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Age.....It's buggin me... maybe even scaring me...
February 12 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
Why older guys go for younger single childless women.You don't have time for a relationship with a man who deserves that time because of your work,kids,house and own personal time...plus you don't want to give up your independance and personal space that you've come used to being with. It shits me to tears trying to explain why as a single 33yr old guy I can't convince a girl to date me,and why most single mums my age don't want a relationship but just a man as the third wheel to be there for those random times you feel like having cuddles and no sexy time. Try being a 30 something single male..too old for young girls,and older woman don't want the commitment and have to sacrifice like what you're explaining in your text.It's so much easier for you t find a guy for two reasons.. 1) You have tits,an ass,vagina,mouth and hands......so long as you have that and are willing to let me stick their penis in them,you'll always get attention from men.Crass I know but be honest....men are sexual creatures who adore womens bodies. 2) It's now socially acceptable to be a "Cougar". A woman in her 40's or even 50's dating men in their teens,20's and 30's(for the 50yr olds) is fashionable and some women demand it.Yet to be a man in your 30's wanting to date an 18/19yr old or any female under 28 for that fact...and you're attacked for it.The only way it's socially accepted is if you're a hot tall good looking rich and/or famous guy.If you're none of the above...you get labelled as a loser/desperate/pathetic or worse..Pedophile!! So without sounding like a nasty guy...walk a mile in my shoes and then try to say the same thing.Life for you as a woman relationship wise/sex wise/emotionally speaking,is no where as depressing and bleak as it it for men the same age as you. As a young guy now,you can look like a bag of shit and meet a skiny lil Barbie Doll porn star wannabe who'll let you have anal sex on youtube because you talk shit and look fashionably popular.Couple that with "Cougars" all trying to sore a guy hotter than the next desperate housewife....and you're literally going to overdose on sex. But be a man in your 30's...the big 30 seems to be your expiry date,and not be a rich six pack dark haired 6ft tall ken doll,and you're in limbo.Destined to a life of emotional smashing in your face of how pathetic you are and not good enough you are and a life of jerking off that after a few months feels like torture because we too need physical intimacy and motional interaction with a woman. So to answer your question....if you are prepared to sacrifice that independance and space,and give something physically/emotionally/sexually to a guy and be a lil submissive as the fairer sex so us men can be men like we're supposed to be,then please do it.MAKE THE TIME....don't treat us like toys and accessories for you whenthe kids are in bed and you want some cuddles.Appreciate us as human beings with feelings,emotions and needs as well. If you can't do this then stay single..be a "Cougar" and have mindless sex with your "Cubs" and when you wake up one day alone and empty...please don't look at guy like me who want a younger woman so we can enjoy those future years to come without kids and emotional baggage.It would be really nice to NOT be branded by older woman as desperate losers or pedophiles and yet be smashed in the face when you demand to haveyour fun and be allowed to engage in "Cougar" behaviour without judgement or repercussions of your actions. I think that women are made to be selfish from childhood because it's their mothers insecurities that breed the attitude that alot of young women carry through life.It's only through learnt experiences that some conceed that the fantasy is just that...a fantasy.The Ken Doll,the mansion,the 2.4 kids and days of endless shopping with a platinum AMEX card and never having to work hard are BS.The women who live those lives I'm sure look at themselves in the mirror feeling empty and regretful of not having a fulfilling emotional relationship with someone on equal level as them in that way.They justify it with their possesions and social status but deep down they must regret missing out on having that one man who loved them for the women inside and not because of her looks etc
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RHP User
16 years ago
i understand where your coming from Julesjordan the thought of bringing someone into my home scares me...it wont be mine anymore...the thought that i will have to behave and do all those girly things and share and have to answer to someone else makes me run to be honest with you haha so yeah totally get where your coming from...hopefully though your friend is right and it will be easy....although i dont see it but im hoping lol roxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Your post disgusts me. It is full of one generalisation after another, and I suspects says more about you own attitudes than that of any woman. I, and no woman I know, has ever been brought up from childhood to be selfish. The women I know are all hardworking, smart, and have integrity and all those good things. I have never expected, or wanted, for that matter to "shop all day" using some blokes AMEX, or ride on anyone's coat tails. I work damn hard as a mother and job wise and have never expected anything on a silver platter. Oh and Whitehawk? is there anyone you don't hate? You hate young men, handsome men, rich men, tall men, young girls who won't date you, cougars who won't date you, single mums with other higher priorities...the list goes on. It's really very depressing. Please stop torturing yourself on this site and get some help. You have major issues. lovebittenxoxoxo
