now and have played with 2 couples and 2 single women. These are the only ones I have met with the hopeful intention of playing. So therefore my success rate is 100%. But having said that these are the only ppl who have been willing to take it any further than just emails, messages etc. If all contacts that I have made with couples and single women are taken into account well then my success rate would be less than 10%. This is mainly due to where I live and also the fact that many many many women will not and do not reply to emails at all. The ratio of men to women of 10:1 is about right, but the men are also competing with the couples and single women who want the women as well! This is great for all the girls! But not so great for the single straight guys as it increases the odds around 3 fold! Thats life hey! LOL Oh and I seem to end up being the guy people turn to for friendship and or advice, but not action! I guess there is some truth to the saying 'Nice guys finish last'.CheersIsHungry
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RHP User
15 years ago
To add a little bit more to my previous comment! I have always wanted to meet lots of people on here, and have met a few. Some are now friends but anything more I have given up on as the success rate, as previously mentioned, is rather pathetic and I have decided to look for, and hopefully meet, women and couples for friendship until my membership runs out. In the meantime if anything happens from there, well and good. If not well there ya go! LOLOnce againCheersIsHungry
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think it's extremely difficult for males on this site, especially if they (we) are over 35. I was on this site for a couple of years in a very active way, participated in the chat rooms and regularly tried contacting females but never actually met up (well I did once but it was a nightmare). So I gave up, took down my pictures and just watch the cams occasionally now. It's very clicky on here and difficult to establish cyber-friends. The huge number of male members (no pun) doesn't help. I have so much to offer but cannot seem to get the message across or get to first base via this site. And other sites aren't any different.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Maybe I am too fussy but too bad. I know what I'm looking for and if I get contact from someone who fills that then yes I will meet. I've probably missed out on a lot of good dates because of my fussiness but so be it. I just dont understand how men can use the internet to get to this site and then crap on about not being able to upload a pic. Well at least a pic of their face. There are plenty of cock shots but seriously if I am going to fuck you I wanna see what you look like (shallow me....tuff). If I just want to get off on a cock shot then I'll go to google images and get my rocks off there. I do get jealous of women in other states as they seem to have a nicer and larger selection of men. Boo hoo for me :) Maybe I should move interstate xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Not loking to hard, if at all, though never say never I guess. Basically just here for some Forum fun these days.Having exactly the same sucess rate as when I was seriously looking, but without the effort, or monetary expense..lolHahaha Ticklish you should move to Ayers Rock!Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
I met up with my first person from this site last weekend, was fantastic and will see her again.Have been signed up for about a month now, have e-met several lovely ladies, a few of them whom i am waiting till i go to brisbane next so i can meet them, hopefully.I am much more of a regular hook up type of guy rather than a Wam - Bam now pissoff type.I am really enjoying this site, the forums are pretty good too, if it keeps up like this all year then i'll have no complaints.
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RHP User
15 years ago
when i only met for sex at the park...i had 3 that i didnt have sex with (cum in his pants guy, cum too quick guy and ewwww gross guy) all those men i really didnt care about, but they all looked like their pics, except the one that didnt have a pic and thanks to him i will never believe a man again when he tells me "im the sexiest bloke you will ever meet" the 3 iv travelled to meet 2 have been the most wonderful men iv ever met and one i should have beat the crap out of but the best thing to come out of my time here has been the friendships iv made....i have made some of the nicest friends iv could ever hope for...men, women and couples so i have learnt never to close myself off from anyone because you just never know who you will meet and what they will mean to you down the track on the topic of no pics Ticklish it took me ages to get a pic up because i just couldnt upload one RHP wouldnt let me hahaha..that says a lot about my face i think hahaha roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have tried to upload a pic but failed.... when i get the time i need.. I will try again.. glad u have had success on one level... I wasn't here to meet anyone when I joined.. space in time or the other way around. I do enjoy the forum banter.. but I am read to meet someone.. as yet not happened... does that answer fun?? cheers niceone
