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An object of desire,or just a convenient object?
March 09 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
For many its a new experience to let go of convention and go out there and try a few things.I rather like to think of myself as an object of desire. I do need visual stimulation and chemistry and to be honest it is a fuck that I like, but like I said in that other post, a little sugar coating on the vulgarity of it all, helps to get your end away. long term lovers well they stay long term lovers as we get to know each other as people. Its arse about on RHP , its not like people are meeting and dating and waiting a few months to have sex. most have sex the first time they lay eyes on each other if the chemistry is therethey will have the ninja fuckthey will experiment and go to swingersor go bi sexual so I think its there sexual desires that drive the boat and that really can be blind as love at times.good to see ya posting again luuuvvvv you work
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is just sex for pleasure. Like golf..does it really matter what the ball looks like as long as it is usable and you have chosen the correct club. Too MUCH over thinking goes on in here sometimes. Sex can be just a sport after all. Gym Junkies are no different to requiring the chemical rush.
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gazpacho
12 years ago
Blind fold me and fuck me stupid Hugs Gazpacho - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'gazpacho51' Blind fold me and fuck me stupid Hugs Gazpacho - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'gazpacho51' Blind fold me and fuck me stupid Hugs Gazpacho - Posted from rhpmobile When and where? I am in!
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RHP User
12 years ago
group sex...... well it depends for me. If I have some attraction to everyone in the group, then I am happy for it to be a free for all were everyone gets a turn at being the star..... or star fish. LOL. Lying back and letting people pamper you is pretty nice. If you look at it as an overwhelming sensation of pleasure a bit like someone giving you a massage, you are concentrating on how it feels not some much on who is doing what. Stop thinking about it with your head Ms Q and just let you body feel. I admit this can be hard to do for some of us. I think going from one random person to another can be bad for lots of people particularly if they are looking for intimacy and connection.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm not an impala, waiting for the vultures to peck at me... I need to be attracted to whomever I have sex with, or I won't enjoy it. This is why I suck at group sex. I've found at previous orgies I kept wanting to say: "Not you, no, no, yes, no, no, yes, no..." It just ruins things for me. (So I'll just watch all the bi men instead, hehe.)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I remember seeing a photo of a cat with its head stuck in a can..... .. and while it struggled.... ... a tomcat came up behind and took advantage of the situation. Im no tomcat. DG
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gazpacho
12 years ago
That's not the same thing DG. Please resist the urge to associate rape with group sex. Hugs Gazpacho - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Q I have heard that some gay saunas have a complete black room, you can't see at all and they are filled with naked men squirming all over each other and falling on each other's cocks. You don't see the other person. Also men/women that have the glory hole fetish... That would be visual but no connection and no knowledge of who is on the end of that dick.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Are people saying the OP is over thinking for and saying to her to stop it?? The OP has posted a forum which is "important" to her, may not be to others, but to her it is. If she didn't think it was a good enough question, she would not have posted a forum. She's a wise woman. To me her question is a valid one. I'm interest as well in this topic and seeing some answers. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
I know that humans of all sexual orientations have been having group sex for milenia,my question was not just about that but also anonymous sex...is it as good for the soul as the body?.....as for over thinking....I do enjoy a good think:-) xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think you may be rightin questioning if it is good for the soul. I tend to think that too much can have a negative affect on ones confidence and self esteem for some especially for those who are looking to use sex to build themselves up and feel better and attractive. For me there has to be some level of attraction and eye candy to enjoy the moment to its full extent but yes you have to be careful not to let emotions take over otherwise you can feel used and abused. An orgy can be like a drug when the highs worn off you hit a low seeking your next hit - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Indeed Q is a fabulous smart person and so I know she at least understands what we mean by "stop over thinking things "
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RHP User
12 years ago
Wtf? We're talking consensual sex, not fucking someone who's incapacitated!
