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Antidepressants and sex
December 10 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
My life has been atrains wreck forr about the last six months, and has been a mess for years before that, and after numerous head shrinks, it was determined that I am depressed (duh). They put me on seroquel, and I can't feel my damn lips, and slur my speech, in zombie land until lunch time. Sorry, I will live in my dark hole without the meds and crawl out on my own, don't even want to take the CHANCE of it screwing with my sex life, about the only pleasure I have left.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Personally I have no personal experience in this area but I've bumped this as I'm sure their are many out there in similar circumstances and I hope that others will share This is such a relevant topic on a subject that still is not openly discussed I do hope we get some posting happening here :) Bump
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RHP User
13 years ago
I agree that its brave of you to put it out there.For what its worth my ex has been on pristiq for a while now and at the time it totally killed all sex drive. The depression was not the reason for being ex btw. I can sympathise that there is a choice of the lesser of two evils of side effects v treating the depression but glad to hear that for the most part it is working for you.Cheers,W.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I know where you're coming from, that seroquel is evil shit... IMHO doctors feed that out like lollies because they take the easy way out and try to make you feel nothing at all. I stopped taking it as soon as I could... There's a reason it's only meant to be prescribed for schizophrenia and psychosis
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thanks for the replies. I don't think i'm particularly brave as such but really it's just an illness like any other. The only difference is it effects the brain and not the lungs and heart etc. I guess the hardest thing for people to understand is that it's not the persons fault it's just chemicals misfiring in the brain. As far as sex goes luckily it hasn't effected me too much.
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
13 years ago
Hey i think I've seen this in another forum today. I've been on my happy pills for a year now thank god it hasn't changed my sex life at all, but it has in past ...if its causing issues talk to your Dr there's always a pill to fix a pill i think
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RHP User
13 years ago
i was seeing a guy for around 12mths..im not sure what he was taking but it was for depression......he was hard all the time...he cam pretty quick but didnt go down!! which was great as we didnt have to stop start stop start lol......ohhh and he always had alot of pre cum it was like 'leaking' all the time...i didnt think this was normal......he said that it had been like that since he started the meds.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thank you for talking about this Deepdarkwoods, there is unfortunately still a lot of stigma associated with depression (and mental illness in general) and we need more people like yourself to get it out there in the open. It's an important topic that affects a significant amount of the population.One important point to note is that anti-depressant medications are not all the same: there are different classes of drugs that interact with the brain chemistry in different ways, so the mediction has to be specific to the individual. It's definitely not a case of "one size fits all". Yankmychain, if the side effects of the medication are making your life worse than dealing with the depression, please please please talk to your psychologist and GP and discuss trying different types of medication before giving up on the whole thing altogether. It's absolutely normal for an individual to try several different antidepressants until they find one that works well for them. Have patience : )xx Stuck
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RHP User
13 years ago
I was told that sex would "be about as interesting as washing up"I was on lexapro about twelve months ago for a period of 12 mnths.My libido just ploughed on through with barely a hiccup, however the orgasm evaporated, i would get close so that it was almost painful, then I began to experience "head cums" think icecream headache with jelly legs and goosebumps ! But the hard on persisted !Lexapro was great it kept me on a very even keel without grinning idiot symptoms and did it's job.In retrospect that time also taught me to be a less selfish lover and to enjoy the gift of giving and giving and giving lol ! I value it.The downside is 12mnths on orgasm is still elusive, it can happen but boy does it take some work ! Something my partners reap the benefits of but is beginning to frustrate me. And I know I have lost a few f(w)b's because of it.Gutsy post, thanks.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Since starting my meds is that there is a lag between ejaculation and orgasm of about 20 - 30 seconds... Quite weird but almost feels like I'm having multiple orgasms :) great for me!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've been on Luvox/movox this time around for about 8 months and not a problem at all. I originally started on it due to another medical imbalance about 10 years ago and remember it took at good 6-8 months for me to start to feel 'normal' again... including sexually. I had no libido at all, was incredibly worn out and tired for along time but one day after quite a period of time, it did start to settle. I dont know if there is a difference in the way the drug affects a woman versus a man but i would definitely recommend staying on it and hanging it there... I do experence as you have said: Since starting my meds is that there is a lag between ejaculation and orgasm of about 20 - 30 seconds... Quite weird but almost feels like I'm having multiple orgasms :) great for me!!! and like you, i love it! After such a long time i felt that i was feeling better and slowly (with doctors supervision) weaned myself of them. But it turns out that this Sassy one IS a bitch and needed the help... so this time round althought im back on them, its the lowest dose possible and i feel great. You wouldnt believe the amount of people in society who are on anti depressants. Life is tough, fast and stressful for us all and if you need that little bit of help whether in the form of anti depressants or therapy... do what YOU have to do to feel good. Best of luck with it
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RHP User
13 years ago
The nasal sprays they sell to help men last longer and fix premature ejaculation is just anti depressants in a weaker form.... So it obviously has that effect....:-)
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verago250
13 years ago
