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Are we looking in the wrong places for bi playmates?
June 29 2023
The year before COVID we did a trip to France where we played a lot, and found we were (comparatively) swimming in bi single guys of every race and age group, and many couples with bi men. We have done two trips, one to Germany and one to Spain since the COVID borders opened up, and found the same thing. Are we looking in the wrong places in Australia or are there just a smaller percentage of bi men in the country? Do other couples find this? And if we are looking in the wrong places, what are the right ones?
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teamaj2
a year ago
Back in June 2020 , I put up a post in forum is MMF deemed unacceptable? It got some great responses and maybe they will answer some of your questions .
I do think , from our past experiences , a lot of men do not put bi on their profile. I find it odd to not be transparent in what you seek . How can you meet like minded sexy souls if not open and honest .
I will watch this post with interest.
Good luck . Ax
Hotwife71
a year ago
Mmm Straight but loves the Cock.
RHP User
a year ago
There’s not many right places! This is not Europe unfortunately. There are few genuine bi males who match our interests and even fewer events to attend. It’s been very disappointing for us also. Sounds like planning a European trip is the way to go. Which state are you in? I’ve found a couple of places in Melbourne and can let you know if you’re local
Margo_Lover
a year ago
In our limited experience, most guys who are ok with bi play here, are listed as straight.
Given the homophobia in general society & swinging community here in Oz, it's probably not a bad idea.
When I updated our profile from straight to experimental last year, I immediately had a woman message to say they were no longer interested in meeting us, 'cause her husband is 200% straight.
They subsequently came back to chat, when they realised a great many guys are not as straight as their profile suggests.
I've had others say similar things about not meeting guys who aren't 100% straight.
OTOH - I've had plenty of bi chats with straight people here.
- Alex
grae_x
a year ago
As an openly bi male, yes I do feel it’s harder to find couples, some couples even put on their profile “no bi/gay men”
So maybe there are lots of guys that hide it on their profile. Not sure what the answer is really but to keep being honest about what you’re seeking and hopefully the right person will come along. But we’re definitely here and looking!
Patrick2510
a year ago
I'm well and truly here for couples with bi males
MrandMrsEss
a year ago
Just having got back fro holidays in Europe i understand. I think Europeans are far more open and relaxed about sexuality.
I have been straight all my life but never phobic but as I mature I’ve also been more open to just enjoying the moment and the bodies around me and not thinking about limitations. That said I haven’t really explored much bi stuff but I’m definitely open to it.
You can’t advertise this is Australia as most men are still way too homophobic and if they even think you might be turned on by watching them they would blow up.
I find it near impossible even find mates in the
Is country, I just don’t seem to fit the mould. I adored talking to guys overseas and had deeper conversations even when there was significant language barriers.
Australian are too used to being ruled by rules, we think we are so free and open but it’s just not the case.
Sure there’s the outliers but how do we find each other?
Razzledazzle74
a year ago
I have found when I put Bi on my profile I get inundated with messages from single guys looking for MM hook ups only.
I would love put in back on my profile to attract couples looking for this.RHP User
a year ago
We agree. In the circle of people we have played with, most of the women are bi and most men are straight. It probably is a cultural Aussie thing as you say. We are comfortable playing bi-oral if every one is OK. Yet we are never going to cross a line that make others feel uncomfortable.
countrytouch82
a year ago
Personally I've put experimental (the best equivalent here to heteroflexible), not bi, as bisexual can be read as being open to both men and women in roughly even amounts, and open to many activities. In reality someone who is "heteroflexible" might only have a bi experience once in a blue moon, for certain activities, in the right company.
I haven't experienced Europe, but yes perhaps one of the factors is the bigger pool of population. Some I know are still fearful of being found out and disowned by family or friends here. Europe being a wide mix of countries, folks probably have much more privacy to travel and mingle and play anonymously.
Putting bisexual here will reduce chances of regular interest and dating even further from an already small chance, which is why many list as straight. The only way around this is to have a second profile.
Even though I'd rather experiment in the company of a woman, I did check out a men's sauna recently just to see what it is like.
Lately there are a few open mixed queer events happening, open to all, although anecdotally, a lot of straight men will still attend, mainly because they're among the few events they can attend.RHP User
a year ago
Give it a try and you’ll find everyone is bi. to some degree. 😈🍆🔥😱😂
OneLickOne
a year ago
Love a bit of mmf oral play in the mix
CoastL19
a year ago
I'm a bi curious guy looking for couples as an entry to it all. Just views from guys at this stage.