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RHP User
12 years ago
@ mea & Gaz..... So sure, rape is a no-brainier...... but the point I was considering while distracted by cats...... was.....while you're busy focusing on something or someone delicious..... , another someone approaches you looking to get a piece of the action. Yeah, obviously, you can say no..... but more than a few times there have been comments expressed in here about pushy people who need to be told no several times, or they don't ask, but just start touching. Or, they've mentioned a need to go to a more private/less public room........ So clearly, there is a degree of control that is surrendered in group or less private circumstances..... at least until you are forced to voice 'no' to the point where it's accepted. That much is hard to argue against. So while it may matter to (royal) you who you fuck.... in the group situation, there may be others who, to be blunt, couldn't give a stuff, as long as they stuff it somewhere. So the choice isn't always 100% yours if you may need to say no. DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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gazpacho
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' So clearly, there is a degree of control that is surrendered in group or less private circumstances..... at least until you are forced to voice 'no' to the point where it's accepted. That much is hard to argue against. So while it may matter to (royal) you who you fuck.... in the group situation, there may be others who, to be blunt, couldn't give a stuff, as long as they stuff it somewhere. So the choice isn't always 100% yours if you may need to say no. DG - Posted from rhpmobile In my experience (well, at the very least in my presence) those pushy pricks are very quickly dealt with by any of the guys present and they're sent packing with their dick in hand. Believe me, nobody likes an arsehole in those circumstances because it has the potential to stifle everyone's fun. Well... as for the arsehole, you know what I mean. Hugs Gazpacho
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gazpacho
12 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' I know that humans of all sexual orientations have been having group sex for milenia,my question was not just about that but also anonymous sex...is it as good for the soul as the body?.....as for over thinking....I do enjoy a good think:-) xx Q Yeah, I read your question right the first time. Any one instance of anonymous sex is rarely rewarding, next, next, next... lol until you're feeling shagged and just want to get home and rest. That totally fucked feeling, in itself, is pleasant. You don't have to think about anything, or anyone's feelings, it's a form of gluttony ...it is rewarding just to let go of the intellectual side of things and flow with your sensations.. the sensual overload and dopamines from all that sex can effectively reset your brain in a kind of refreshing way... fuck the pain away. lol. Feeling totally exhausted from this over indulgence, you can find respite if only for a short while. Is it good for the soul? Well, that depends on the condition of the soul. For a person that craves human sensual contact I think it can be very good for the soul. If, by accident, you meet someone that way, (which has happened in very few memorable occasions for me) who has exactly the same requirements at the very same time, then there can be an unforgettable connection that you'll be floating on for days and remember that experience forever. I can't remember the faces, of those few instances, and didn't ask for names, but I remember the feelings evoked. Making these emotional and spiritual connections are good for the soul. Letting go of the intellect is essential I think, to get down into that level of immersion and union. If you want to have an intellectual connection, you don't need the fucking part. Hugs Gazpacho
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RHP User
12 years ago
I want to just answer "Yes". There is something powerfully animalistic, raw, sensual and forbidden about group-sex, sport-sex, and sex-with-many. The experience as a couple who are deeply connected outside of the situation is, in my reasonably limited experience, exciting, scary and binding. But, as a single, which I have also experienced, there is a touch of... is it too melodramatic to say, sadness? Or at least, a sense of 'then what'? My observation is that personality is even more important in a group situation than it might be in a casual 1-1 hook up... perhaps its because it's easy to see how people react to those around them. Or maybe it's because in a really sexy situation, physical attributes matter far less. Faaark... want some now!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'gazpacho51' Blind fold me and fuck me stupid Hugs Gazpacho - Posted from rhpmobile your already silly
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' I know that humans of all sexual orientations have been having group sex for milenia,my question was not just about that but also anonymous sex...is it as good for the soul as the body?.....as for over thinking....I do enjoy a good think:-) xx Q sex is often a way to talk to the gods but in our culture , western culture God is there to make people feel shit about their sexuality. the soul is something different to everybody, some people don't have one god has better things to worry about than consensual sex I would think. its guilt that people feel bad and the judgments down on their heads and the conditioning , the tales that were told to them as in don't open your legs or you will go to hellit should be open your legs and go to heaven
