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Are you a job snob?Do you equate what someone does for a living
March 02 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think that it can be very hard to judge someone on a cultural or educational basis. A persons cultural background doesnt neccessarily mean that they are wishing to follow in that same vein, particularly here in Australia where we are (supposedly) a free thinking nation. As far as an education is concerned, this can be affected by many different things. I have met some very intelligent people who left school at 14 or 15 years of age. Usually they dropped out due to their home environment or they fell in with the wrong crowd in a low socio-economic area. I had a very interesting conversation once on Homeric legend, with a huge bikie, after I had come back from a visit to Ithaca in Greece. A very intelligent and articulate guy but he had chosen his path in life with OMCG and that was that. I left school at 15 because I just didnt want to live at home with a bastard of a step father. I knew I had to make money to move out and was fortunate enought to gain an appreticeship. Luckily a trade is considered further education when you apply for certain jobs so I have beed able to move on in life. Never judge a book by it's cover, that's what life has taught me....
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm not too interested in someone's background, education or job. But in order to become friends, the way someone views the world, including their morals and beliefs, needs to be similar to mine. I believe in helping minorities. Someone making a hundred grand a year as a banker may still share my values. I've always had a thing for paramedics, but when one said to me "What? You work with THOSE people?!", when I told him about my job, I was done talking to him right there and then.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I like to judge people on face value. If I were to discriminate due to such trivialities as employment or background , I know I would stand a good chance of missing out on meeting amazing people . Everyone I meet deserves a chance to show who they really are . If we don't Click it's about us , not about a person's wealth or upbringing . & I hope that I would be judged in the same light . GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
.... you never know where Lightning is gonna strike.Gotta keep the mind open....DG
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RHP User
13 years ago
Two weeks ago...I went out on a "date" with someone from this site. Nice guy, arrived on time, dressed nice, appeared like photo (bonus) all going good - we were sitting at the bar chatting - we had agreed to have dinner prior to meeting if all went well.. Somehow and Im buggered if I can remember how this came about but he finally asked me what I did for a living - I replied " Im a doctor" then explained my speciality as my profession is unususal DEAD SILENCE AWKWARD SILENCE. WAITNG FOR A TSUNAMI TO HIT SILENCE and I waited... He looked at me stunned and said "Gee I never would have picked that about you" - ooooooooooook what did you pick me as ( I wondered) I replied "Why ?" he said I just wouldnt ..he then proceeded to tell me that he was shocked I was a doctor and why hadnt I told him that earlier. I said to him well in all honesty you didnt ask, but we just hadnt really discussed our professions (he was in security) So his standing a the bar and at this stage (eating all the beer nuts and NOT SHARING) but the whole dynamics had changed between us (stuffed if I know why - I was quite ok with what he did..no issue - I thought he was quite lovely) ...as a recovery I then suggested we go for dinner...he said to me "No sorry I can't handle what you do..nice meeting you " and just walked out on me..leaving me...... sitting at the bar..( With No fucking beer nuts I might add) ......mortified Date commenced at 8.00pm - home and wiping makeup off by 8.52pm So glad I spent most of my adult life...educating myself............only to be humiliated............. In future when questioned about my profession Shinas - POLE DANCER EXTRAORDINAIRE......................... ........... and peoples of the forums , as you know I can pole dance !!!! Fuck Me............snob ..???? ..yeah rite... posted from rhp mobile
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enduran
13 years ago
I love to meet people from other walks of life. My educational and professional background makes me very white-collar, but i love going to places like bars and concerts where i can meet people who dont sit behind their desk all day. You can meet the most amazing people that way. I do then usually downplay what i am doing as it makes me feel uncomfortable and i had bad experiences earlier in my life where people judged me based on my educational and professional background.