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RHP User
16 years ago
Nearly had to scroll onto Page 2 with Whitehawks musings...lol I'm buggered if I know why we feel a pressure to conform. I get it all the time...."J, you have to do what's best for the children"...well derrr! But it's usually from people who live very square lives and have no comprehension that there are other postions for sex other than missionary. I'm over "the should" part of my life. I've stopped listening to what "I should" be doing and just do what i want to do. If we are too busy living our lives to other peoples expectations, then we miss the opportunities in front of us. Jx
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RHP User
16 years ago
you know id love to meet you....i think you are a very interesting man and cute....but really sometimes you need to use you mouth and fingers for other things....personally i have NO interest at all for a man under 30 hell id be pushing to go for 33 so dont label all of us older woman as cougars...i have NEVER had anyone my friends would say was hot... hell some of them i wouldnt even say were hot... shit i had kids to a man thats just plain ugly....but you know what they are nice men and that is what matters have you ever thought nobody wants to date you because when you open you mouth shit flies out...and that is a real turn off.....yes your right us single parents dont want to give up our independance and personal space...you know why...because a lot of us have had to fight tooth and nail to get it...i certainly did... if you wanna swap shoes for a week il gladly do it and we will see who has the more depressing and bleak life...lets see how you handle my 5 kids all by yourself....no-one to help you and i mean NO-ONE...no parents, no grandparents, no siblings, no friends...lets see how you manage to help with homework, get them off to school, deal with a bitchy female teen and a 1 year old as well as everybody inbetween...then we will see how depressing you think you have it i have tits, arse, hands, mouth and vagina...but il tell you something...i get very little attention on here at all...so that statement is the biggest load of crap i have ever heard... when i am with a man...i make sure it is just us...i give him everything i can....he is the only one that matters...if he wants it then i give it...i let him be the man...i do submit myself phyisically, emotionally and sexually...and you know what...it has got me nowhere...no call backs... nothing...so dont you dare say its us woman...you men have alot to answer for too whitehawk.... oh and did you realise... Julesjordan is a single FATHER...so it not just us woman...so maybe you just need to stop being so bloody selfish whitehawk and realise parents...male and female...have it hard and sometimes someone else has to come before you roxy
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RHP User
16 years ago
You got off the beaten track a bit here. The person who started the post is a single Father not a single mother. I shall now go off the beaten track. I think the only reason you want a much younger woman as you mention so often is cos you want to control her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
yanno white hawk i kind of think as far as rednecks go yr entitled to yr opinion and i bite my tongue and think yeah , hes a bloke with some issues, leave him be But I read yr ramblings and think thank god I have the choice and means to live alone and independantly and not have to endure the misogynistic views of any man just for the sake of having a regular fuck or getting the bills paid.Seriously men with views like yours ( rare I have found ) make me glad to be a bra burning femi naziDevine
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RHP User
16 years ago
i believe what is supposed to be will be so continue doing what you are doing and see what happens, i wasn't looking for a partner when i meet my second half lol. Roxy, don't be surprised if whitehawk comes back and says "I will gladly swap and you can go my 12 hour shifts at my work" till next time scott
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RHP User
16 years ago
scott...with 5 kids to look after alone 24/7... id gladly take 12 hour shifts...cause that still halves my work load roxy
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi Jules...If your happy with the statis quo..why worry..about enjoying your life as is.i found that it's more to do with it being a personal choice than a age thing.xoxoheymumma
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RHP User
16 years ago
You know, as a parent (although not a single one) my kids stability, wellbeing and emotional health come first for me. I can only imagine that as a single parent, you are even more acutely aware of this. I know this isn't the reason you gave, but I actually think it's fair enough that single parents are a little hesitant to get into committed relationship as it's not just them in the relationship, it's also the kids as well - and they don't really have much choice in the matter. While you may not want to be out there looking for someone to share your life with, I think you should always be open to it come what may. The sad truth is, our kids will grow up, move out and move on...and it just seems to go so fast! I think as a parent (single or not) we need to set the example to our children that it's ok to put ourselves first sometimes.