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' I remember seeing a photo of a cat with its head stuck in a can..... .. and while it struggled.... ... a tomcat came up behind and took advantage of the situation. Im no tomcat. DG tom cats have balls
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RHP User
12 years ago
All for such honest,frank and revealing answers.....I have never experienced sex with more than one person... not because I wouldn't but because timing and inclination have not as yet coincided.....I have experienced many times sex with complete strangers,some whose names I never knew......and mostly there was the rush ,the combination of dopamines and adrenaline reinvigorating......but sometimes when that wore off I was left with a sense of loss.....and I do think cos Meeka you know that I just can't help it:-) ......that like any drug,the high became the low.....doesn't mean I wouldn't do it again though:-) :-) xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
But youre gonna have to raise the bar.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' It is just sex for pleasure. Like golf..does it really matter what the ball looks like as long as it is usable and you have chosen the correct club. Too MUCH over thinking goes on in here sometimes. Sex can be just a sport after all. Gym Junkies are no different to requiring the chemical rush. God you crack me up Wenchie LOL
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' All for such honest,frank and revealing answers.....I have never experienced sex with more than one person... not because I wouldn't but because timing and inclination have not as yet coincided.....I have experienced many times sex with complete strangers,some whose names I never knew......and mostly there was the rush ,the combination of dopamines and adrenaline reinvigorating......but sometimes when that wore off I was left with a sense of loss.....and I do think cos Meeka you know that I just can't help it:-) ......that like any drug,the high became the low.....doesn't mean I wouldn't do it again though:-) :-) xx Q Yes I understand that. I don't believe anonymous sex can fulfil somebody if they are looking for more than just a sensual experience, and I agree that it can be very damaging for some. I think we all like to think on this forum don't we? We never shut up after all, lol. I know that my "over thinking" definitely inhibits me from totally letting go a lot of the time.
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gazpacho
12 years ago
Regarding feeling a sense of loss.... What do you feel has been lost? I'm told by my shrink that when things get difficult, I go and do something easy, as an escape. I have a number of learned behaviours, but the reality of whatever it is confronting me becomes unbearable, or, sometimes, just unenjoyable (lol), so I exchange that unpleasant course of action for one that is more pleasant.... As it happens sex fills that role quite neatly.... But once it is all done and dusted and I can fuck no more, and avoid the harsh reality of a decision to be made no longer, I'm left with the problem that I started with. If I can only get some sleep, then the cycle begins again. There is no escape, just the brief moment of psychological respite, during say, a sex binge. It's a recognisable pattern. Alcoholics, drug addicts and gamblers have much the same kind of avoidance behaviour. I feel no sense of loss, unless it is loss of time? Perhaps loss of self respect? Loss of confidence in my ability to do things? I don't know. What loss do you think applies? Hugs Gazpacho
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RHP User
12 years ago
A friend recently told me that sometimes after casual sex she goes home and cries. How do you explain it, sometimes A person can feel so lonely after casual sex or even cheap. From your comments you fuck to forget, other people are going it because they are searching for something. Love, closeness, to feel another body, to have someone to hold or touch, to feel a connection with another person... And after it's done you see a stranger there and you realise that the feeling is so fleeting and not real... And you still crave something that you just don't get from randoms. To me, it all depends why you are doing it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' A friend recently told me that sometimes after casual sex she goes home and cries. How do you explain it, sometimes A person can feel so lonely after casual sex or even cheap. From your comments you fuck to forget, other people are going it because they are searching for something. Love, closeness, to feel another body, to have someone to hold or touch, to feel a connection with another person... And after it's done you see a stranger there and you realise that the feeling is so fleeting and not real... And you still crave something that you just don't get from randoms. To me, it all depends why you are doing it. Why do people confuse the fuck out of it all. It is a moment and that is all. Of course the feeling is real AT the TIME. THAT is all tho..Just a time.. It is called living in the now I think..................As I have always said WHY over think it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'gazpacho51' Regarding feeling a sense of loss.... What do you feel has been lost? I'm told by my shrink that when things get difficult, I go and do something easy, as an escape. I have a number of learned behaviours, but the reality of whatever it is confronting me becomes unbearable, or, sometimes, just unenjoyable (lol), so I exchange that unpleasant course of action for one that is more pleasant.... As it happens sex fills that role quite neatly.... But once it is all done and dusted and I can fuck no more, and avoid the harsh reality of a decision to be made no longer, I'm left with the problem that I started with. If I can only get some sleep, then the cycle begins again. There is no escape, just the brief moment of psychological respite, during say, a sex binge. It's a recognisable pattern. Alcoholics, drug addicts and gamblers have much the same kind of avoidance behaviour. I feel no sense of loss, unless it is loss of time? Perhaps loss of self respect? Loss of confidence in my ability to do things? I don't know. What loss do you think applies? Hugs Gazpacho I think you might call it addictive personality disorder