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RHP User
13 years ago
He only wanted you for the beer nuts???Are you kidding, he left you there at the bar because of what you do for a livingNo wonder you feel like you do. Do not feel humiliated, maybe he just felt like he couldn't match your intelligence and his manhood felt threatened or something weird like that.I knew a Forensic Pathologist who used to have the same problem though and boy was she so very very smart which I found sexy, but other guys just always bailed out on her just as you described.Don't let them get you down. He's "out there"
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RHP User
13 years ago
You know another female forensic pathologist ???? Ummmm .....we both live in Perth......have we by chance met ???????
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sorry that happened to you Shinas, but the way you told it had me laughing! Forensic Pathologist is my dream job, and I would have kept you talking about it for hours! Mind you, that may have been just as annoying.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Shinas' Two weeks ago...I went out on a "date" with someone from this site. Nice guy, arrived on time, dressed nice, appeared like photo (bonus) all going good - we were sitting at the bar chatting - we had agreed to have dinner prior to meeting if all went well.. Somehow and Im buggered if I can remember how this came about but he finally asked me what I did for a living - I replied " Im a doctor" then explained my speciality as my profession is unususal DEAD SILENCE AWKWARD SILENCE. WAITNG FOR A TSUNAMI TO HIT SILENCE and I waited... He looked at me stunned and said "Gee I never would have picked that about you" - ooooooooooook what did you pick me as ( I wondered) I replied "Why ?" he said I just wouldnt ..he then proceeded to tell me that he was shocked I was a doctor and why hadnt I told him that earlier. I said to him well in all honesty you didnt ask, but we just hadnt really discussed our professions (he was in security) So his standing a the bar and at this stage (eating all the beer nuts and NOT SHARING) but the whole dynamics had changed between us (stuffed if I know why - I was quite ok with what he did..no issue - I thought he was quite lovely) ...as a recovery I then suggested we go for dinner...he said to me "No sorry I can't handle what you do..nice meeting you " and just walked out on me..leaving me...... sitting at the bar..( With No fucking beer nuts I might add) ......mortified Date commenced at 8.00pm - home and wiping makeup off by 8.52pm So glad I spent most of my adult life...educating myself............only to be humiliated............. In future when questioned about my profession Shinas - POLE DANCER EXTRAORDINAIRE......................... ........... and peoples of the forums , as you know I can pole dance !!!! Fuck Me............snob ..???? ..yeah rite... I'm sorry that this happened to you Shinas hun....but I don't think it was you at all! I am petrified of doctors/nurses and people that work in Funeral Homes and Cemetaries! This is a true fear for me and I can see his point of view and the reason for the abrupt ending to the date if he is the same! Sometimes it is not about you as a person! Sometimes you need to think outside the square and realise as fantastic as you may be (and you are) and how caring and funny as you are...people's fear just override all of that! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
I definitely wasn't you! I was single and in another profession at the time and it was a very private conversation in a pool in Kununurra back in 1997.She was a lovely lady.How times change, the DPP prosecutor at the time, a very funny guy, was just part of Rayneys defence team!The timing is sooo bad with us Shinas!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I work in a warehouse...hi vis shirt, steel caps, right along side the boys (give me a couple of weeks and the boss has me booked in for my forklift ticket also - woohoo). I have worked in the boning rooms of various abattoirs and been in male dominated industries my entire adult life. This has caused some people from here (and in real life) to say Im not feminine enough for them, and Ive even been called trailer trash, basically because I dont do what others would consider to be a professional role nor something they would equate with a girly girl. I love my job! I love the kind of stuff I do. Every day is very different for me. Yes I spend a proportion of it doing data entry, answering phones and wirting reports, but I also pick stock, load trucks and receive deliveries. Sure Im a bit rough around the edges during my day to day stuff but if you look closely in my wardrobe I only have heels (excpet my sneakers and steel caps) and dont own pants yep I wear a skirt in the warehouse and the boys have no problem with taking directions from a woman. Just because I get covered in deisel dust (damn warehouse just wont stay clean no matter what I do) doesnt mean I cant dress up nor does it mean I am less feminine than someone who works in a traditional office all day. If people are going to judge me based on what I do from the hours of 0660-1430 then they arent worthy of my time. Kisses Focus
