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Am I normal? Are you?
March 17 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
we all make value judgements all the time.What differs are our values and what we find acceptable. However if someone is into something I could never consider , unless they or others are being harmed,then who am I to judge. What is normal,I have no idea but I seem to fake it really well.
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RHP User
13 years ago
in my own way.And you are normal karynb and you Freya13.We are all normal and then to others who don't share our idea of normal, NOTThe norms are always changed also don't worry about it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Dont think your wrong at all Karyn in being able to voice and explore your kink whatever it is without being judged.My 2c, normal is whatever is agreed between 2 or more adults as being safe, sane and consensual.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Normal is the usual. If you you usually do it, then it is normal. If you don't usually do it, but then start doing it more, same applies. Seems we can making anything normal if we want to.
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
If you haven't seen the Australian movie 'Mental' you should it's a great film! What is normal n what is not? People laugh at me as I am different, I laugh at them as they are all the same....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Normal is a matter of perception... if you perceive something as normal then in your world it is, regardless of what someone else thinks. This subject probably relates back to another thread on Boundaries... which are in most cases the limit of what people think is normal and acceptable. To judge someone else on what they think is normal is, to me, is not normal :) I have an exceedingly open mind as have sometimes been considered a bit of a whacko, but there you have it. To me watching my ex wife having fun with other guys was normal because we could separate the act of having sex with the act of making love. And as Araps says "normal is whatever is agreed between 2 or more adults as being safe, sane and consensual."... This is all too true and in such a group their perception of normal marries up nicely.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sometimes we forget that, while we're all normal, we're made up of lots of different elements and any one of those can be an extreme. My extreme interest in, say, collecting works in the Northern Soul genre produced on 11" vinyl between 1957 and 1961, is a bit out there ("how the he'll could that be so exciting", I hear you shout). But it's just a point in the galaxy of features of me. I'm still, largely, normal. It does surprise me, too, that people a quick to judge and ridicule. I put it down to them failing to see the genius of Manchester circa 1960... and comparing apples (my thing) with oranges (their thing), and forgetting that's what they're doing. I also suspect that there are (quite) a few here who are not here for kink/fun/sex. Some of those are stirrers. Some of those are outta their depth. Some of those are discovering that what they thought they wanted, isn't. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
...some people just don't know how to be civil. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I would think anyone that was worried about seeing their wife screwed by another guy shouldn't really be on a sight like this, it's just not normal.
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RHP User
13 years ago
My normal is different to yours, different yet again to his and hers because it is mine. Normal should not be confused to "the norm" but is as unique and individualised as each and every one of us. Being on a site like this is not a minority group at all these days...it is the norm. We all make judgements upon others and it is easy to say we should accept another's kinks but much harder to do....especially if that particular link is abhorrent to you and in all honesty why should I accept something that I cannot ever fully understand? The best I can do is to try and not show distain or in some cases disgust at what I may very well consider to be an absolute perversion.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Who's normal is normal. ? What's normal to one person is not normal to another's persons normal. I see some people as weird by their actions and others as what I would regard as normal . But I support those couples who think outside the square that see the benefit of adding another person to compliment a otherwise flagging sex life. I see no harm in a man watching his wife enjoy herself with another man if they are mature enough to handle it without any jealousy issues. ..? There was probably plenty of soul searching before getting to the point in their life when they realised there was more to life than what they already had. I've meet some extremely well adjusted couples who tell me the same thing. They realised there was more to explore in life if they expanded their thinking. The wife likes the physical excitement and the hubby enjoys seeing her get off... So it's win win for everyone providing they accept it for what it is.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have an independent mind, he is eccentric, you are completely mad. Our personal differences give us all independent views.I loathe hypocrisy and dislike judgemental people. We are all entitled to our own point of view but some people cannot separate criticism from opinion.
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RHP User
13 years ago
then I give up .... couldn't think of anything worse!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Seriously ? Im embrace my neuroticsim... Fuck normal - give me extraordinary , kink, quirky anytime... Life is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too short....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Society has an expectation of what you are because of how you express yousrelf. They never see the behind scenes of how family loves and adore you. There is no normal. Its only what we bring our children to accept what is normal. Be that what you believe but there is a dynamic gtoup of kids growing up now.
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RHP User
13 years ago
"I was always fascinated by people who were considered completely normal because I find them to be the weirdest of all"JOHNNY DEEPFoxy
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RHP User
13 years ago
sounds like his porn star altar ego ... I'll have me some of that thanks!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
There is no normal, it's a concept applied to what the general consensus agrees it to be at any particular time. It's a sliding scale concept that we as individuals apply to ourselves and others based on our own perspective, perception and experience. "I would have thought that on sites like this one people would/should feel free to explore and voice their kinks free from judgement." We should be able to, but anytime someone provides a soapbox someone will use it to climb up onto their high horse!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I was raised in a country where people were terrified of doing anything outside of the norm. God forbid, what would the neighbours think. We even had a popular saying: "Act normal and you act crazy enough". One of my favourite lines from Alice in Wonderland is "We're all mad here". I might have to get that tattooed one day. Oh, and We are all individuals!
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RHP User
13 years ago
But the rest of you are bloody weird :-S
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RHP User
13 years ago
are a prime example of normal. They invented manners put themselves at the top of the list of civilised nations and boy arent't they a nation of devious fuckers behind closed doors....... Normal schmormal
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Deviousbassman36' We should be able to, but anytime someone provides a soapbox someone will use it to climb up onto their high horse!Actually pretty normal.
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RHP User
13 years ago
.....is your never......- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
But I like to be regular.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Erm. Eww. I was referring to my posting status, obvs.
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RHP User
13 years ago
No judgement was intended by my 'ewww' in relation to references to bowel movements, perceived or intended.Like others have said, if it doesn't hurt anyone else I may think you're a weirdo but I'll be nice about it.However, if I think it does hurt somebody else then the gloves are off*.*That's also not a bowel reference.
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RHP User
13 years ago
If I'm ever considered "normal" or forbid "average", you all have permission to kill me.The lifestyle represented on RHP is certainly not "normal". These forums are proof however that being different does not necessarily make one non-judgemental.Mr C
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'neptune_drift'No judgement was intended by my 'ewww' in relation to references to bowel movements, perceived or intended. I did see some "bowel movement" porn once. Japanese. Explosive. Scarred me for life.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'chickcara' The lifestyle represented on RHP is certainly not "normal". These forums are proof however that being different does not necessarily make one non-judgemental. Somehow that surprised me, though I'm not even sure why. People will always be people. That's why I prefer animals. In a very non-kinky way, mind you.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'chickcara' The lifestyle represented on RHP is certainly not "normal". These forums are proof however that being different does not necessarily make one non-judgemental. Somehow that surprised me, though I'm not even sure why. People will always be people. That's why I prefer animals. In a very non-kinky way, mind you. That's exactly what Mrs C says. That's why I'm here in the forum sandpit alone while she's off saving the planet one animal at a time!Mr C
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RHP User
13 years ago
I can never get enough and rarely ever does it go down.
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RHP User
13 years ago
was very average.So far, I think he would really fit in here.
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