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' All for such honest,frank and revealing answers.....I have never experienced sex with more than one person... not because I wouldn't but because timing and inclination have not as yet coincided.....I have experienced many times sex with complete strangers,some whose names I never knew......and mostly there was the rush ,the combination of dopamines and adrenaline reinvigorating......but sometimes when that wore off I was left with a sense of loss.....and I do think cos Meeka you know that I just can't help it:-) ......that like any drug,the high became the low.....doesn't mean I wouldn't do it again though:-) :-) xx Q When there is a rushed high it is usually followed by a low. It is perfectly natural.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Durty_Angel' Quoting 'inspirit' It is just sex for pleasure. Like golf..does it really matter what the ball looks like as long as it is usable and you have chosen the correct club. Too MUCH over thinking goes on in here sometimes. Sex can be just a sport after all. Gym Junkies are no different to requiring the chemical rush. God you crack me up Wenchie LOL Thank fuck we have NEVER MET :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' Quoting 'Meeka100' A friend recently told me that sometimes after casual sex she goes home and cries. How do you explain it, sometimes A person can feel so lonely after casual sex or even cheap. From your comments you fuck to forget, other people are going it because they are searching for something. Love, closeness, to feel another body, to have someone to hold or touch, to feel a connection with another person... And after it's done you see a stranger there and you realise that the feeling is so fleeting and not real... And you still crave something that you just don't get from randoms. To me, it all depends why you are doing it. Why do people confuse the fuck out of it all. It is a moment and that is all. Of course the feeling is real AT the TIME. THAT is all tho..Just a time.. It is called living in the now I think..................As I have always said WHY over think it. I disagree Inspirit, I don' t believe she is confusing it at all as I know she is a very naughty girl at times. I don't know...... can you not understand it at all? Maybe you lack the depth?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I 100% understand where she is coming from with that comment and it has absolutely nothing to do with confusing what sex is about. Not everyone can leave their feelings at the door and thank fuck for that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
So deep in fact I see things as they are. You are saying she has casual sex?!! I am saying if you are going to have casual sex then why the hell get your emotions/feelings over ride the reality of it all. Woman over think things and I know you know this form your previous posts. Why would you have have casual sex if you are NOT sexually nor emotionally mature enough to handle it?! WHY have it?! I do not understand that. I think you comment was a a little naive
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I 100% understand where she is coming from with that comment and it has absolutely nothing to do with confusing what sex is about. Not everyone can leave their feelings at the door and thank fuck for that. No they can't therefore they should not be looking for casual sex!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yep if someones crying after casual sex why do it- Classic sign of manic behaviour- the high of the fuck and the low of the guilt after Well a little bit out of balance anyway...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well I will tell to stop going to gang bangs immediately then. Seriously I think you are making emormous assumptions here Inspirit. She isn't crying because she had casual sex.... that part isnt that important really. The same as Q said that she feels she is loosing a part of herself, the same way Gaz has said that having sex with one stranger is rarely rewarding. So a person that only wants casual sex and nothing else doesn't have emotional problems? Really? Most of us every day stupid folk, stop and think just every now and then ..... this is boring, meaningless, vacuous, doesn't really provide me with the intimacy I want, and and I am tired of it. You know just occasionally. Please don't hate us Inspirit! I also personally think that men that are always chasing after the new woman, the serial fucker, doesn't really have any respect for women and doesn't care that the women are enjoying sex, etc. So yeah.... sometimes you think I really need a bonk so you may go out with one of these guys but afterwards you are kind of disappointed in yourself because you knew they were one of those "shithouse" blokes. And hey you may even have a cry about it if you are in the mood for that. So I understood 100% why my friend said. And of course I enjoy having a bit of a cry. It is totally indulgent and feels good sometimes.
