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Are forums like this intimidating?
December 04 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
I hope people don't find these forums intimidating.... But I'm not really what you'd call easily intimidated, so I don't know... I love it when new faces pop up and I've made friends and contacts on RHP almost exclusively through the forums... My first foray into the forums was with a post asking for help with a problem and I got so many great comments and opinions from people that were total strangers at the time that I was instantly hooked :P Many many many of the comments on that thread were ones I didn't agree with but everyone voiced their opinion politely with no attacks or rudeness, just sharing their opinions and giving me advice. I thought it was great! I think commenting in the forums should be obligatory... you get to know more about a person by reading their opinions and comments than you do by reading their profile :P
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RHP User
16 years ago
Firstly I'll just say that after reading quite a few posts in these forums, Gaz strikes me as one of the few members who actually speaks honestly in his posts and in an interesting manner. I have commented on a few posts and probably rocked the boat a little, but these are my honest opinions. Unfortunately my wife and I will not make false comments to posts through fear we may offend someone and not have the opportunity to have sex with them or miss out viewing their cam as they expose themselves. We do not claim to be Sex Therapists because we have tried this or that. We do not claim we are right or wrong in our replies to posts. It is only an opinion. If someone feels intimidated by a post or reply thats unfortunate. We find a little discourse and argument makes good reading. Especially when someone is being logical and honest and not being swayed by other motives.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I am a fairly new member and love reading what everyone has to say
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RHP User
16 years ago
Gaz you bashfully shy.makes me wonder what would ever make you blush..hmmm..lobut i do at times think ive said to much..therefore somethings best off unsaid.The forums can be like a double edge sword for me...Sophie..i found the same thing also...that one can learn more about people in the forums..they( forum)have shown me that when someone has suddenly lost interest....because i speak from the heart of experience..i say dilligafas ive also discovered that there are those that read them..but dont contribute..but rather make rash judgments..Whitehawk..you should be given the woodenspoon...for the greatest s**t stirrer...lmaobut i get you..and your opinions are of value to you, to share.Trish...ive got an acronym...TMI..to much information..hope ya havent heard that one..i learnt it from mine....lolso when i say it to my kids...they crack up...as there is usually.hand n facial actions as well....guess ya got to be there..lolxoxoxheymumma
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey Gaz, love reading the various forums......have a chuckle and laugh out loud moments....they can also be very informative! You do ask in your post "What can be done.....or not done...to help people feel more comfortable sharing their respective thoughts, desires and opinions?" I was pretty well slammed and accused by many of being a whinger with my first post....only a couple of people read it and understood my frustration (big difference between the two). Hey...I am generally a pretty easy going, confident girl, but those accusations did put me off posting anything for quite some time. There are times when I think many rhper's have been a little guilty (myself included) of taking a sincere post out of context, misunderstanding the point of their post & jumping in with our 2 bobs worth of opinions and slamming the person when all they are doing is asking a genuine question. (ok...yes, there are some on here just asking to be slammed every time they post) There is a difference between humour and putting someone down out of ignorance. Maybe its a good idea to read the post a couple of times and think about it before letting our fingers play the keyboard faster than our brains can process the info.... At times I am amazed, in a good way, by some of the questions/topics posted by many, especially the youngies on here.....I love the fact they are so upfront and wanting to learn! Love their sense of self, their confidence and freedom and the humour just cracks me up. still intrigued & curious
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RHP User
16 years ago
Intriguedcurious... I totally concur. It was actually a young person's post where that person was slammed that prompted me to ask this question. Sometimes I do get trigger happy and shoot my mouth off with hasteful typing and it is regretful weeks later reading a topic with less coffee.... I wish for an edit button ... even if it only allows us to add a postscript. Whitehawk... there are strippers with bikie bouncers and then there are people who strip in sex clubs, often they're just other members taking to the stage... in my case this was a stripper who's husband was high fiving me while we did the old spit roast job on stage. Not so unusual on a Friday night mate. You need to get out more. Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
