Age limits???
February 12 2024
Legit question and I don't really feel I need to elaborate on why it's gross ...why do men over a certain age put their lowest age limit as 18? Is it because that's the lowest age it let's you put? If you could put younger, would you? And why do you think it's OK?
I know it prompts people to change their age limit when creating an account ...alllllllllll women I've seen here have their age limit set to their appropriate age ....majority of men, 18+
What is the consensus ...what is an appropriate age to be putting 18 as your lowest age? And what do we think of men above a certain age putting 18 as their lowest age?
So curious and sorry to be so confrontational...but it genuinely irks and icks me and I want to protect the vulnerable so hoping this could open a discussion and provide insight and maybe effect change x
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RHP User
10 months ago
Can't comment on mens profiles but so many female profiles have 18-99 it is the set default so I figure most of those profiles don't bother setting their preference. I also think older men maybe put the low age just hoping but older women can put that age knowing they will get messaged.
RHP User
10 months ago
Forgot to add. My preferences are 35-65 but I would not message anyone under 40 but will accept messages from down to 35. A young body might be nice but it is an extreme rarity to find a mind that interests me as far as generational compatibility goes
Flirtydancer
10 months ago
I asked about this in the chat room about this same topic!
Most didn't think it was a big issue, but I agree it's gross when 40+ yo men have 18 as their lowest limit
Yes they're adults, but barely, and maturity and experience wise, would not be anywhere compatible.
Lostyanumber
10 months ago
Firstly the old rule of half your age plus 7 is still a bit young for me.
There's a fair few women who list 18 - 99 as their preference.
This is an interesting thread.
Mrs_Deep_Love
10 months ago
I agree, so gross.
But it's another sorting tool for me.
Kissnhug
10 months ago
i think after 50 and especially after 55 you get a lot less attention , maybe its just us men that women prefer younger , i mean guys are not too particular on either side of their age bracket . i guess every one likes a bit younger as they are more toned and smooth tight skin etc . Maybe some one should do a site for 50`s and over , you know the grey hair group, or the saggy boobs and balls group
RHP User
10 months ago
Depends what you want.
Males on this site would generally see that they get sweet FA in terms of response so the net needs to be as wide as possible to get a bite.
Females have ample choice so they can be narrower. That's the nature of the game being played.
Personally, anyone under 25 I feel is immature in life experience to get even close to what I would need in a partner. But then I'm playing a different game in some ways.RHP User
10 months ago
Only just noticed fully your last paragraph. Interesting you say protect the vulnerable. I was chatting to a lass a couple of years ago on a different site and she was only 19. She wanted to meet but I figured it probably wouldn't be best even though I kinda wanted to. But the reason she chatted with me and wanted to catch up is unlike the younger males she had contacted I was interested in her and her welfare as the majority of young men just wanted her for her looks, body and just to fuck.
So it makes me wonder where the vulnerability thing comes from especially in a place like this that becomes pretty obvious it is not for the naive
Andrea_Sydney
10 months ago
I wouldnāt give it too much attention to be honestly. I think they leave it like that juuuust in case, so they donāt get filtered out by a young ladyās search parameters. Iām sure it happens, but overall might be more hopeful āleaving the door open just in caseā.
FightingGravity
10 months ago
Older guys who like younger women are denigrated as perverts, yet older women who like younger men are celebrated as cougarsā¦..another strange double standard in lifeā¦.
Alexis
10 months ago
Most guys profiles are very broad and could be summed up by one sentence. Iāll take whatever I can get.
I actually think itās not a good strategy at all, far better to be targeted and appeal to a specific type. You might put off 80% but youāll be super attractive to the other 20%.RHP User
10 months ago
āAppropriate ageā and āprotecting vulnerableā.
Age is not a determining factor in vulnerability and of those who perhaps need protection.
There are countless people who can handle themselves very well of all ages due to circumstance, mindset, upbringing, resolve, curiosity, personality traits.
I get what youāre saying to a degree but it seems like itās coming from a place of huge bias or specific personal experience?
Iāve met many 30/40 year olds who really shouldnāt be anywhere near a site like this in terms of how unstable they are.
MsSuperFoxy
10 months ago
18yr olds might like matured men.
As long as consent given and its respectful. Who cares.
Ms Foxy
MrandMrsEss
10 months ago
I agree about not engaging those who are too immature but in the chats I find the most immature are men 25-35 and often into 40s. I have spoken with a number of younger people who had a lot better grasp of themselves and what they wanted than a lot older.
We also met a 36m21f couple in Europe, she was the main online contact and was a delight to converse with for the few months before we arrived. I still found it hard to believe they were both keen on us but they really were. We turned up to their place to a dining table full of fresh fruits and nibbles and spent a wonderful few hours in indepth conversations, mainly with her as interpreter as his English wasn't so good. He was a massive muscle bound fella, which also is not what MrsS finds attractive but he was so sweet and their desire for us was so palpable that we forgot about our judgements. This finally lead to the most wonderful sexual experience and more post- coital fresh fruits, warm conversations and satiated smiles.
The old "don't judge a book by its cover" surely holds true to ages as well.RHP User
10 months ago
Most blokes never evolve past 15 so you could argue they are dating above their mental age š¤·āāļø
I mean I still laugh at farts
PerthVixen
10 months ago
The comments in this thread pretty much indicate how quickly our society will defend men who legitimately prey on younger women.
People are far more willing to defend a toxic social norm, than they are to address WHY they defend it.