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RHP User
12 years ago
So you really you are not crying about the sex at all. I reckon it has more to do with the men, and the overall experience. It isn't because she had casual sex. Not sure how I can explain it so you understand. Can anyone else help me out with this?
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Our bodies are all just vessels that carry the souls on the journey..... But I know exactly what you're saying, for me if in a group situation it's completely different feelings, emotions, connections, as to what I feel in a one on one more intimate encounter. Both extremely enjoyable but in completely different ways (body & soul)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' So deep in fact I see things as they are. You are saying she has casual sex?!! I am saying if you are going to have casual sex then why the hell get your emotions/feelings over ride the reality of it all. Woman over think things and I know you know this form your previous posts. Why would you have have casual sex if you are NOT sexually nor emotionally mature enough to handle it?! WHY have it?! I do not understand that. I think you comment was a a little naive And I think that comment was a little smug. Do you think you are someone superior because you can have sex with a stranger and not feel anything? Is that something we should all be proud of? Because I am not convinced that it is necessarily a good thing.
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RHP User
12 years ago
For some people , The road to Stardom is on their backs ... GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
for my soul...because it liberated me from so many old beliefs I had.Still the desire to be desired is soo sexy.I wrote this a little while ago, I will share it with you. just imagine being in the moment, that’s this letter just being in the moment, no more, no less. Desire is the sensation of a delicious awareness of new possibilities. What a beautiful thought…..and this is it. I feel desire towards you, at this moment , its there, and will not leave me, until I am satisfied and the days We choose to fuck…..then it will diminish in little tiny shivers all over my body and into my vagina each time I think about your male body, hand’s and penis. I love expressing my feelings because it is wonderful being with a male…….and I would happily repeat this fuck, when this is your wish also. My next step in this sexual adventure is to show more of me, that’s what involves more and more letting go of inhibitions and thoughts of bliss……. Maybe not the first time, that’s just sex pure and simple with a bit of shyness………oh….I am so female. I want to feel the man’s heart in my hand thumping to the tune of mine. I want to let it flow and be in the moment each time I am having an orgasm, each time my body is in unison with another. I feel strongly, this feeling, I will let it happen and as I said, what will be, will be. No one can force anything…….you encounter a person in this way and it will be one NIGHT, many more NIGHTs, many more DAYS! Each moment is the right moment because we want it and share these desire; it only will be when both have the same vibration. How wonderful would it be to come to my place and we could experience US.
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JessicaRabbit
12 years ago
I went to a party where the females all got different coloured wristbands and when it was time to 'go upstairs' you could only play with a person that had given you a wristband. Such a simple, clever idea. Group sex doesn't necessarily translate into 'free for all' and that's certainly not something that i'm interested in. Jess xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Well I will tell to stop going to gang bangs immediately then. Seriously I think you are making emormous assumptions here Inspirit. She isn't crying because she had casual sex.... that part isnt that important really. The same as Q said that she feels she is loosing a part of herself, the same way Gaz has said that having sex with one stranger is rarely rewarding. That is true..it is rarely rewarding. So a person that only wants casual sex and nothing else doesn't have emotional problems? Really? Most of us every day stupid folk, stop and think just every now and then ..... this is boring, meaningless, vacuous, doesn't really provide me with the intimacy I want, and and I am tired of it. You know just occasionally. Please don't hate us Inspirit! I also personally think that men that are always chasing after the new woman, the serial fucker, doesn't really have any respect for women and doesn't care that the women are enjoying sex, etc. So yeah.... sometimes you think I really need a bonk so you may go out with one of these guys but afterwards you are kind of disappointed in yourself because you knew they were one of those "shithouse" blokes. And hey you may even have a cry about it if you are in the mood for that. So I understood 100% why my friend said. And of course I enjoy having a bit of a cry. It is totally indulgent and feels good sometimes.
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