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November 15 2008
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RHP User
17 years ago
I'd REALLY like an answer to this question too! How is it all the guys we want to get serious with - only want casual sex? And all the guys that wana get serious with us - we just aren't that into ????
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RHP User
17 years ago
Not a stupid question at all BS79, I think it's attitude. xx SnS
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RHP User
17 years ago
...becuase you anly want what you can't have - basic human nature. We all want our cake and want to eat it to. I've spoken of this before. The "Law of Diminishing Returns". Imagine that first piece of chocolate - mmm. Might as well leave it there because we all know the following pieces are decreasingly enjoyable. Same with relationships in my opinion. Very cynical I know. I'm sure I'll retract that some day lol
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RHP User
17 years ago
I would love to try casual sex, mine is back breaking, sweaty and thorough, non of this namsy pamsy causual as you go crap
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RHP User
17 years ago
well its all about wanting what we cant have. women im attracted to dont want me the ones that do i dont. a fella will settle down with a lady when and if he feels in total comfort with this person, and this is what sometimes turns a girl off them i guess the secret maybe to never really get comfortable with what we have. plus the media tells us we can have it now just sign up and its yours maybe ppl are applying this to all areas of there lives now mmmmmm mal
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RHP User
17 years ago
We would all love to be in a set relationship spending intimate moments with our soul mate. But one needs to be asking themselves is this the right site for me to accomplish that? I do realize that you might be referring to outside this site, where it is totally different – damn I for one have met some fantastic guys but only to find out they are married or gay! :( This site is about swinging or joining that sexual group activity – so it would be an extreme rare occasion to find that partner to park his slippers under your bed each night. But it does happen, I am originally from Perth and there have been some fantastic success stories there. . So to get to the point of your questions, which I might add is not ridiculous at all, my opinion is that if he finds you irresistible and that special connection is there, “he” realizes that you are someone special and not let you go! And if that does not happen well then he was not worth it! There comes a time in everyone’s life when they realize it is a great journey to have a partner then to live a life of solitude, unfortunately some people wake up too late to realize this! Keep smiling :) Boob
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RHP User
17 years ago
You may have to ask Grav...always wondered myself why he chose to stay with me. Grav had lead the single life, all his life and no kids. I had 6 kids all at home at the time, plus an extra 1. Having been in 3 serious relationships myself since i was 14 and never dated in between, i was quite happy to be single. I always thought if he could handle all our household , he was a keeper, or maybe as crazy as me, lol. It all happened naturally i quess. He always says my personality shines above everything. He was also at that point in his life were he wanted some stability and a child. Most of our friends will tell you from the moment we met we were destined to be together. After 2 yrs were still here and have bubs now. Life is great. Leelee xxx
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RHP User
17 years ago
There's a difference between the hot guy category which every woman would like to be inseminated by but may not commit... and the caring reliable guy who will always be there for you and makes the perfect father figure for your children. Which one do you end up with long term?
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RHP User
17 years ago
Why cant a hot guy ,, be caring and reliable,,.. and have all the other sickly qualities you speak of ? I mean " look at me " ,,.. "WELL" ,,.. dont look at me ,, I have none of the above.. ...but ya get me fukkin point ??? .. AND... Iffen ya gotta fizz-eak like a Volkswagen and a head like a cattle dogs ass-ole on boxing day ,,,,dont mean ya be a lovable little criiter. ~~~Horrrr-ible~~~ scratches ass with folk...
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RHP User
17 years ago
i have sooooooooooo misssed reading your posts they are sooooooo inspirering fuck how have i managed to survive all these long lonely months without the wise words i so ofterrrrrrrnnnnnnnnnnn read in forum oh i have missed you all so terribly you put the spark in my sprinkles!!!! starr xx
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RHP User
17 years ago
Well Hags you're not often wrong, but you're right again and left me speechless... as I'm here cackling and breathless whilst pissing myself. Expect you're an exception with your Li'l Abner good looks (who also earned his living as a mattress tester) as the other classic Hollywood good lookers are probably gay. Which ever way they're bent, they're sure to have a love affair first and foremost with their mirror. But then again the more effeminate a fellow, the more likely his head space is going to occupy the same real estate as a woman, with them being all maternal like, and all that. I'll consider sending my undies laundry bill to you in future... either that or read your next epistle in the spa.
