Affairs the difference between online and reality

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Some people actually think that masturbation to pornography is "cheating". But the reality is that cheating is just like Christians will say ..... I.e. their is no better or worse sins... Just sin. Personally I'm kind of addicted to fornication, adultory and the occasional homosexual act. I guess there's no hope for me! As for on line relationships... You can love more than one person in life and reality and in virtual reality. We truly all do anyway.... We just don't have sex with everyone we love. When your lover feels cheated, then I guess that's when you are cheating. Hugs gazza

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  good point gazza.... i do suppose that again we are wired differently but masturbation? lol thats a bit much... unless one has a crush on his own penis or vagigi

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Cheating is cheating!! whether  it be online or in person, if you love your partner, you should have no need to cheat!! simple really, don't you think?? Also a lot of 'online' cheating has been known to progress to in person.... I have seen it with friends of mine in the past....If you truly love (and are IN love) then don't cheat at all!!!Mrs WA

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  If it's something you're not telling your partner about or willing to tell them about then it's a secret. And if there is someone else albeit online, you can't blame your partner for feeling cheated on. I think a lot of it also depends on how secure each person feels in the relationship. If your partner is engaging in clothing optional fun with others but still treats you with respect; is there for you physically and emmotionally have you been cheated out of anything?

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  playfulminx

  16 years ago

  It really depends on whether you base your definition of cheating on action or intent. If you consider online relationships to not be a problem because no physical actions take place, then I guess that's fine. However, if the intent is there, then you have to question if it's a healthy situation for you or your partner to remain in.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I like great dirty sex as much as the next guy and even when i was married i looked and found a lot of women very attractive. Cheating to me is an extra relationship on top of the one ur in without it being open and honest. I caught my wife out and she, as i was, devastated. Never once in 8 years did i have sex or anything other than a friendship with any one. As soon as emotions and sex become involved other than with ur primary partnerand they  don't know about it, it's cheating. I have absolutely no problem with open or swinging relationships because they're HONEST. Honesty is the ground level key to everthing working. We're all human and we're supposed to procreate. The fact we're lucky enough as a species to enjoy sex clouds our thinking, but we all think about it. Be honest tell ur partner how ur feeling work on it an have a stronger relationship.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Ones pulling off

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  On line affairs are a crock of shit. You only really ever know a fragment of a person and you romantically imagine the rest, filling in the gaps. It takes ages to really know someone. Our lives are potholed with baggage. For some it's obvious and for others it's well concealed. We tend to brush over the bits we don't like about someone we are attracted to, but on line these bits are easily disguised. It's a different matter in person. My friend met someone from Alaska and went over there to meet him. I fully expected her to be locked in a woodshed in teh wilderness and kept as a sex slave... hehe... the idea excited her too. None the less, the guy she had been chatting to for months turned out to be a total deadbeat and she came home. Then he found his way to Australia and the only way she could find to get him out of the place was to pay for his airfare back again... lolz. How romantic! All that energy spent.. all of it wasted and for what? The things people do to try and find "the one"... it's truly pathetic. That online affair was pure fantasy. Two people willing it upon each other because they found some connection in the slice of the character that they had exposed to each other in this format. I dont believe in the concept of the one. We can easily love more than one with all of our heart and when it happens we do it by accident! That's the tragedy of "an affair". No reasonable person sets out to hurt the person that they love. An on-line affair is a fantasy in a virtual world.... Outside of cyberspace, an affair is an accidental tragedy. HUgs Stalky

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I have to agree with you there 100% stalky. Me being the queen of online of getting togethers, never in any of my cases did they work out.I did have a relationship with someone that i met online and OMG and still after 3 and 1/2 years i didn't know much,the other party can keep so much information under raps its not funny,he ended up having some kind of bi polar disorder and i said i wasn't happy in the relationship any more so he turns around and basically tries and commits suicide,worst night of my life. The "one" or "soulmate" please i think their just buzz words to make it sound all romantic and keep people interested. sexyme21

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Does it really matter ?.. prob not eitherway However i would think the other person at the very least is likely to be hurt or offended so proceed with caution perhaps But I agree with Stalky online is a crock of shit ... its simply just words or for that a typed message but people just love to take the high moral ground and complain about what is right and what is wrong and what others are doing as it makes for them feel good to dribble more CRAP

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