Thanks for bringing up this really valid topic. Itās wonāt have the immediate positive impact you most likely hoped for - but it was still an important topic to share š„°
nightingale8
10 months ago
Probably worthwhile to distinguish between whatās gross (yes), whatās morally wrong (dubious) and whatās illegal (nope). I donāt think itās useful to be infantilising 18-year-olds nor shaming men for what age they list. Social policing, especially around sexuality, makes people resentful and feel suffocated. Then they go to corners of the web to join interest groups that support their frustrations and get even more resentful and mistrusting. As the saying goes, sheāll be right
RHP User
10 months ago
You know like all online men and women sexual stuff, why is it that men get beaten up so badly. I am not at all into the younger thing but why is it gross for a man to want that and to be seen as a possible pervert or even worse. Yet women look for younger predominantly and are seen as being free and still young at heart. In fact a massive percentage of profiles of women my age are not interested in their age or older. Just another of those things that is shaming the male. Not that I give a damn about it I just find it terribly contradictive
RHP User
10 months ago
I haven't seen that many 18 yo women on here tbh and really hadn't thought about the lower age setting for anything other than the lowest part of the scale. I think if 40/50+ males are having their preferred age range as 18-19 this could be a valid point but would advise against over thinking it too much if we've left it 18-99 or whatever number we felt was appropriate. We are just window shoppers trying to go to the store with the most Windows to look through.
KISSprinciple
10 months ago
Hey Peaches, I might be the exception to the rule, but I'm set to mid 30s & mid 60s. Tell the truth, I'd gladly push to 99, just not sure how it would be taken š. I'm defs not looking for under 30s though
Samuel679
10 months ago
Age is only a number, you gotta realise sex is sex , youāre here to enjoy it because, you only live once and life is too short to give a shit of what other people think
WizardofOz
10 months ago
Why does the age matter and not the maturity???
We all have different preferences and male and female think completely differently just as you think differently to other females males think differently to other males, so why does your opinion make you right and others gross, have you thought you may be gross in your thoughts and they are not???
lollylover
10 months ago
Age is just a number. If you donāt give it importance, it wonāt bother you. I prefer playmates 2 decades younger to keep up with my endurance in bed. My cougar milfie fetish I guess. To each their own. Cheers xx
CrouchingTiger
10 months ago
I'll call myself a young 50yrs, for a while I told myself never below 35 years.
But in the last 18 months I've been blessed with a group of 3 friends, who are all 30 years.
They're intelligent, mature, and nothing about it seems inappropriate. It's all very wholesome.
Never say never.
Qpp75
10 months ago
No idea. I'm 49. No woman younger than late 30s is going to be remotely interested and the gap would be weird. I just go about 10 years either side?
RHP User
10 months ago
Hey š
I have my age limit 22-52
I have been told I look rather young still and still feel young.
Turning 43 soon. Have a feeling that age will be shifting to 23-53.
My partner is 35. Another reason for a lower age. She plays with women as well.RHP User
10 months ago
As a guy in his 50's I can't even think about girls that young in that way. I'm also about genuine connections and I find people I meet bloew a certian age I just can't relate to them.
Therockguy
9 months ago
I certainly wouldn't be with an 18 year old and think it's just morally and ethically wrong. But the same question needs to be asked, Is it gross for an 18 year old to want a 40+ man/sugar daddy? On this site there are numerous girls from the age of 18 having this as their preferred option. Goes both ways
Salos
9 months ago
I think itās a default setting possibly i just looked at mine n 18! Will change now tho! šš»šš»
DannyMF
5 months ago
If I canāt reference a movie or tv line because theyāve never heard of itā¦ too young. Iām 45 and recently had a 22 year old show a lot of interest but thereās no way I could go there. Flattered for sure, but I have to think it could be more than just sex. She wanted more but still too much gap.
Lion_and_cub
5 months ago
Interesting thread. People who meet us seem very accepting of our relationship. Perhaps actually meeting the person takes away from the superficial judgment based on numbers.
Mropenminded6417
5 months ago
This is a kink site for exploring fantasies. 18 is legal. But I do get what you mean. But also for some like myself, I never got the chance to have sex with a teen when I was young, so it will forever be on my bucket list until I get to do so.
Playfully69
5 months ago
Age is just a number however Iām 54 and wouldnāt entertain an 18 yo. At my age I prefer a play mate thatās had some life experiences and certainly after genuine connections with some things in common. In saying that Iāve set mine to 31 but even that might be to young. Not many women in there 30ās are interested in men over 50, even if I look 40 hehe (my opinion only of course)
gazpacho
4 months ago
āHalf your age plus 7ā is the golden rule. But, rules are merely guidelines with consenting adults.
NaptownsMatt
4 months ago
i do this jus because its easier not to change that, but, appropriate, 18 is an adult and there are many young women out there that look for strictly older men, and its ok if a man wants a younger woman. for me personally 18 is too young however i am 50 and i like women in the 25 to 40 range, i dont see anything wrong with that.. I dont know why other men do this but for me its jus easier not to change, although after ur input i may pay more attention to this,,
FunMelbGuy73
3 months ago
I don't set an age limit as 18, that's just kinda yuck for a guy my age. I do like younger women as I have but my taste starts at late 20's.
Howhardisthis
3 months ago
Well I never think to change my age preferences
I don't prefer anyone that young and never texted one that young and if it was put to me to have sex with someone that young well I'd have to take a lot more into considerationgazpacho
3 months ago
What a lovely positive tone. Personally, I set my limits at half my age plus 7. Currently thatās between 38 and 125
Mind you, Iāve been picked up by some toddlers lucky to be 21, but I can be very cuddly and understanding, particularly in cold weather and a bottle of whisky down. Just help yourself to my wallet kiddo.
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