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RHP User
17 years ago
The same real estate as a woman ...?,,.. "trust me my friend" thats more complicated than passing a beam of light through the collapse of an atomic structure ( black hole). Anyways !! You .. me .. at the wood pile .................with no daks on ?? ~~~Horrible~~~ Trying to get in touch with feminine side !!
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RHP User
17 years ago
Well my marriage just fell apart, so at the moment i can't think of any good reason for long term relationship, but i guess if you find someone you can hang out with, go drinking with and you want to shag them and they want to shag you... why keep shopping around. but marriage is a scam...
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RHP User
17 years ago
believe that when you first meet up, it is lust at first site. I was engaged a long time ago went to work up northwest to earn some extra cash, and lo behold hadn't heard from my girl for ages. Rang her place of employment and discovered she was getting married to someone else. So my attitude for about 6 months was basicly use and abuse. I know that's not very nice, but that was the feeling, went for a ship cruise and yep met a lass who fixed up the zip of my strides the 2nd day we met. We are still an item now, but it was still lust for the first 24 hrs ;o)) hope that is of some help
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RHP User
17 years ago
I've had what some would call serious relationships but in my mind were never going to go further. Reason for that, there were simply incompatibilities that I am not willing to accept. My opinion is there needs to be a balance. There are parts you want as a wish list that add points and parts that are on the don't want that take points off. You can forgive some of the dont wants if you have some of the wants to counterbalance. Unfortunately I seem to not be able to find any that balance in the positive area. When I do I will try at least to hang onto her. Just hope I can find one. There are some on here but none that want me. They all seem to go with the jerks and regret it later but then do it again. Depressing...
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RHP User
17 years ago
A long time ago (ok, it was around 15 years, give or take), I thought I was ready to have a serious relationship, and I've been on that search ever since. Along the way, however, I've determined a few things: I wasnt after a serious relationship back then, so much as a relationship full stop. I was pretty young, and liked the idea of getting my hands on a girl regularly. I discovered that I was also into sex possibly a lot more than the relationship bit. Or maybe not. But I was definitely very very open minded, and considered most things. Things which I still haven't done... As I went on my merry way, I found that no one ever felt really right. I thought I was serious at the time, but when looking well ahead, I'd find that I didn't see myself with that person in the long-term future. Which confused me. After being pressured to get married and have kids at like 23, I suddenly realised that I wasn't ready for that, there were things I wanted to do - travel (still waiting), get a really good job, and get somewhere stable to live that I could call my own, ie a mortgage. Still waiting for those too... It's only really been the last couple of years that I've really felt like I've got to the point where I'm seriously looking for someone as a life partner. I'd still like the job and house, but they're more achievable than they were. I'm still into the sexual deviancy a fair bit, but I'm hoping that my partner is similar. Either way, I found that as I get to the cliff face of my 20s, and knowing that I have to jump off, I am now really ready to consider a serious relationship that encompasses marriage or a lifelong committment. I didn't conciously make that choice, it just happened. I would suggest that if he doesn't want a serious relationship, then he just isn't ready. He will know when he is. In the meantime, if you are, then perhaps you're not supposed to be with him right now.