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RHP User
15 years ago
We are in this and similar sites to meet people, although to be fair the success rate is a bit hit and miss, and not all of that is the fault of the other party involved as sometimes we stuff up.That all said, we have met people from these sites and some we have played with, some chose not to, some we chose not to, and yet some more we are glad to have met them but nothing will ever happen. Then of course there are the timewasters that really seem to like to stuff people around, but you get that and we expect it so now if/when it happens it doesn't stop us having fun.Of those we have met and played with, we would do so again with all of them if they chose or the opportunity came up, and the same goes for some we have met socially as there are some genuine people around.We intend to keep meeting and playing where possible as that is why we are here, and if we develop the FWB and/or genuine platonic friends we will be happy either way as for us it is firstly social and secondly sexual, although we much prefer the social with a wickedly sexual bent.Shella and Gaz
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RHP User
15 years ago
Have you met anyone, whether it be a one off or ongoing or started a relationship from it? I've met a few people from this site and a few from another site, some one-off, some ongoing FWB things but no relationships, I joined here and AFF because i'm specifically NOT looking for regular dating/relationships. If the time comes that I do want to give up my hard-won freedom and be obligated to someone again (yeah, it's not looking likely at this point! haha) I think I'd probably join another site for that. (where my forum history won't give away all my secrets!) . If you haven't met anyone, why? Especially the women? Why haven't you met anyone? There are around 10 men to 1 woman...What is your excuse for not meeting? Do they need an excuse? Yes, it sucks for the boys who outnumber the girls, and yes it sucks when people think all girls are full of shit on here, but unless the girls who are windowshopping are actively misleading people by making dates and not showing up, they really don't owe anyone anything. . Have you had the problem of meeting up with people that look nothing like their pic or is not the person in the pic at all? Yup. the pic was taken many years earlier. Many HARD years, from the look of it. Awkward.
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RHP User
15 years ago
On a follow-up note, I also wonder how many people on here are looking for relationships (I mean actual relationships, not a casual relationship). I like to think that anything is possible, and that perhaps I could fall in love (or intense like). Do any of you ladies or gentlemen think it is a losing battle to hope for a guy (or girl) to hope for a relationship from RHP?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have been on this site for 12 months now and I meet people all the time. Many of them are people that I never play with. One I have played with and now has become a very good friend. (we no longer play together as he entered a committed relationship. I must admit to being a little fussy in whom I choose but I do have one or two regular playmates from this site. I usually have to travel a fair distance before meeting someone so I tend to get to know them fairly well by email and msn first. This also serves to weed out a lot of the guys that are just ony after a quick roll in the hay and nothing more. They just dont last the distance on msn. It may be six to eight weeks before i can get away again to meet anyone and I find that many are just not interested in spending the time getting to know me. Thier loss!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Why would people invest time and energy into registering on this site if the end result was not to meet new and interesting people (unless of course they are only interested in cyber chatting, and have stated this in their profile). Perhaps I’m being a tad idealistic? For me, I have met 3 lovely men of different ages and backgrounds for drinks/coffee/lunch (well actually it was just me eating… it was lunch time after all!). Meets were arranged after lengthy communication to determine personality, commonalities, deal breakers etc. As a result, I’ve had a few delightful encounters with one of the gentlemen I have met. I am surprised but very pleased to say that there has been no misrepresentation thus far (which was something that concerned me at the start… ) I do feel for the guys on this site - so much effort for so little reward it seems. So ladies of rhp, be nice and polite and always reply – tis the very least that can be done, if someone has taken the time to send you a message.
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RHP User
15 years ago
...at least, not in person, but then again, I haven't been around all that long. In "real" life, I'm horribly shy, and it takes a bit for me to even hit the flirt button, let alone send a message, but once I am coaxed out of my shell, I'm out. I'm not necessarily here to meet - I'm really enjoying the forums and getting to know the more regular participants through their posts, and working up the courage to send my next message..