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'good_vagabond'I definitely wasn't you! I was single and in another profession at the time and it was a very private conversation in a pool in Kununurra back in 1997.She was a lovely lady.How times change, the DPP prosecutor at the time, a very funny guy, was just part of Rayneys defence team!The timing is sooo bad with us Shinas!!! And soooooooooooooo much more could be said on that.........NOT... Ok..that was weird...1997 - I didnt even know what a Kununurra was..let alone where it was or how to spell it....fast foward to 2008 ..so know where Kununurra is now..but no not me...(havent been there but would like to go)..and my fav plae in WA is Paraburdoo..so love saying that word..............Para Bur Doo!!!. Vagabond...you live down the road from work...............we must rectify this timing situation !!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'good_vagabond' He only wanted you for the beer nuts???........ YES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't let them get you down. He's "out there" YES HE IS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I bet your nuts are beautiful I must say the lady in question was talking generally about how people react to her once they found out what she did for a living. Mind you we had just finished a conversation in relation to pig flesh and bruising (we were the only ones in the pool) so I guess that would make for strange conversation for some. As you have probably gathered by now I was a Detective back then, that's why we were talking so openly. She is tragically no longer with us.Lost _focus, nothing wrong with working in boning rooms, good hard working people with great senses of humour that lot!And as far as Rayney goes, if a few things were left unsaid by investigators I think it would have been a lot better all round.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am educated and work in a senior capacity in a professional role. My man left school when he was 16 and sometimes he isn't aware of certain ettiquites. It doesn't matter to me because he is smart, respectful and considerate. One thing I will admit though is that it makes it easier that he earns almost the same as me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
you're a TEACHER!!!! pmsl ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
What you do or how much you make is hardly relevant.... although sometimes people do tell you their occupation and it isn't a surprise, they seem to fit a stereotype.There are a couple of occupations I deal with regularly, and its often a pain dealing with the people involved, so I think I'd be cautious about someone who said that's what they did. It's a bias accumulated over time by dealing with a certain sort of person, in a certain set of circumstances. Can't be helped, but I'd hope to not see it as black and white.In general, the less like my own occupation the better, too!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'll admit to sometimes being impressed or fascinated by people's jobs. I love hearing about what people do, there are some great stories out there. I'm not generally put off by someone's job but then again seem to attract people of a similar background or with similar values anyway.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ahhh miss shinas.... it wasnt about you, or what you did for a job........ the issue there....w as about HIM!His issues, insecurities, problems........ so they were best left as his..... so you dodged a bullet and most likely a really disappointing outcome if you proceeded further with that dumbarse.But thats why I also tell people Im a pole dancer...... a trailblazer in a predominantly womens industry.... the tips make it sooooo worth it, but It took me a while to learn to shove the tips down the FRONT of the budgie smugglers... not the back.DG
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RHP User
13 years ago
finally went to uni at 36 and am now the holder of a degree in my favoured profession. I can't look down on people who work in different jobs because I have worked in quite a few and know what it takes to work in an abbatoir... Though I have had people look at me strangely when they find out what I do. Mike
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RHP User
13 years ago