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RHP User
16 years ago
My best mate is 37 and he's been saying similar things as you. I'm 48 and my kids are 21, 19 and 17. Of course I love them to bits, but I am so over being a parent. I've been parenting (as best I can) for over 21 years and I want my life back. 21 years ago dreams were shelved. It's nearly me time... well me and her time... The last one will finish school this year.... hopefully taking up a university position interstate. :p We have a small window of opportunity to enjoy some well earned freedom before grandchildren come along and we become the full time child care centre. Our parents had the right idea... move to the country to escape that problem.. hehe. As for making relationships hard work..... relationships come and go don't they? Its up to you whether you want to mend one to keep it intact... this is certainly one area of life where just decide as you go along. Why does everything you do need a plan? Of course it doesnt. It is completely unpredictable.. the only ordering system is the natural condition of entropy... so go with the flow and enjoy the ride while it lasts mate. Bottums up stalkyboy
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RHP User
16 years ago
What can you say - I think he sums it all up perfectly. *lmao* Life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% how you react to it. Or perhaps in your case, how you over-react to it.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Good to see you're still at it dude.Here's the thng though Whitehawk, i have 4 really god mates we all grew up together, three of these mates are single, all are over 35, and mate none of them have ANY trouble with the ladies. Now before you go on and try telling me that they are probably all models, one of these guys is nicknamed "Spud" because he has head like a potatoe. Being in your thirties gives you a new lease on life, a greater awareness of yourself and what makes women tick.I can fully understand why you are struggling getting ANY sort of action. Women are very in-tune with their instincts, their sixth sense per se, and they pick up the very slightest subtle hints that guys exude.So far all of your postings come accross as VERY negative. Always blaming women for your woes. FFS, if i was a woman thre is NO WAY IN HELL i would want to be around a guy like that.In fact i have met some supremely stunning looking women who have the same attitude, and i couldn't get out of there fast enough. Instead of blaming your age, or every woman on the face of this earth, maybe have a look within, and see what you could do on a personal level, to come across as more attractive to women.A BOY will blame everyone else for their problems.A MAN takes control their destiny, and does whatever is required to change it for the better, and blames only himself if it doesn'tWhiteawk, at 33, maybe it's time to grow up a bit huh!