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well, we've been on here a good four months now and we went to our first couples event on the weekend. Even though were no looking for couples to play with at all, it was good to meet people from the site. It was a pity we couldn't stay till the end as we had another commitment, but we are so looking forward to another event. Everyone was so friendly and welcoming. We are accepting the fact that we are probably not going to get laid from this site seen as we want a single woman. So friends is best next thing!Jose and Kylie
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'lip_biting_lover'On a follow-up note, I also wonder how many people on here are looking for relationships (I mean actual relationships, not a casual relationship). I like to think that anything is possible, and that perhaps I could fall in love (or intense like). Do any of you ladies or gentlemen think it is a losing battle to hope for a guy (or girl) to hope for a relationship from RHP? Why shouldnt it be possible to meet that someone special here. After all RHP do publish sucess stories. Personnaly I think its possible on any site and dont consider RHP just a sex site. Shit I've got laid more from so called vanilla sites than here lol. So yep....love (ewww) should be possible here xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I've been a member of RHP for just on 12 months. I don't use it now to meet anyone, just because what I want has changed i.e. I'm not just after random sex. I've meet a number of men from this site, and actually turned up to one drinks. I've made some excellent friendships. I have one that I still play with, and another who has become a good friend as well as the occassional play.About 8 years ago I was on another site, and I met a couple of people from there, and one of those guys has been my on-off FwB for 7 years now.I have met several guys who have posted *extremely* flattering pictures of themselves, or the pictures have at least been a couple of years old. This is annoying, however I've found that people who do that are generally not good lovers anyway so it helps in the decision making process. :)As to a relationship... I really want someone to snuggle with, but I really don't want a boyfriend/partner as such, unless that arrangement would be a once/week thing. I'm fortunate in that I've been completely and utterly head over heels in love, and to be honest, I never want that crazy out of control feeling ever again. There's plenty of love in me, and I give of it freely (not just in the free love 70's kind of way) but there's a difference between loving and "in love".Maybe one day I'll be open to it again. Really, what I'm after now, with my sexual bases being kind of filled, is a snuggle bunny. I think this is not the right site for that. :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have met a few although am a bit choosey...some one-offs, a few that went longer. Enjoy some of the fun and banter. Managed to piss a few off and others I still talk to know and then.\ In an ideal world...guess I would find someone that ticked all the boxes and could form a deeper friendship and see regularly. That would be a good start...but until then, it works for me. | I am not here to keep score or get a migraine worrying about strike rates and the like...spontaneous and fun. Oh...and great pictures.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'lip_biting_lover'On a follow-up note, I also wonder how many people on here are looking for relationships (I mean actual relationships, not a casual relationship). I like to think that anything is possible, and that perhaps I could fall in love (or intense like). Do any of you ladies or gentlemen think it is a losing battle to hope for a guy (or girl) to hope for a relationship from RHP? I know people who have met on this site and have a fantastic relationship. I think that deep down inside we are all looking for that " special one ". Oh yes we all protest and say no we are only here for fun...happy being single yadda, yadda, yadda. BUT the truth of the matter is that we are not designed to live our lives alone. We are actually herd animals and need the comfort of a permanent mate. Before you all say you like being alone and are happy with your life...ask yourself this one question.... Would you like to be alone when you are 75 years old still chasing around these sites for random lovers? Admitedly being alone is preferable to being with the wrong person and I, like many others, am certainly not in a rush but I still have no intentions of being the resident vamp at the nursing home!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee'I know people who have met on this site and have a fantastic relationship. I think that deep down inside we are all looking for that " special one ". Oh yes we all protest and say no we are only here for fun...happy being single yadda, yadda, yadda. BUT the truth of the matter is that we are not designed to live our lives alone. We are actually herd animals and need the comfort of a permanent mate. Before you all say you like being alone and are happy with your life...ask yourself this one question.... Would you like to be alone when you are 75 years old still chasing around these sites for random lovers? Admitedly being alone is preferable to being with the wrong person and I, like many others, am certainly not in a rush but I still have no intentions of being the resident vamp at the nursing home! It's only been 7 months since I ended a 14-year relationship so at this point I really AM enjoying being single and I really am genuinely happy. I like to think that if that's going to change it'll depend on the person I fall for rather than just my age. I know some long term single women who live very enjoyable lives so it's not something I plan to actively seek any time soon to satisfy society's 'designs'. You're totally right that being with the wrong person is worse but I think being single doesn't necessarily mean being lonely.