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A meaningful life.
March 24 2014
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madotara69
12 years ago
I consider it to have been a privelage. when I was a young man gazing upon waves and the beach, It was at the end of the years living the surfing life, as surfing takes your life and is good to it, not really a part time thing I don't think, you do or you try maybe. So I walked out off the water up the beach and don't remember where my surfboard went, some kid probably carving up some wave as we speak for the thoughts to it. I loved the life, though knew it, and had questions, needed to earn money, why? had plans for taking up the snowskiing life, work it travell it, fuck snow bunnies after serving them my charm as barman, the intensions and drive, to work and learn the tool for means. Barman. I applied to an exclusive golf club, the most chance for working with a class of people successful and important (in a way) important that I wanted to be good at my work barman the choice as most practical, social and best support to pursue the dream. Well I became the trainee of one by the classiest barmen one could ever meet, let alone become his student to life lessons all included, the gentleman that billionaires speak to with respects. The fine women could trust and catered too, not just pouring drinks, ensuring the family are treated to all matters attended, foreseen, not raise a hand nor given the chance for thought, though there I would be when the question became simply anticipated. Sounds funny I guess, though learning people is something of a skill and paying attention simple respect and some pride, I chose to become that person to represent them to a status, reason, meaning, I was the specialist to all that and just as good or equal for respect, these successful peers all to their drive for life choices. Had stories. Other time spent on weekday afternoons with a group of regular members dozen thereabouts, an hour, two, three a couple days at least each week, were a group of men that taught me more than any reading or schooling, hearsay, nothing than to the real life respects with my part they never would need ask a thing, I knew their manner for the order of how the drinks would flow, better than them, just by a mood, or sort of weather, busy in thought, each and all on a whim to the moments alone, beer, soda, water, whisky, when they would need a ginger beer with milk to line the stomach for the spectacle building with banter whisky next it was, not a doubt. It takes commitment to show that pride of the privileges to self esteem and personal stature, I to be respected as good at what I do. It payed off because Frank, the bar-manager became proud with his offsider and flaunted it, in a lesson itself. Observed over time his vouch was banter within the crowds, to me becoming the trainee of all those fine people and they taught me, the most valuable lesson till this day, the meaning of this life. Self confidence to the manner, see the sparkle in her eyes that smile, marry her, and keep her with me as the centre of all things to life, love and respect that person that is now and always was what they were going on about, exactly how it was told to me, we are successful and best friends, the most claimed common matter of business from all walks, it was just a bunch of men in love, they were happy in life. I gave up the dream for all time devoted, ready for the world and all the places to go. In an instant when the moment for advice came to happen, Tara smiling looking into my eyes, that's all that mattered and has ever since. Somewhere in amongst it all, I saw this TAMA drum kit, and met, learned and befriended same manner as learnt, one of the best drummers in the world, and the banter to meeting the people in his world, People of a caring nature are the super stars, business leaders, out back some beach surfing, working bars, typing posts in RHP, because fucking is great when you care to be in love, or even just care to it for when it does. Looking into peoples eyes, lilmiss fussy, if you can you are in a good place with life. Mado Mado Tara xx
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sweetgem
12 years ago
When I was in my young and dumb age, I knew only eat, sleep, play, work and donated blood (no I'm not a vampire food supplier lol), and repeated the cycle endlessly, until I got married and started a new chapter in my life. Then I began to set plans for things and followed those plans to achieve my goals. It was all sweet for a while until my former life ended! I was once lost for direction in the sense of didn't know where to go from that point onwards. I spent a good amount of time to put my previous life behind me and regained my direction. Once I stepped out of the dark tunnel, I knew straightaway what I have missed doing and what I should pursue again. Resuming to my charity work was one of the meaningful things I have done in my life, because I feel content when I see someone gets benefiting from my experiences, knowledge, awareness of mental health issues, and contribution to charity. I also love travelling as I think travel helps to open up my eyes to the larger world out there, and makes me extra cherishing what I have today! So, nowadays I will travel at every opportunity and it's one of my passions to pursue till the day I cannot travel anymore. Of course, traveling does get very expensive these days, because I like luxury hotels and fine dining, etc. hence it's another goal to motivate me to work harder lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
said an unexamined life is a life not with living.He stressed the importance of happiness,self achievement and fulfilling goals without hurting others........... Sometimes lilmiss I feel like I have lived about five different lives in this one life......I am content with my small life...it has a nice balance...I work,I volunteer.... Iget to spend time in a very supportive community....faith based,but not my faith but one whose philosophy is "the least the last the lost"...I have come to terms with the fact that there is no great romantic love for me,but I experience love in many different ways,every day xxxQ...great topic btw
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm a long-time fan of that particular quote from Socrates. It's one of a handful of ideas that has guided my life for the past 15 years. Thank you for mentioning it :) I often take inspiration from your posts. Thanks also for those x