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Mr_Invisible
16 years ago
I'm 41 single , never married and no kidsI live alone and also enjoy my freedomSometimes I truely wish I had someone here to share it withBut I admit it would be hard to give up my freedoms I have had relationships (we live apart) and flings, fuck buddies , one night stands , friends with benefits... etc etcBut its nice to wake up to an empty house all alone once the smoke clears and the wet spot dries upI don't want to die a lonely old manSo I hope one day.... its an easy transition when the woman of my dreams makes me wake up
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RHP User
16 years ago
Guys come on!!!! you are funny and worry too much. I'm a woman who turned 50 last year and thought my life is over being married to a man who's almost 7 years younger than me, good looking, body to die for and I'm finally at that age that no men will look at me??? Well NOOOT. I feel gorgeous and beautiful, I've a beautiful pair of boobs (14E) not fat, voluptuous and feel hot and sexy. So not your aren't old until you are 90. I feel more sexual and wanting more sex than ever. So guys chill, don't be sad you are not even 40 so live it up, like me and consider each day as blessing as you do not have a chance in hell to live again in this universe and do listen to a Cougar. Love your life and you will be loved by everyone.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey mate... I'm in the same position as you (but without the kids). I get pressure from mates and my family about settling down and finding a girl etc... I just laugh it off, fart then go back to my beer or my surfboard. To be honest though, I do enjoy my own company, and I love the fact that I am the only person who is influenced by my life decisions. If I want to move to China - well I can. I have a passion for oversees volunteer aid work, and I go regularly. Could I do that if I was married? Probably not. They're decisions made by me and they’re not something I need to discuss with a wife, partner or children. Selfish? Maybe... But at least I'm honest, and I'm always always always up front with that. Add to that, how many people do you know who are really "happily" married? I mean really happy... deep down underneath the fancy house and shiny family 4WD. Most of my married mates hate their lives, and I'm pretty sure they only want me to get married because they’re sick of seeing how happily single I am. Haha... No... Just kidding... They're not like that... are they?? But honestly, one of them has actually told me (on the turps one night) that if he had his time again, things would be done very differently, and that he would trade places with me in a nano-second. I know there are people out there who are happily married, so please don't assume I'm talking about them... They should be be very proud because they're in a very small minority Having said that though, I'm not against getting into a relationship and having tin-lids and all that comes with it. I'm just not going to do it because other people are telling me it's time. I'm happy to wait until the right girl comes along - even then I won't be rushing into anything. If it doesn’t happen... well it’s not the end of the world. Better that than becoming yet another divorce statistic hey. My point is, if you're happy the way you are, why change things this because you're under external pressure to conform with the rest of "normal" society. If you rush into something, it's probably going to be with the wrong person, and for reasons not consistent with true love. And don’t watch the clock mate. You’ll go nuts. My story is a little different to yours, given that I don’t have kids, but the principle is generic. It applies to anyone who is single - male or female. I don’t claim to be a psychologist, but I’m happy... VERY happy!! I love my life and wouldn’t change a thing. I've read a few of your posts, Jules, and you sound like a pretty good bloke who isn't stupid. Trust yourself and just do your thing... whatever happens is meant to happen. Don't force it. Cheers mate... ;) Now I’m off to the cricket!! Woo Hoo... Watch the news tonight.... you might see Ridge's nudie run... haha.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'busty77'Guys come on!!!! you are funny and worry too much. I'm a woman who turned 50 last year and thought my life is over being married to a man who's almost 7 years younger than me, good looking, body to die for and I'm finally at that age that no men will look at me??? Well NOOOT. I feel gorgeous and beautiful, I've a beautiful pair of boobs (14E) not fat, voluptuous and feel hot and sexy. So not your aren't old until you are 90. I feel more sexual and wanting more sex than ever. So guys chill, don't be sad you are not even 40 so live it up, like me and consider each day as blessing as you do not have a chance in hell to live again in this universe and do listen to a Cougar. Love your life and you will be loved by everyone. You claim to have turned 50 last year... so that makes you 51 this year. Yet your profile states that you're 45?? So which is it? To me, shaving 6 years off your age on your profile doesn't indicate that anything in what you have written is an accurate reflection of how you really feel... That's really annoying. Your post is "void" as a result. Got you on a technicality ;) Unless that's not your profile of course...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Didnt you know it's not nice to talk about a ladys age; What are you the fun police? If your so good at detecting go found who's stealing your hair.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Good post, and I like your way of thinking. Nice to know there's more to you, that you're not shallow.Viking