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RHP User
17 years ago
IF you start a friendship that is growing into something more you can either nurture it or neglect it - I believe that communication works, get to the heart of it. You were are and always will lovable even though your imperfect - every one is... It's finding compatible and acceptable imperfections that you can live with and love thats what makes any gender choose to get into a relationship. I can be ok with you flaws and you with mine, it's pretty cool. ... tangent Sure a relationship may dither, it's no ones fault, getting angry or ignorant won't heal you. To grip onto memories of euphoria or frustration like baggage will either shield you from a love you deserve, or carry that previous relation ship baggage with you into the next... Let it go, if you respect their freedom to experience love and you Truly want to have freedom to experience your own, Let them go. no defenses no offenses, a little bit of forgiveness - just let go , evaporate - easier said then done, Do it for your own (mutual) good.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Oprah meets Dr. Phil all melded with a half pissed chat with a bloke at the pub with the wet patch on the front of his pants. Eeeekh!!! J must-a took a wrong turnin' somewhere at the last set-a-lights. THIS is a particularly "risque" neighbourhood f' me. Back to the out-of-date meat pies, the 3 x 4 cell and crunchin' on cans as I make the way to the bathroom f me, methinx ~~Mmmmmm, who am I today?~~
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RHP User
17 years ago
I guess its a natural progression for me personally. I have found my relationships "get serious" when i find myself missing my partner when were not together or feeling like they somehow make you a better person. But thats just me, im sure other people have different thought but i cant speak for them.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I have tried to meet a couple once before and it turned out to be a man (I know I was niave and didn't swapp potos etc). I guess as I haven't done this before it is a little daunting. I don't think that people should string people allong and I hope I don't. s
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RHP User
17 years ago
i'd change your pofile photo for a start...lol. I've met with a couple, had fun with both, only to find out later that he was the player, she was only playing the game for him. When it comes to serious relationships i would go there, though there was many a year when i wouldn't have considered it. I've changed somewhat now though i have some doubt about meeting a woman my age who could keep up with me lol. I have tried relationships, a few times, sex always gets in the way. I need more than what is offered...
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RHP User
17 years ago
I would have a serious relationship with a girl that simulates me mentally , sex is wonderful and attraction is important but if thats all there is , it will just be a quick fuck. I need a few common interests beside sex , like most people I want the whole package.
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RHP User
16 years ago
This is a great post with some awesome replies. What i have observed is that in most men, there are two. One of these men has a kind soft heart, capable of great love and devotion, great caring and understanding and a deep need to be loved. the other, is a lustful adventurous nomad that is driven by insatiable desire and archaic chemical motivation to reproduce with the most attractive females available to him as often as possible. This is certainly the case with myself. The kind heart yearns for love and seeks similar interests in a female companion, to love and nurture and be close and even to grow a family. The nomad looks for sex, loves sex, craves sex and a variety of new women to have sex with. What is more important to the nomad is not the act of sex, but the act of sex with new or different women, something the Kind heart will rarely quell. These two men live within and constantly struggle for supremacy, often creating discord and confusion in the one man, but inevitably, one will be stronger than the other and govern the actions and character of the one man. Some men struggle for their entire lives, some find harmony and peace with one of their inner beings and embrace that particular lifestyle. More often than not though, the kind heart at some time or another falls in love and is willing to sacrifice all, but in time the nomad nags and requires feeding.... and this is the great divide that separates alot of men and women i think. to be in love with one but to make love to another? how can this be possible the woman says? well from my perspective it seems quite simple, but not to the woman of course who is racked with jealousy over such a suggestion. and rightly so, imagine if the shoe was on the other foot as it quite often can be, where the women, though loved completely by the man is driven by lust and desire to fornicate with another? an awkward situation that many would have trouble dealing with. We are of course merely a bunch of horny animals enjoying our short burst of awareness on this fine earth, and i suggest making the most of it anyway you can, i hope to find great souls to love and cherish in my travels, and such people i will hold dear to me infinitely. but i by no means intend to stop feeding my lust by seeking new and wonderful sexual partners with which to loose ourselves in sessions of orgasmic rapture and exciting electric appreciation of the beautiful human body. Nomad wow i didn't mean that to be long but i had to say it all.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Its not the guy Its not the girl It is the fact that one or both parties tries to taylor/change the other to better suit there needs. Therefore,changing what was once," just what i was looking for!" LUST is it not a deadly sin?? LOVE is it not a heavenly savior??? Serious relations are not decided by anyone..................THEY JUST OCCURR
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