I also suffer the "BLACK DOG" .Was diagnosed about 5 years ago,when I tryed to make a big life/career change and it all went pear shaped.Have since discoverd that Ive had it most of my life.Anyway have tryed most meds with little or no effect/help for my mood, and can vouch for many of the side effects.Lack of errection,unable to cum,headache and nausea just to name a few.Now trying a psycholigst for the 2nd time.Dont think it will work for me.Good luck for those that the meds work for.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm sorry you haven't found the right meds/help yet. One thing I found is that if you stuck in the same rut no amount of medication is going to help you at all. My depression only came to a head 6 months ago but realise now it was going on undiagnosed and unbeknownst to me for possibly years. For the first 2 months I sincerely thought my medication just wasn't working.. One day after spending 3 days in bed only getting out for coffees and cigarettes I thought fuck this I don't want to feel like this anymore and decided to go for a walk down near the river and sat reading a book for four hours. The following day I pushed myself to go and do some things that I hadn't done for years like visiting people I hadn't seen in years. That day I felt like I was on speed. The turnaround was that dramatic. Since then I have had many things happen that would have left me unable to get out of bed in the morning but I've hardly felt bad at all. What I'm getting at is that pills are not always the answer, you need to push yourself and decide to take control before the pills have a chance to work!! Best of luck :)
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
You are extremely brave posting this on here! You have my respect! Many ppl especially men will not talk about depression as they see it as a sign of weakness or failure! It's an illness n like any other illness needs to be dealt with! All medications have side effects n it is getting the correct meds that will suit you. And the mind is a very powerful tool!! If you read that a side effect will cause loss of libido, it prob will happen as you have put this thought in your mind! Remember - if you think you can or you think you can't - you are right!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sometimes the reason for depression can be clinical to which (depending on severity) one may need to take tablets, there are alternatives to this, by lifting the seretonin levels naturally, eating the right foods, doing things that make you happy laughing(good comedy, joke with friends), smiling triggers off endorphins which helps make you feel good so thinking of things that make you happy can lift your mood considerably. Emotional based depression can be eleviated by finding out the cause(not blame) and going about remedying it, once you find the reason you can invariably find a solution, some people may find a whole series of events become so overwhelming they cannot see the forest from the trees and they can't see a way out and sink into a bad state, this can result in addictive behaviour like drugs, alcohol, gambling or any obsessive behaviour, this can result in short term fix but excessive behaviour can make them sink further into depression as their addiction spirals out of control, once they realise there is an addiction and they face up to the underlying problem and get help like counselling etc then they can see a light at the end of the tunnel and combat their depression. It is usually when one cannot see a way out or they are in a seemingly no win situation and they cannot change the problem as it depends on others to change (ie. nasty divorce/relationship/bullying etc), one can get caught up in this and find a hopeless situation. the alternative is to not change the other and work on oneself or just walk away. Extreme stress and pressure can cause one's libido to be effected, maybe if they can reduce the stress level and learn to relax about things then maybe the libido will come back or there are other alternatives until it does.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Medications will help the mood, but you need to do your bit also. I agree with the line of thought that if you read or are told by your doctor the medication will effect your libido ' it will happen for sure.. Deepdarkwoods77 did the right thing, took matters into his own hands and things started to work.. Sitting around waiting for miracles wont happen. Throw yourself back into the life' do the things that make you happy and dont stop.. Not saying antidepressants dont work, they do' but there are side effects which I can vouch for. I can stay hard and root for ages , but the effect of medication sometimes prevents me from cumming and as much as you still enjoy the root' the person your rooting think its their fault you cant cum.. so that only ad's to the frustration..BigBusty BBW Track down that man of yours and find out what medication he was on.. Seems he found the right one.. I want what he's having... hahaCheers Jay
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verago250
13 years ago
I know this topic has slid from meds and sex to depression and I hope its ok to continue! I wish it was just as simple as getting on with life and doing things you enjoy.Been doing that, but the bad stuff keeps pilling up.Now back living on my owne on my farm because I cant sell or lease and 2 days ago it looks like my 31 year marriage is over.Stuff is happening that Iv no control over.Christmas wont be much fun as I will be on my owne and will have nowere to go.I post this only to give others an insight of depression.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Couldn't wait to get off them but it wasn't easy. They are a crutch. Use them while you need to but get yourself well as quickly as you can and learn to stand on your own again. Good luck.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Anti-depressant drugs seem to be prescribed for any sort of emotional problem these days Pharmaceutical companies that manufacture and market psych meds are some of the most profitable companies in the world, it is a huge "Industry" Doctors seem to encourage patients to stay on these meds for very long periods of time, then if/when the patient decides to withdraw from the drug all hell breaks loose due to discontinuation syndromes (withdrawal), the patient has become drug dependent and cannot function without the drug. I see the "flip side" of the mental health industry on a daily basis, people that have been injured by the medications alone Please research any psych medications you may take thoroughly.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've been on 4-5 different meds over the last 3 years, currently taking 3 different ones and my libido has been unaffected for that whole time.
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RHP User
13 years ago
That is the part that worries me the most.. Inadvertently missed 1 dose through no fault of my own and omg, shakes, nausea, vomiting, cold sweats like you wouldn't believe, absolutely horrible!! Whatever you do don't ever stop these drugs cold turkey as these discontinuation side effects can last months even a year.
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