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RHP User
16 years ago
Jules, 6 years is nothing - it will fly by and you'll still be you, and ready to head out and do whatever you want to do! Last year my son finished high school and moved in with his Dad to go to uni. I packed up and went to Europe for 5 months which was the most incredible experience. My boy's back home with me now, and I'm lucky to have had all the opportunities I've had in my life. Raising my son was great. Parenting means you often sacrifice whatever for your kids - in 6 years you'll be 43.....hhmmmmmm hhhhmmmm delicious ! Meanwhile a few dates when you can, some good sex, great friends and lots of laughter will suffice. Trust me you'll not know where the time went in 2016. Shiny
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playfulminx
16 years ago
Whitehawk... There are no words. I just wish there was a violin button I could push whenever you're feeling sorry for yourself.Jules - I think everyone gets to a point in their lives that they realise they have a finite number of active years left and there's a tendency to panic. Single or attached, we all have things we think we should have achieved by now. If you're happy with your status quo then I think that's fine. If you're not, then it's time to make changes :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Whitehawk77'As a young guy now,you can look like a bag of shit and meet a skiny lil Barbie Doll porn star wannabe who'll let you have anal sex on youtube because you talk shit and look fashionably popular. But be a man in your 30's...the big 30 seems to be your expiry date, Whitehawk - I usually pass for early 20s, and I can definitely make myself look like a bag of shit - please point me in the direction of these anal-on-cam loving barbie dolls.I agree that 30 is a bit of a cut-off date, but when you're out n about do you really bring up age right away? I might get a "NO way! seriously?!" and then it is forgotten.I see myself as lucky to spend time with some girl I find attractive, but that doesn't mean they aren't also lucky I'm spending my time with them.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'SORRENTOSEXY'Didnt you know it's not nice to talk about a ladys age; What are you the fun police? If your so good at detecting go found who's stealing your hair. Oh Dear... You missed the point Kiddo. I can't believe I need to explain it to you, but oh well. If she’s going to bang on and be so passionate about a topic (in this case, how proud she is to look so good at her age) she should at least be truthful about it. She's 51, but tells everyone on the site she's 45. Her entire post is a contradiction, and frankly, an insult to Jules. Her advice was "Guys come on!!!! You are funny and worry too much." I could expand that for her and make it "Guys come on!!!! You are funny and worry too much. Just wipe off 6 years if you're not happy with how old you are. It works for me. Just lie about your age, then wonder why you keep getting stood up when you go to meet people." Age is the 2nd most relied upon attribute, after sex, we use on sites like this to search. It would be nice to think that people are truthful about it. We can handle a one or two year discrepancy for the purpose of protecting identity, but 6 years?? Lol. I might change my age to 26 so I can chase the teenies... What do you reckon? Oh and about my hair thief... LOL. That's probably a case for Just Cuts in Maroochydore. Once it's swept up off the floor it goes into the bin, and it's not my responsibility anymore. I actually have a full head of hair Lovie. So, that's twice in one post that you've engaged the mouth (or keyboard) before the brain. Hahaha. Oh man... Love Ridge xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Ridge_Forester' Quoting 'SORRENTOSEXY'Didnt you know it's not nice to talk about a ladys age; What are you the fun police? If your so good at detecting go found who's stealing your hair. Oh Dear... You missed the point Kiddo. I can't believe I need to explain it to you, but oh well. Age is the 2nd most relied upon attribute, after sex, we use on sites like this to search. It would be nice to think that people are truthful about it. We can handle a one or two year discrepancy for the purpose of protecting identity, but 6 years?? Lol. I might change my age to 26 so I can chase the teenies... What do you reckon? Love Ridge xx Leave it at 32... that way they'll keep chasing you. Speaking of teenies- I think we're all busting to hear about the latest episode in "Ridge fights Lovey Dovey stuff"
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RHP User
16 years ago
Ridge.. Im really 48, but you know Im full of shit anyway so we're good right? I mean, I only did it so I could sneak under salandy's max age limit... so fairs fair... not like Im trying to cheat anyone... even they know Im 48. :p Oh.. and I never noticed a problem with the hair... and even if I did, I wouldnt say anything cause I think you look.. handsome.. in a bro to bro kind of way of course... ahem.. ok.. you can tie me my bunk in the van... I'm good with that. :p Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
yeah well wait till your late 40's,,, then you'll have something to really winge about,,,,, get out more and stop shoppin and start tryinand maybe 18/19 may be out of your league now but there are plenty of 20 and up women out there that want a more mature man without all the ego trippin shit that comes with youth
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