Hedonist_fun
a year ago
@skinplayers bi male here, i dont list it on my profile as straight male couples get funny about it thinking you wont play hetro. Feel free to shoot me a message. I'd love to chat and catch up for a drink sometime. Also comfortable with cameras as per your profile 😊😈
RHP User
a year ago
Also finding it hard to track down the elusive bi guy
RHP User
a year ago
As a bi male I think it might be bi females are more acceptable in society than bi males as there are loads. Of bi males who claim to be straight. I’m 100% bi male ie I enjoy everything being with a male and especially if the female partner is turned on watching us. I’m generally disappointed when I read couples posts with “ light mm play” but that’s me
DanSensual
a year ago
I am a professionally employed fit and muscular guy who is very bi.
I travel to Brisbane often so not hard to travel North and visit or for you to visit me.
Why haven’t I found you before?RHP User
a year ago
We would love to help you out.....if only you were closer.
RHP User
a year ago
Australia is just less open minded than Europe. Though I feel like the big urban centres are becoming for accepting of it. I’ve mostly listed as bi and have only limited opportunities. But I still reckon being honest is the way to go.
TheNLMevents
a year ago
We are a "bi" couple, go with the flow really as per who we play with, or event/party rules and what everyone is comfortable with. She loves to see MM play, a real turn on for her, just as I love seeing her with other females. We are unashamedly open about it, only downside is some couples with straight males do get scared off, but then, that is how it goes sometimes. For us, living the lifestyle is about the freedom to be ourselves and pursue fun with others who share our predilection for fun and pleasure.
Keepitfun01
a year ago
Alot of men will play bi just to get to the lady. That has been my experience from previous relationship where gf loved bi men and encouraged it. She learnt very quickly the questions to ask and the red flags from their questions
RHP User
a year ago
I can relate to your post. I consider myself basically hetero, what I mean is I’m into women to have long term relationships with but I would like to explore more of my bisexuality. I enjoy to play with a nice cock but I love pussy more… does that make sense. I’m reluctant to be completely open about this because I’m worried about the repercussions to my work and social life. I don’t think society is really ready to accept bisexual men…
RHP User
a year ago
pick me please
SnB_Couple
a year ago
We're relatively new to RHP but have been swinging for a while. The only male-male bisexual experience we've encountered in this community was a very fun club in Berlin. It was just oral on that occasion (giving and receiving). But I would definitely do it again in a similar situation. I'd be cautious to initiate anything like that in Australia for reasons already covered in this thread - It seems a lot less acceptable in this country than in Europe.
So I'd probably describe myself as heteroflexible. I'm not sexually attracted to men, but would enjoy sexual interactions with the right guy as long as my partner was present to share the experience because that's a huge part of the turn-on. I couldn't kiss another guy, but would consider most other things. We do have a sloppy seconds fantasy that we intend to fulfill one day. Why don't we use heteroflexible on our profile? Because we're predominantly looking for bi-sexual females, so it doesn't seem relevant.RHP User
a year ago
Being an orally bi comfortable man myself.I can safely say there are alot of us. The issue is that 3 people sharing similar sexual interests is really difficult to find. The guy may be bi but he may have a beard. Thats a turn off for the lady of the couple, the guy maybe a bit chubby, thats a turn off for the couple. I guess its a numbers game have to keep sending messages and chatting to find your unicorn :) It is true that lots of men take the bi thing out of profiles because they get alot of messages from men when they really want a couple. I for one would love a bi couple to play with :)
ynot246181
a year ago
I don’t have bi on my profile but am very bi
As I come into contact with a lot of people in my job most of them are very red neck kind
So that makes it hard for me
melbbeachboy87
9 months ago
Wish there were swingers events for bi men, women and couples. I prefer playing with bi couples who enjoy MM. I always try to make it known I'm bi when playing with a couple.
OurPlayTime2023
9 months ago
As a couple who like the openness of MM contact we think RHP could do much more. An example is a Bi curious couples search without the ability to search male or female, so the result is always couples with Bi women...... It's odd that RHP does not facilitate this as other sites do . Hard to understand in 2024
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