M45
Afraid to talk about sex and the obvious?
June 24 2017
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RHP User
9 years ago
I haven't found the above to be the case, at many events. However when everyone is present for a party already having a mutual interest (for example a gangbang/player's party), in the social time before play, sometimes sex and/or other parties and past experiences are talked about. However I've found people are often already quite comfortable enough (especially if they know regular attendees and other couples) that talk before play can be about anything and everything, from work, sport, travel etc etc. If an unwitting stranger walked in, it can look like, and probably even sound like, any other gathering of friends. For experienced players you know, yes, you can even open a conversation with sex talk or something explicit. However most may be new and so first talk is about general life topics to make them feel comfortable and inclusive as real people with otherwise normal vanilla lives. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Reply COUNTRY. Feedback always goes down well.
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
I think that there is often an expectation of sex....but I have yet to encounter anyone who may ask questions as to what that may include. For example, are you happy to give/receive oral sex, will you play alone or only with partner? I've also encountered couples who have not thought of and discussed their boundaries prior to play...and in one uncomfortable situation, had not discussed their boundaries with those they were playing with.
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
There are a few awkward moments ( we have seen this at 3 parties and the bar area of a swingers club ) where people stand around, awkwardly, waiting for someone to make the first move / start the action. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Two people waiting to make the move and undecided. And yes soooo many couples forget the boundary details and forget to explain them. They may be clouded thinking play play play. Without boundaries sometimes things can be awkward and things can go wrong. Always a great question...What are your boundaries and what are your rules of play likes and dislikes. Best to know.Before the play starts in the playroom. If they can not verbally mention that then allow them time to sort their shit out and cum back when ready. So important.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hi, I have been to 6 meetups and some 45 to 60 people have attended, and one meetup 15 , most times most are couples with 5 of us single female and not allways 4 times 4 single male,s , I have talked to quite a few and never has the subject of sexual matters come up not with in my hearing, I have talked about other normal detail, would I bring the subject of sexual detail up, doubt it, why, because I,m to shy would be embarrassed and really have nothing to say or add to a converstion and what could I talk about, yes I know I,m very naive, and don't know much.....and guys wont talk to me any way . let alone ask me for play time. , so whats my issue or problem, age way out of what they wont and not sexy enough, think that covers it apart for naive and what do I know any way ,.....nothing, so what guy would be interested any way , Ich bin nur nutzlos in irgendwelchen sexuellen Dingen und mache es scheitern = just means I,m useless, rather admit than try and be what I,m not. ...noeleena...
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have trouble keeping my mouth shut 😳😳😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
keep the feedback coming. Someone has to break the ice somehow....So how bout those cheeky Aussie Cricketer wives eeh? Awkward
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't have a problem talking about sex at clubs but its usually initiated by great banter or chemistry with somebody. Its like any grear conversation. You either click with someone in conversation or you don't. Open and comfortable conversation invites open and saucy dialogue. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Mmmmm....saucey! Btw what is "gear conversation"? 😜 Can i see you motor, would like to see my sprocket? Is GREAR conversation like a code for something......
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RHP User
9 years ago
I luuurve talking about sex in the right settings. It's fabulous fun. To me it doesn't have to lead to sex, it's just a mutual meeting of minds. :p
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RHP User
9 years ago
Lol. I believe I was meant to type ' great conversation'. Got a sprocket in your pocket? Hehehe..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
It is either a sprocket or something is happy to see someone or something.😉
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Seachange73
9 years ago
The posts were on topic and addressed people talking about sex in the club or parties. It also relays people experience in the clubs. Whoever asks for the deletions is just seriously paranoid or control freak. Censorship, with no cause, is just plain boring. Seriously Mods, can you please keep things in perspective. Thanks
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RHP User
9 years ago
Perhaps there is a new broom at HQ..or yet another work experience kid :) Q
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Seachange73
9 years ago
I thought global politics has gone conservative or swung to the right. I didn't expect that a more liberal site, sexual in nature as it is, would hold conservative views and subject mild sexual topics to such degree of censorship. What next? We just have discuss vanilla sex? 😞
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RHP User
9 years ago
Is missing. Maybe it was the RUSSIANS....fake news fake news!!
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'd say most of the talk is about vanilla sex on this forum, wouldn't you???
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Our posts of our experience in sex clubs/parties of chatting to couples/people about sex while while they are having sex in the club was pretty mild in my opinion. I found your post on being the 'lube assistant' during a fisting session quite hilarious. Totally innocuous IMO and on topic. Not sure why they disappeared? We may have new guidelines we should be aware of? Well, maybe let's chat about missionary position only from now on? 😄
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