Gaz, I think 99% of the time your coffee induced, irreverant, outrageous, pmsl comments are taken in the right context. Maybe we need an ongoing forum heading.......000PS.....CAN I TAKE THAT BACK! ...or... FOOT IN MOUTH...AGAIN... where we can humbly hang out heads, and admit our feelings of shame at our words.... A RHP confessional of sorts....penance will be handed out! ic (of no particular religous persuasion and no offence intended)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yes I believe these forums can be very intimidating if you are on 'the opposing side' of a popular opinion of a forum regular. You usually get shot down in flames and told you're just doing it for attention etc. I don't think much can be done about this though Gaz, sadly. Just like high school there'll always be the 'gang' who seem to think they rule the school .... Guess ppl have to make the choice whether they believe in their opinion strong enough to stand up to the bullies lol Elljae
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RHP User
16 years ago
Trish, It sounds as if you may need special therapy... and we are sure there are plenty of "therapists" out here willing to help you through your troubled times... As to your diet, All the experts say we all need a variety and it would seem that your definately getting a variety so we think you will be fine in that department. In fact, you may be able to even teach other about the joys of a varied diet.... maybe even write a book about it.. including pictures for those who have a little trouble reading.. As to the pictures.. we would be only too happy to help you take the pictures for the book... As to the original post about these posts being intimidating... not at all for us.. in fact we enjoy reading a wide range of posts and opinons.. not that we will agree with all of them, but that is the beauty of them.. they are just others opinons and open up the scope for debate and learning... So, please everybody keep up the good work.. Hugs and Kisses to you all.. Mr&Mrs Av.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Trish, that sounds like too much fun to be a penance....lol ic
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RHP User
16 years ago
In my opinion I don't think the forums are intimidating, infact i love them. I've not been posting a great deal recently because I've been trying to deal with some things in 'real life', but I have a much more fun time on RHP when I am posting in the forums; it's like having a conversation with the people I like on RHP but we're all involved...if that makes sense?I can see why some may find it intimidating, particularly if someone jumps down someone elses throat, but generally speaking everyone who posts comes across pretty relaxed and helpful with their advice.x
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RHP User
16 years ago
Having been involved in other forums in my professional life, I've had to hold my tongue at times. I feel completely at ease here though in posting just about anything without fear of being called an idiot or being flamed. For once I can speak my mind on any topic without people calling HR or sexual harrasment just because I want to ask questions :-) The forum regulars tend to make you feel quite at ease which is great. My only concern is the filtering from RHP that means as a newbie you can't learn why a certain post was not allowed to make it through. That makes it hard for you to know how to modify your behaviour to better comply wtih RHPs policies. For newbies - I would love to see some RHP for Dummies guide that would help you understand not only the forums, but things like flirts, short lists, hot lists etc and if RHP made this pop up automatically for the newbies for the first 10 times they logon it would help them understand how to interact better with the site and the people on the site. For the regulars - thanks :-) I've communicated with a number of you via email and appreciate the new friendships and people to catch a coffee with when I travel around... now if only there was an RHP USA as I'm over here for the next week... oh well - Yankee gals tend to love an Aussie accent ;-) Wayne x
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RHP User
16 years ago
I've had this in the archives (templates) for a while but couldn't actually post because the thread disappeared when Gaz' profile was deleted, before I actually posted on it lol but as you can see it has now been resurrected. Lol Gaz, you don't need an edit button to add a postscript... you could 'reply with quote' to your own post... On that topic, every time I hear someone say something about being able to delete their own posts, it brings to mind a saying that I haven't been able to remember well enough to quote in the forums, but I'm happy to say that I finally came across it in my fav real life mag lol.Words that are spoken can never be recalled, so remember to think twice!I'm sure there's a better version of that quote tho lol, and to follow up... a quote I keep next to the pc that seems to work here...FORGIVENESS: Our own ability to be able to give up hope that things might have turned out differently to what they did.I thought this was a great topic to introduce and I've waited to reply to it to make sure I had time to devote to the muddled musings of my very active mind.I have found the forums intimidating and have tried not to be intimidating myself. But upon reflection over the past few weeks where I have questioned myself about my influence in the forums, I'm not too sure I achieved my goal. I hope you find my musings still topical... lol, this is one reminder I can now delete...Hugs... Mrs P'
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