Only happens to you LOL!Some men & women are intimated by the others professions...I've heard similar responses when the other has found out what the other does.My mother is also a doctor & one guy she was seeing who was in "manual work" wasn't sure if they would get along because of her profession. He actually mentioned it as he was concerned.I won't judge someone on what they do, however I do know that the conversations I have with a tradie will be very different to those with an engineer say :) The big sign Shinas, was he didn't share his nuts!! If he didn't share then, he wasn't ever going to. Quoting 'Shinas' Two weeks ago...I went out on a "date" with someone from this site. Nice guy, arrived on time, dressed nice, appeared like photo (bonus) all going good - we were sitting at the bar chatting - we had agreed to have dinner prior to meeting if all went well.. Somehow and Im buggered if I can remember how this came about but he finally asked me what I did for a living - I replied " Im a doctor" then explained my speciality as my profession is unususal DEAD SILENCE AWKWARD SILENCE. WAITNG FOR A TSUNAMI TO HIT SILENCE and I waited... He looked at me stunned and said "Gee I never would have picked that about you" - ooooooooooook what did you pick me as ( I wondered) I replied "Why ?" he said I just wouldnt ..he then proceeded to tell me that he was shocked I was a doctor and why hadnt I told him that earlier. I said to him well in all honesty you didnt ask, but we just hadnt really discussed our professions (he was in security) So his standing a the bar and at this stage (eating all the beer nuts and NOT SHARING) but the whole dynamics had changed between us (stuffed if I know why - I was quite ok with what he did..no issue - I thought he was quite lovely) ...as a recovery I then suggested we go for dinner...he said to me "No sorry I can't handle what you do..nice meeting you " and just walked out on me..leaving me...... sitting at the bar..( With No fucking beer nuts I might add) ......mortified Date commenced at 8.00pm - home and wiping makeup off by 8.52pm So glad I spent most of my adult life...educating myself............only to be humiliated............. In future when questioned about my profession Shinas - POLE DANCER EXTRAORDINAIRE......................... ........... and peoples of the forums , as you know I can pole dance !!!! Fuck Me............snob ..???? ..yeah rite... posted from rhp mobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
As long as there is no "residue" from their profession (odours in particular!) when we met then I'd have no problems meeting anyone from any walk of life. No wait...I might possibly have a problem with someone who chooses not to work and sponges off the State - but that is because of their approach to life (obviously I'm not referring to those who aren't in a position to work or who haven't managed to get a job but are trying to). I would have hoped I would have sussed out their outlook well before meeting anyway :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sorry to hear about that bad experience. I have heard of guys being emasculated by smart and better educated women but I always thought it was weird. I have heard of women who take lower paying jobs so as not to show up her husband. I can't understand that. If you have the potential, you should make use of it.I encourage my friends and dates to continue with their education and actually helped some of them out with their studies. No, I don't do their homework for them so don't bother messaging me for that. I just encourage them and give them guidance.In the dating scene, I have had similar experiences.1. I am vegetarian - Some have said oh no. I love my meat. Do you take chicken? I wonder which part of vegetarian they didn't understand, sometimes.2. I don't drink alcohol. I know it is un-Aussie. I get into a lot of grief over this Some say they go on a binge once a week and think I wouldn't like it. I don't mind people having the occasional drink if they want but really feel left out when people go on a binge. Not my cup of tea really. Oh yeah, the best was I once told a girl I don't take advantage of women who are intoxicated. I really couldn't understand that. Isn't that supposed to be a good thing?3. Education. Yes, I am very highly educated. So what. I enjoy the company of smart people. Everyone knows something that I don't and vice versa. I do however like people who are literate. I love reading. If someone can't read, we will definitely be having a problem.So, been there done that. Keep your chin up and keep on trying. Depending on what you are looking for, you will find someone. Pity I don't fit your age criteria otherwise I would have asked you out.
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RHP User
13 years ago
when it comes to people's jobs. Some, though, are more fascinating that others...I will admit that.I do enjoy stories about people's jobs, particularly odd and/or funny stories, and finding out what's involved in doing a particular job.I have two jobs - one to pay the bills (CAD monkey), and one to keep me from going insane (flying instructor).
