M47
Adventurous Women
July 19 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
Honesty is best. While I don't personally have the same kinks, others may. Just remember there are more men on this site than women, it may just take some time for them to find you....although by posting you might get a nice surprise sooner rather than later. Good luck on your search.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Mr first post i read of yours totally hit the spot lol! I wasn't the only one that thought so either. Quite the opposite of what you just said as far as I am concerned. MOST guys are VAGUE, and that doesn't mean mystery or intrigue, it just means, he blends into the other bizillion profiles NEXT! Just be you, but that is the challenge, RHP doesn’t offer much chance for you to get you across, so you have to take what they give you and work it... MORE MORE MORE INFO is best! Be different, your profile can't blend, there are 70% guys i think vs 30% girls on here, after months of viewing profiles and messages, we females are thirsty for ORIGINALITY, great photos that aren't just you but sorta represent your style, interests, paint a picture, and are more interesting shots that others don’t have, fill in all the photos, even with pics of stuff you like. Pimp up your profile and make it a fun informative read, not just the standard drivel. Obviously list your sort after kinks, experiences you like and don’t like, add some humour, some soul, be honest and open. Look at other guys profiles, you’ll quickly see the same ole blah blah zzzzzzzzzzzzz i fall asleep pretty quick, but i hardly look at profiles these days. I need to be sold on a message now! I am minimal effort RHPr these days lol! If the message doesn’t have more than a paragraph, or isn’t original, i don’t even look at the profile. Don’t get to the messages much anymore, so only ever get to reply to the ones that have effort and are interesting, and some are after i’ve received 3 and not sent even one. And that is down to the numbers game, single gals are wanted by single guys, girls, and couples, so persevere with the gals that spike your interest. Oh but you are a guest, you can become a forum crazed communicator? But you’d get further sending messages... well this is embaressingly long and lecturey ewww best of luck xx
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wannabyummymummy
14 years ago
I think it is good to be yourself and there is nothing wrong with stating up front what you want to find here.I would probably leave out talk of the ex and the kids (talk about the ex makes it sound like you are hung up on her) and as for the kids maybe indicate more generally ie ' i am recently separated and my kids come first so i am not always available' if that is your situation. (some people are put off by the kids thing just ask Focus she will tell you loudly that she doesnt want to hear about or have contact with kids.)There is bound to be someone out there that likes the same things as you but it will take time, also are you interested in some 'less kinky' things that you could mention maybe people are put off thinking that is all you want??Membership for guys does make it easier as a lot of us gals stick with the guest membership (cheap i know) and you wont be able to contact them if you are a guest too , i guess it is true the man has to pay Don't loose confidence and don't lower your standards if you are genuine and respectful you will find what you are looking for here. WBYM
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RHP User
14 years ago
You guys have made some good points and its always good to get a second opinion. I think i will try to get some better creative pics up and edit my description a bit. I might get a cheap membership just to see if i have any interest or responses. First impressions are tough though. I was never good at clubs and bars and after a long term relationship i am still adjusting to being older and single. Guess i need to just stop being scared of rejection.
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RHP User
14 years ago
stay true to yourself and your kinks....OR....tell the ladies what you think they want to hear Be genuine or use subterfuge (it's amazing what guys will say just to get a root) . But really, it's just a matter of how and when you say it....and persistence :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Mr.Bungle Just give it time, as you say, they are out there. But you must remember that you are sort of looking for a niche woman, as the others have said, stay true to your kinks and fetishes but possibly lighten the requirements slightly. Be clear about what you want, but leave it slightly more open , for example: list your fetishes but instead of expecting a woman to have these exact same ones, put it out there that you are willing to explore her fetishes with her and the same in return. You both don't have to love each others kinks, just be willing to accept and encourage them. That really can work! and sometimes it's as simple as the wording. Where us girls need to have a gazillion no's in our profiles to guard against some of the crazy requests we get, you boys need to be careful of having the opposite (I know it's not fair, but venus and mars n all that) So my best advice is, keep it true, keep it open, and keep it exciting. Explain how your kinks tickle your fancy , perhaps it will tickle theirs, or they may even be able to relate as to how their own makes them feel similar. Am I making sense Lol best of luck anyway, and be patient.
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RHP User
14 years ago
If I was single and you were in Sydney I would definitely respond if you sent me a message as your profile is fine from my point of view. However,sometimes kinks can be confronting, even for those "adventurous" girls. I would still include your kinks (nice!) but when you say you like lots of anal you don't say who is the receiver! Your photos are good because they include head shots but they would have been better if you had been smiling.As they said above, it's a numbers game and originality will get you ahead of a very large pack. Good luck.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Definitely women out there not put off, enjoy, your kind of kink. I suggest you attend events dressed like the dirty slut you are and just be yourself.... people fall in love by accident... no amount of planning can make it happen... but it wont happen if you stay hiding in your kinky little wardrobe in ladies underpants... where nobody can see you :p.HugsStalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'm sure there was another post here before. What the?