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'aniceone71' I have tried to upload a pic but failed.... when i get the time i need.. I will try again.. glad u have had success on one level... I wasn't here to meet anyone when I joined.. space in time or the other way around. I do enjoy the forum banter.. but I am read to meet someone.. as yet not happened... does that answer fun?? cheers niceone when i first tried uploading a pic it just wouldnt let me...no pic of me would upload lol and i tried for months in the end i cracked the shits and took that evil one i have in my pics...well iv been told either im that evil no one would turn their back on me or i just want to jump you and fuck your brains out, both could be true hahaha...but i had to take it on the cam and then upload it...it was the only way i could manage it but now i can can upload any pic at all...so give that a go, it might work roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
You miss-understood. Of course being on our own does not mean being lonely and if you have not long left a relationship it is natural and a very smart thing to do to stay single for a while and let yourself heal. I do understand this and have been more than happy by myself for the last four years for that very reason. I do agree that it has nothing to do with society's designs. But then, I have never done anything for society and it's designs. I have tended to buck the systm since I was a kid, refusing to marry the father of my child when being a single parent carried a huge stigma. There is no age limit on being alone. However, it is not a natural state for us, we are genetically disposed to having a mate. Just picture all the old RHP'ers having wheelchair races in the nursing home, leering at the young nurses and thier aides.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee'Just picture all the old RHP'ers having wheelchair races in the nursing home, leering at the young nurses and thier aides. I have a wide group of friends and their partners, all around my age, and the subject of conversation frequently comes up (alcohol is usually the lubricant of choice) where we dream of building our own nursing home so that we can do just that. My role, once the design drawings are completed will be to choose the nurses and wardens, and select their uniforms. We dont have to move in right away... just planning for the future before our minds wander so far form reality that we are incapable of seeing it through form inception stages...HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am definitely on here to meet some nice, genuine people, but it seems some people are on here just for the ego boost or whatever and have no intention of meeting face to face. Hence I have only just re-joined after quitting RHP after no results. Maybe it's me!
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JessicaRabbit
15 years ago
As you said Funloving, there are at least 10 men to every woman on here, so why the hell don't they meet people? I think the truth of the matter is that most women on here are here for the ego boost! If I add someone to msn (I always have a chat or two before meeting to attempt to weed out the non-conversationalists and wierdos) and find I am interested, I will meet them. I'm here to meet people. Simple as that. I joined originally as a couple and then rejoined as a single girl (coming up to a year soon), and since originally joining I would have met (at an estimate) with at least 10 couples and 5 single men, as well as being a previous member of CI and attending a few private group parties (not all of these meets ended up with play). I can honestly say I have not had a bad experience - Have had a few people that did not look exactly like their photo (one female from a couple AFTER we met them admitting that she was 15kgs heavier than her photo, but was still an attractive woman) but in cases like that I still have a nice lunch or/hopefully and have a good conversation still. As others have said, I still really enjoy the forums and the chatrooms are also great fun. One of the beauties of being a single female is that none of this costs me a cent! I do feel the single men and couples' frustration at sooo much chat and not many/if any meets. At a guess I probably meet with less than 10% of the people that I actually talk to. Dida xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'DidacticTactics' One of the beauties of being a single female is that none of this costs me a cent! I do feel the single men... Not true...you and all the rest of the "free lunch bunch" should have to pay a stipend to the "Send CM to Beliz Fund". I think the hottest women in the world may live there and I speak Spanish. I will send you the details to deposit your $1000 to my trust account in the Cook Islands. Of course, if you are a little strapped for cash... | ....I am happy to become one of the 10%. | Please tell me you don't have your own trust fund?
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ttgong
15 years ago
It's an interesting topic having been on and off here for a few years now and also getting to know a couple of people here as just social friends and knowing their history on here too. Can only though speak for myself and if it wasn't for some of the fun chat now and then and the odd person to meet for a drink socially I would have left long ago. Besides coming across the numerous fake profiles out there there seems to be alot of people I find that are all talk. Unfortunately my success rate would be rather embarrassing low. While there are plenty that like to chat that appears to be all they are interested in. But I'm still here, and who knows what might happen....but I don't expect anything at all, just go with the flow. Good luck to all those who are having all the success....get some for me lol.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Dont know what the anwser is.. For me you meet people when you can..Enjoy them dont promise what you cant deliver ..easy ..lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
After lengthy communication huh jo??