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RHP User
13 years ago
there are still some men who are insecure around a woman who is more educated than they are....particularly a woman in a traditionally male dominated, high level profession such as medicine. Personally, I generally don't care how much formal education someone has and the job they do, but having said that I do want to be able to have a decent conversation with them so I like to have some common ground / interests, and they need to have fairly good language skills. Also as Ms Devious said, their values and views on things that are important to me would need to be similar, for example as I'm a huge animal lover anyone who condoned unnecessary animal cruelty would immediately be off my list. Quoting 'Shinas' Two weeks ago...I went out on a "date" with someone from this site. Nice guy, arrived on time, dressed nice, appeared like photo (bonus) all going good - we were sitting at the bar chatting - we had agreed to have dinner prior to meeting if all went well.. Somehow and Im buggered if I can remember how this came about but he finally asked me what I did for a living - I replied " Im a doctor" then explained my speciality as my profession is unususal DEAD SILENCE AWKWARD SILENCE. WAITNG FOR A TSUNAMI TO HIT SILENCE and I waited... He looked at me stunned and said "Gee I never would have picked that about you" - ooooooooooook what did you pick me as ( I wondered) I replied "Why ?" he said I just wouldnt ..he then proceeded to tell me that he was shocked I was a doctor and why hadnt I told him that earlier. I said to him well in all honesty you didnt ask, but we just hadnt really discussed our professions (he was in security) So his standing a the bar and at this stage (eating all the beer nuts and NOT SHARING) but the whole dynamics had changed between us (stuffed if I know why - I was quite ok with what he did..no issue - I thought he was quite lovely) ...as a recovery I then suggested we go for dinner...he said to me "No sorry I can't handle what you do..nice meeting you " and just walked out on me..leaving me...... sitting at the bar..( With No fucking beer nuts I might add) ......mortified Date commenced at 8.00pm - home and wiping makeup off by 8.52pm So glad I spent most of my adult life...educating myself............only to be humiliated............. In future when questioned about my profession Shinas - POLE DANCER EXTRAORDINAIRE......................... ........... and peoples of the forums , as you know I can pole dance !!!! Fuck Me............snob ..???? ..yeah rite... posted from rhp mobile
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Paradisepair
13 years ago
We both love the fact that our naughty friends come from all walks of life. Might even make them sexier.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've taken a while to answer this one because i've been pondering on it..... I have friends from all walks of life, most of my family are as blue collar as you can get, i find the differences in people interesting and love conversing and learning about other peoples lives.....i love the richness that that diversity brings to my life. In a playmate, i do require intelligent conversation and open minded views on the world, these things are not determined by educational background or career choice In a partner, I'm FAR more selective. Before i'll "date" a man, i need to know what he does for a living and how educated he is. Sure sounds like a snob to me....... But, i learnt early on to make it part of the screening process, if he's educated and in a professional career it's far more likely we have similar values, appreciate hard work, be goal driven, be able to converse on the same level.....these things make it more likely that a "relationship" would be successful in the long term. I actually couldn't care about his earning capacity, i'm not very materialistic at all, and my identity is not tied up in how much i earn or what i own.
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RHP User
13 years ago
its one of the reasons i love living in australia... ive spent a fair bit of time overseas , and ive lived a all through asia including india... one of the cultural differences i noticed was in alot of cultures , people judge each other on what work they do and there education...in alot of cultures , if you dont have a good job in an office and youre not educated , they look down on you big time...australia is one of the lucky places on earth where that doesnt happen.One of my brothers spent a couple of years in the usa , one of the things he noticed was people judge you a fair bit depending on what work you do..i was suprised,but that was his experience while working over there. Be glad you live in a tolerant society like australia. its rare..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Seriously involved with a jillaroo, who only had a grade 10 education, and an accountant, who was studying a masters degree. I have dated a lady with a phd and I've dated check out chicks. They all had a few things in common, intelligence, strength, class and, at the time I knew them, bad taste in men. ;-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Shinas, pity you didn't tell him about the work you bring home. You know, those body parts in the bar fridge! ;-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I really was joking!! And, you missed out on one great gal :-(
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