Are we TOO charismatic? Is that even a thing?

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  why the question? Have you been told it's too much? I think it's perfect, or almost, the text that is, still no pictures of Mr, sorry but that grinds my gears, but otherwise you have 9 friends and 4 validations, you look active, so why the concern now?

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Hi you two.. You seem like you've got your life together. I'd be careful with the 'too charismatic' comment or saying how amazingly wonderful you are. Confidence is one thing, boasting can be off-putting. As a single woman on this site with a pretty in-depth profile, I can say that most won't read your profile. If they do, they most likely will not match what you are looking for but contact you anyway. Of those that do both, 90% probably won't 'click'. However, the ones that tick all the boxes with a great connection make it all worthwhile. As a suggestion, you have a lot of bullet points. It reads a little like a shopping list. It is a little intimidating looking at a couple of long lists. Maybe make it a little more easy reading - so it flows. Also from what I have read in various posts, most say that couples put in a list of what they want and not what they bring to the mix. Maybe focus more on that? Describe what you can do for potential playmates. Also you have photos of Ms in the profile pics but not Mr. He doesn't have to show his face or appendages - better if he doesn't - just a couple of tasteful body shots. Perhaps one of you together? Tasteful.... Anyway - that is my 2 cents worth! Good luck! KH

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  EarthQueen

  9 years ago

  Your profile is great. I would stay true to yourself and keep it as it is. Some may be intimidated by your confidence but in the long run will you have a connection with them if you met? Probably not. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Curioustwo88

  9 years ago

  I just read your profile and thought it was great! We are the same as you in the sense that we want there to be a connection with those we play with. We always read people's profiles and the more info the better, it helps us to decide if we will get along or not. I think it's a reflection of you and you should leave it as it is because it should increase your chances of meeting likeminded people. If we were near you we would definitely message you after reading it! Mrs C - Posted from rhpmobile

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  boobsandbusted

  9 years ago

  Read it all and liked it all ,but then again our profile isn't a short one either ,lol.Agree with Meander ,a shot of mr would help - Posted from rhpmobile

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  NudesRus

  9 years ago

  I think I've said enough👍🏻

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Agree with the others, no pic of him is a huge red flag. I don't have a problem with your words, but um, I think you should google charismatic because I didn't get that. But then for me that's hard to convey in words, even harder in point form.

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  dudendudette

  9 years ago

  Thanks for the feedback guys! The reason we've avoided pics of Mr is because we both work in fairly open and public jobs in a regional town where we know quite a few people, and he has some pretty identifiable tattoos. Plenty of shots of him in the private gallery, but maybe we'll try to get some sneaky ones that don't give away his identity haha. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Well I am often told I am tooo verbose... that people cannot be bothered reading about me... well all that tells me is that they are not for me anyway... I want to understand a person... at some level before progressing further. Go guys... let it all hang out... so to speak. M

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I wouldn't say your profile is charismatic, it reads a bit like a job advert or CV. Perhaps something light and fun in a paragraph or two is better when selling yourselves,? When I meet people I am interested in what they do for fun, what have they experienced in the scene and what they would like to experience. In a profile you might mention those things in a high level way rather than providing specifics. On a profile I'm not interested to know if people have kids, or scars, or reading about their boundaries before we have even spoken. I want to know if we will connect and what makes you a fun couple to get to know. At the moment I don't get that from your current profile. It's all about you, you and you with no emphasis on who you would like to meet. Personally, I dislike your first two paragraphs. To me it says you may be judgemental and are already planning to knock people back. It's not a very positive first start and for that reason I would probably click next. Just my opinion of course, and you did ask. :))

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  Sawadee

  9 years ago

  Less is more.. Takes me back to my original profile a few years back.. One day I opened it up to see if I could refine and make it more interesting. Well '. I think I cut the banter down to just about in half . I reasoned if I used the KISS principle , you'd still get the gist about what I'm all about anyway..

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  dudendudette

  9 years ago

  Thanks for everyone's feedback! Definitely will take some things on board, and take our time considering others. I guess the answer is really that it depends on the other couple's personal preferences and what they're looking for as to whether or not our profile is too much. We will rethink some of the content 🙂 Agree in that perhaps charismatic isn't the right word to describe the profile itself, but I think the general point was communicated. - Posted from rhpmobile

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