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wannabyummymummy
14 years ago
Quoting 'mrbungle426' You guys have made some good points and its always good to get a second opinion. I think i will try to get some better creative pics up and edit my description a bit. I might get a cheap membership just to see if i have any interest or responses. First impressions are tough though. I was never good at clubs and bars and after a long term relationship i am still adjusting to being older and single. Guess i need to just stop being scared of rejection.'Older and single' are you serious?? you are only 32 hardly what i would call 'on the shelf and you are a cute looking guy i wouldn't worry so much about finding the right lady (it can come across as desperate) and just go out there and get amongst people, have a good time and love yourself and you will attract people to you, it is all about confidence at the end of the day and self belief. I met my husband after a bad relationship breakup and it was the minute i decided that i was a great catch and didn't need anyone else to tell me that, i went out with a view to have fun and make friends and ended up with the man of my dreams so it does happen
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' I'm sure there was another post here before. What the? It must've been removed by the posting fairies...
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erotictouch4u
14 years ago
Quoting 'Morticiaaa' (it's amazing what guys will say just to get a root) Some even have business cards made saying they are an accredited arbourist ET xox
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hey Mr Bungle Just out of sheer curiosity, is your handle at all related to 'The' Mr. Bungle, as in the Faith No More connection? But, that wasn't what I wanted to comment on. I just wanted to say that i too have read your profile and it reads pretty well to me. If you are up front, then hopefully anyone that genuinly wants to meet you is ok with this too. This way you don't waste your time or theirs. There are way too many people out there who play games, or say they are looking for/want things. Then when the time comes for the action to begin, they suddenly decide that this is not for them, or didn't really know WHAT they wanted in the first place. Good on you for being up front and honest with what you are looking for. As for the strap-on, I have done this for a guy and I have to say i found it extremely horny......so did he.....heeeheee. Stockings on guys - why not. I'm sure we have all seen Rocky Horror Picture Show??? It's actually quite sexy, especially if you have great legs.. Good luck, be honest, true & you should reap what you sow.. S x
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yes my handle is in relation to the band. i am a big mike Patton fan and this handle has been mine for so long coz every forum or site there is always a mr bungle but never a mrbungle426 unless its me. I am know to many people i have met from online be it car or nerdy forums to sex sites as Mr B. Its kinda cool and a good way to find peeps with similar music tastes. No to find someone with similar sexual tastes. And why is it all you women are so god damn far from me. Maybe i should buy a plane to see you all, stockings and all
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think your profile is very open & upfront and hones, but not all women will find it attracive, sorry. Not all women will be into what you put in your profile. I think that what you put in your profile is more than just "adventurous". It is kinky and maybe goes a step further than adventurous. I appreciate your honesty, but you have to accept the fact that not all women will be into what you are into. There are other sites that cater for alternative kinks, where you might find someone more atuned to what you are looking for.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well i have made a few lil changes and got membership. Sent out a few messages but was hoping i would get a bit more response than i have. Mostly its no response at all but i will just take that as a no from them. Would be nice to get a thanks but no thanks but guess all the sexy women have too many messages to reply to.So i will just be persistent and maybe i will get lucky. I might have to go to some clubs but i hate to go alone.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Wannabyummymummy if you met man of your dreams what are you doing on here now are you looking for another play friend :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Wannabyummymummy if you met man of your dreams what are you doing on here now are you looking for another play friend :)
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wannabyummymummy
14 years ago
Short answer, because i can!!Hubby and i share a loving and secure relationship and enjoy the freedom to have sex with others it is that simple,no lies no cheating, he plays, i play and we play together, like the large majority of couples on here (not that i really need to defend my choices in life but you asked) and not quite sure what that has to do with the topic at hand.
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wannabyummymummy
14 years ago
Quoting 'mrbungle426' Well i have made a few lil changes and got membership. Sent out a few messages but was hoping i would get a bit more response than i have. Mostly its no response at all but i will just take that as a no from them. Would be nice to get a thanks but no thanks but guess all the sexy women have too many messages to reply to.So i will just be persistent and maybe i will get lucky. I might have to go to some clubs but i hate to go alone. Well having seen the before post profile and the after i say it is a huge improvement As for the lack of replies well that is a whole other forum post (done 100 times over) you will find that more often than not you wont get a response at all (personally i find this rude) and like you say it is fair to assume that is a 'no' from them and move on.Hope you manage to find what you are looking for
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yep like I said in your other threads and my messages, keep at it Mr Bungle and don't fade into the background of all the other typical guys. In some ways I'm an even harder sell than you with things like height and kinks, but I just keep putting them out there and I've finally found a woman willing to go there with me on most of my kinks. It was worth the wait and the perseverence. And I'd have never met someone like that anywhere else, like in a pub pick-up attempt. Keep messaging folks Mr Bungle and try to come across as confident (but not cocky or arrogant) as possible. You might be shooting yourself in foot by commenting on the things you think are negative - age, height, kinks. Spin them as positives and keep looking until you find someone who agrees with you.
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