Aftercare and Unicorns – Do We Talk About It Enough?

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  MrandMrsEss

  15 days ago

  Surely this is all just common decency. Wouldn’t you treat anyone who has shared their body with you with the utmost care and respect, whether they are the prised unicorn or not. But I have heard many times on here there are those that value the numbers and quickly drop the latest conquest for the next prey after promising much much more care and longevity. Just need the radar to be tuned in.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  15 days ago

  Interesting topic because I'm probably the opposite. Personally, as a single woman, I don't expect or seek aftercare from single men or couples. It's different if I'm in a coupled committed relationship because we have each other. Completely Different dynamics. For me, I'd rather leave on a positive note and decompress in my own space, at my own pace. It's not lack of appreciation or anything like that. I just don't want to feel like I'm intruding. I process experiences privately and too much emotional discussion and touchy feely afterwards can feel rather draining, awkward and can blur expectations. I value communication and boundaries beforehand. Afterwards, a respectful goodbye, a thank you and maybe a cheeky check in later means more to me than sitting around for cuddles and debriefing. Couples and single men are not my therapy sessions. If I want it, I pay professionals. Everyone's different though. For some, aftercare is important. For heavy BDSM play, yes it's very important and a must especially for everyone's mental health and wellbeing. For me, leaving feeling respected and comfortable is more than enough. Ms Foxy

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  Sugarbutties

  15 days ago

  J and T! Honestly, I think it’s lovely that you’re even thinking about this. So many people focus on the fun and excitement, but taking a moment to make sure everyone feels comfortable, appreciated and cared for afterwards says a lot about the kind of people you are. Those little things go a long way and make someone feel valued and respected The fact you’re asking the question probably means you’re already doing a better job than most. ❤️ Miss you guys hope you’re both well xxx

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  Pocketrocket602

  14 days ago

  For me personally, it depends on the connection I've made with that person/people. I've had some shocking encounters with couples and never wanted to experience playing with them ever again, quite a few have made me make the decision not to play with anyone at all until I've processed it properly. Other experiences I've had have been amazing... I've been showered and washed down (something to me which I find incredibly erotic), massaged, stroked and gently touched, scratched, cuddled and spooned, even brought me coffee in bed the next day 😊 checking in during and after is important not just for me being the recipient but for me being the giver also. Communication is paramount to me, even more than the enjoyment of the act. I've developed some wonderful friendships being a unicorn for couples, sometimes I've been their first so I'm grateful they have chosen me to have that opportunity and they have treated me with the utmost respect afterwards, that hasn't gone unnoticed 😊

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  SweetSerenade

  11 days ago

  It also goes both ways. A single person, male or female, being welcomed into your circle is also sharing a treat with the couple. We don't play into the idea that a 'unicorn' has greater currency than the couple, or the single male. We're all equals sharing our bodies, and due respect and appreciation should flow both ways. And yes, the catchphrase 'aftercare' is thrown around a lot and seems quite odd as no trauma or injury has taken place.... Respectful appreciation, gratitude and of course a well timed goodbye are all part of a great close to a fun play.

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  Timetoshine

  5 days ago

  Aftercare is paramount. Goes both ways. We can feel like crap too after an intense meeting. There is always a drop. Like having loved ones visit and stay, when they leave there is always an emptiness.

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  OurfunSYDcouple

  2 days ago

  Our main goal in our search for that elusive unicorn is to make sure that at any point in our meets and even leading up to.. that she is made to feel safe while playing with us…, it’s also important especially for me (Mrs) to show her that she has my full trust and permission to let lose and do whatever she pleases with hubby!!! That’s part of the fun and sexiness is having those moments to just sit back and watch the play evolve and intensify without hang ups or worry of anyone feeling left out!! We always follow up meets with messages checking in expressing our thanks and gratitude for them choosing us to meet as well as ensuring they enjoyed themselves and felt safe in our home… we feel it’s just a must in this lifestyle…

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