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RHP User
15 years ago
Having been on here for around15 months now and yes I have met me fair share (and probably a few others shares) of people...some good...some horrible...and some just down right fantastic!!! . I have met people socially (meet and greet nights all along the east coast - I promise to come over to the west coast sometime this year...lol) and have also had some fabulous sexual experiences...meet some who have become fantastic friends - and I mean that in the true sense of the word - others who have been just for fun and others still who I have met for a first off public meeting and never gone past the coffee... . But would have to agree with Taipan - make the most of the experiences and never promise more than you are willing to deliver . Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree with Didactic, last time i was on rhp i paid for 2 years worth of membership, this time around i have realised what is the point. Altho i must admit i have only been back a month so who knows what may happen. But i get so many emails and flirts without the need to upgrade. As for meeting people, i hear alot of guys complain that alot of women are using this site for an ego boost so to speak and not really meeting the guys. they either cancel dates or make excuses. I dont see the point in that, if your not going to meet go use another social site or be honest with the guys and dont waste their time. As for relationships the last time i was on here i ended up dating one of the guys i had been seeing regularly and this time around I have met 3 people in the few weeks that i have been back. But i would never contemplate meeting someone who doesnt have a pic. Infact i rarely even converse with people who cant show themselves in a pic whether here or via email. and thankgod i have never had the problem of someone not looking like their pic. altho i have met some guys who are so chatty and outgoing in an email or on msn yet so dull and boring in real life that even if they were the last guy on earth, i would become a lesbian before doing them lol. They just didnt excite me at all. But hey like anything in life, not everything goes to plan lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
thought id add my two cents worth.I was under the impression that we are all adults looking to have fun for whatever reasons everyone havent different things they are looking for.But it seems that most of the guys i have heard talking or read about in the forums seem to be having a hard time actually meetin up with women.I dont know what the reasons are i have a few ideas though. Could it be that wmen are being fussy by looking for that perfect person?maybe. or is it that there are s many weirdos out there and so people are cautious?maybe. personally i think most of the womens profiles on here are fake, just to attract men into paying for subs and of the ones that are real only some get to meet up.it is sad because ultimately most of us are here for one thing and thats to have fun so try it you might like it.Lifes too short!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'justjean65' ...if they were the last guy on earth, i would become a lesbian before doing them lol. | Can we talk? On one of these thread here I finally did it and came out...I am proud to say I am a male lesbian and just love women. Now I am not the last guy on earth...but might just hold you interest long enough to keep you from jumping the fence, a good thoroughbred in her own paddock is not all that easy to find you know. | Okay, but I do keep an open mind and if you do cross over...can I come too? Jearzus, what would that make me then...probably would never admit that in public. Is it possible to be a male bisexual lesbian... | ....and stay in my own paddock too?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Never really found myself thinking about a success rate.I have been using this site for 5 plus years (on and off) both in a couple and as the infamous single male.I have met over the years probably 30 odd couples and a good 30 women, all lovely lovely people. Most of which I I'm happy to still call friends. Some where play friends (when in a couple), some are still play friends and some are even more chat friends until I find myself in their home cities somewhere around Australia.I will admit that sometimes I will get interest from 3 or 4 girls at once and sometimes it can be a bit of a contact drought from time to time but I've never expected anything of anyone I've chatted to, spoken to or actually physically met. I have made so many wonderful friends that I would never have normally met, but as to whether play is involved, regardless what a profile might say I've never seen actually playing with someone as a measure of success.There have been times when I have been interested to play and they not and other times where they have been interested and I not. The best part about the majority of people on sites like these is that general people are more open about themselves and who they actually are. Its that openiness that I enjoy most about the people on this site and if the mutual play occurs no one has ever been left disappointed.There are a few bad eggs, but on the whole I've never had any problems meeting people and becoming at least good friends and that would be how I measure my success.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Haha. Do you think maybe it's because your so freaking hot!!! Annie.
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