M65 F65
Anal retentive egotists
February 08 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
I will bet I can guess which couple you have been talking to and if I am wrong I will apologise immediately.....to someone anyway. I am pretty sure I have come across this before :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
As you say Drew it's to meet like minded people. However what I like probably differs from what you like, vice versa and so on and so on with every person on RHP. . The fact that it's seen as a sex/dating site allows us to be more open about our sexual interests, fetishes and what we are looking for in comparison to a vanilla dating site. As long as everyone is honest in what they say they are looking for (I won't be holding my breath for that to happen) , what RHP then does is make it easier to find like minded people/couples/groups. . Even when you do find others that are looking for the exact same experience that you are, you then have the whole vetting process of personality, looks and chemistry. Whether or not someone feels that others may have unrealistic expectations doesn't matter, it's each persons right to play only with those they are comfortable playing with. . RHP is what you want it to be and it's different for everybody; Looking for your one true love?..... Try RHP, Looking for swinging couples?.... Try RHP, Looking for a fuck buddy or NSA fun?..... Try RHP, Looking for that 3rd to spice up your relationship?.... Try RHP, Looking for friendship?.... Try RHP, Looking for numerous one-nighters?.... Try RHP, Just want to read and contribute to the forums?.... Try RHP, or, Are you looking to explore your deepest,darkest and most perverted fantasies?... Again try RHP. *Note to RHP: I may have just written your next advertising campaign.* . As I said, being on RHP just makes it easier to find like minded people. Being on RHP doesn't make a person a "sure thing" though. . Of course this is all just my opinion and it may be I who has got it wrong. . Cheers and I do hope you find what you are looking for. Rusty
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RHP User
15 years ago
welcome to RHP we thought swingers would all be cool, easy going, non judgemental, sexy people but sadly many are very closed minded and have no sense of humor...then complain they get no sex...lol just be yourself and you will find the right people...yes they are here too
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RHP User
15 years ago
Some people are just full of their own importance... even without their desk labels and clothes on.HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey Drew, Granted the couple you mention do seem a little hung up on themselves or maybe insecure. However your post raises the question of what is an "appropriate" number of exclusion/inclusion criteria before you agree to play ? Is it okay to list a size requirement (eg, average or athletic builds only). Is it okay to specify a preferred length of penis ? How about the amount of hair on a persons body ? I've read some very long lists !!! It's kind of strange when you realise you meet 8 out of 10 of the requirements but not the other two. What does that mean ? Personally I still believe chatting to a person (on cam) is the best way to start. While I may have some requirements of my own, if there's no sparks, there's no play. Simple ! And... why would any couple close down their profile after meeting one couple ? That's just INSANE ! I love having the supermarket always open... just in case I need something extra. Good luck, Saturn
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RHP User
15 years ago
You have just made contact with the wrong couple, That must be the best list we have heard of. Your profile reads and looks great, we gaurantee you will meet up with compatable couples, they are here, as well some strange ones (ask Stalky)...nothing surprises after being on the forums for a while now, stick to your ideals.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Have to agree that must take a award for being the most Anal!
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RHP User
15 years ago
but if you make them ridiculous you're just never gonna get laid. . i think perhaps, maybe, the people with a million boxes that need ticking before they'll even meet you get themselves locked into window-shopping mode. Even if someone did meet their exacting standards they're likely to find some other imperfection that will give them a nice simple excuse to stay safely in their fantasy land.
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RHP User
15 years ago
whats the point of being an exclusive swapping couple....do you have to sign a contract for that?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'exitonly' whats the point of being an exclusive swapping couple....do you have to sign a contract for that? If I had to guess, I'd say they want to fuck bareback. As for the contract... well... it would be no better than a marriage contact so far as restricting sexual relationships go.HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'exitonly'whats the point of being an exclusive swapping couple....do you have to sign a contract for that? Being exclusive is a popular thought with newbie couples when they are considering entering the lifestyle, it could be safety concerns or they simply only want to play with one other couple. Most couples consider its safer to only play with other married couples. When they reasearch it further they reliase being exclusive defeats the very purpose of entering the swinging lifestyle as variety is lacking. Plus history has constantly demostrated that couples enetering this exclusive arrangement are doomed to fail, risking their own marrages in the process. They have removed the safety net that makes swinging so successfull .
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey Drew,Why do I suspect that couple of mentioned will be the ones crying loudest that they just can't find the right couple here, everyone is a player blah blah (and once more for emphasis) blah.Whilst it is good to have a list of criteria when seeking someone, that criteria should never be set in concrete and displayed on the front lawn! I have met some lovely ladies that, if I had obeyed their wishes in the profile, would never have responded to their msgs but they saw something in me, whether it be something I penned in the forums or something else, that made them forgo one of their deal breakers. Mooka
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RHP User
15 years ago
I know that there are some really great folk on here...have met a quite a few...On reflection I suppose that I was not really honest in my first comments! I found it irritating that someone with such an obviously high opinion of themselves would give me a full psychlogical rundown of my shortcomings....But as you have all indicated we all have to sift through the dirt to get to the gold. And in the long run folk with such high expectations will find it really hard to make that connection- sad because they could be enjoying good company instead of waiting for perfection as they see it. I count myself lucky to have met some of those who really are on here to expand their horizons in a giving way and to combine friendship with fun....
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RHP User
15 years ago
They will miss out on meeting some fantastic people unless they relax their rigorous standards.
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RHP User
15 years ago
But, I have to say that while my partner and I have prerequisites that we would prefer potential playmates meet, it's not really a deal breaker. Our "must have's" aren't too over the top, mainly about physical appearance but if your not attractive but have a fantastic personality and we all click then, personality will always win over what you don't have. We're both really young and are looking for "like minded" people also and if we all click and have a great time (without actually having to venture into the bedroom for it) then we're off to a great start! However I think that asking for an exclusive couple to play with, not willing to share anything personal etc and making you jump through all these hoops just to "qualify", c'mon it's just sex...not a job interview. They sound insecure, picky and boring to me... your on RHP for crying out loud, they need to live a little! Hope your search for like minded couples get's easier from here on in Drew :) Bunnii
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