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RHP User
12 years ago
You will never hear someone say I wish I spent more time at work
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RHP User
12 years ago
A few years ago I emotionally hit rock bottom: my ex wife was getting more of my wage than I was, I was trying to raise a teenage daughter by myself and I had just been tapped on the shoulder to go to Iraq for 6 months. I couldn't sleep, didn't eat, all I could do was worry about everything. But then something strange happened. A good friend of mine was admitted to hospital after suffering a major panic attack. Here was an intelligent, well read, (very) financially secure and level headed woman who had convinced herself that her children will die an early death because of climate change. Yes you read right, climate change. The thought of that consumed her, nearly destroying her. So there I was, sitting next to her bed in hospital, holding her hand whilst telling her jokes to try to make her laugh (yes I succeeded somewhat) and I thought to myself - hell my life isn't that bad after all and I made a decision which has changed my life. I decided not to worry about things outside of my direct control. If a situation arises that I can not change to the better, I don't ignore it, I just don't worry about it. Kind of like a version of karma I have been told. I don't hide my head in the sand, if something comes up I can't change I do what is needed to deal with it and then let nature run it's course. So now, if something unexpected happens, like a big bill (simple phone call, explained the situation, made arrangements, bill got paid eventually), being retrenched from my first post-military job (yeah I get to sleep in for a change, decided to give myself a two week holiday then start looking for work - had a job with a week). I just find myself a lot calmer now and a lot more realistic too. And I sleep a lot better ! Mooka
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
I think for me it was trying to rethink, rewire and a shit load of positive thinking...with some of the things I've done, the way I've allowed myself to be treated, the mistakes I've made, I defiantly needed to do something to save/help myself..... Now I surround myself with honest, loving, funny, people who I enjoy spending time with. I put myself first a lot more these days, I read a lot, I try new things, quality time with my family, meeting new people and most importantly I think/look at things/myself a hell of a lot more differently nowadays......💋
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was raised to give. To be there for anyone who needed help, when ever they needed it, even if it meant you went without. This wasn't driven by any theology, or idealism, its just how my parents were. I grew up in a very close knit rural community, that's how everyone was. When I asked them why they thought and acted this way, they didn't know, they just felt that it was the right thing to do. So I help where I can because I can. That's meaningful to me. I feel my life is meaningful, and I'm very lucky to have a job that allows me to have a significant positive impact on people's futures, family life, and their well being. It puts a lot of value in my past bad experiences. I am raising my kids well. They are respectful, confident but not arrogant, well mannered and understand the value of work. That brings meaning to my life. Life is all about control I reckon. Control the things you can. Forget the things you cant, they'll cost you more than they are worth. I've brought more meaning to my life by dumping the crap I don't need, material or emotional; I've dismissed sentiment. Its a memory, that's all; I've stopped looking for the meaning in everything. Stuff just happens, deal with it and move on. Most of all, I'm content, or as close to it as anyone can be I guess. And that means a lot to me.
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madotara69
12 years ago
What you are saying, reminds me back to those conversations back in the clubhouse bar. Part with all to the life of love thing, was the way those men discussed the challenges life of business to topics over discussions. I have mentioned this before in some thread, again however, where I was of no business mind, other than an enterprise taken during school years my Ten pin bowling business. Teachers teach one to use their noggins to get what they aim for, my first attempts at learning to the concept, they were right, I was making money, and had put the efforts in to getting the actual pins and ball to school, a dozen and one. It all got taken, just took it all away, for no reason I believe was business related, nor justified, jealous they must have been because they had a canteen working, maybe favouritism, I simply had no rite to representation and plain simple ripped off. The gentlemen talked of business relations, competitors and things I have no term of understanding the specifics, though expecting some sort of logic genius to graph and model,mathematics, and vast kind of knowledge, would be the way business was done and successful. Nothing of the sort, logic was in the hands of the pay staff. Business was knowing people and behaviour, these men were happily married, no stress, calm thinkers and care for people in their company present, friends family, me or the gardener, a paper boy, all the same type of nature, it became fairly clear after some time just listening and thinking to some thing they had intentions, part of things I was. I learnt that worry is not for any thing to important, its to what it is, though commonly put to everything causing all these conditions society is breeding. When someone is coming at you in competition, eg; intentions to open a chain of stores and need something in order to do so by business warfare and some form with trickery, when intercepting that person of threat. It is done by welcoming them and treating them proper, no games just business strategy, so that that person of threat ultimately feels so secure that they can't help but tell people of their intentions, they don't have it in them to have clear conscience, and it fails people every time. they did not once belittle anyone, not even the competitor. that is something learnt over a few years, I was bar manager of the club when I left, all functions, members trade engagements, general members golf and tournament functions, weddings, the ladies and their amusing sections, bridge, pokies, even a chapel, and member family dinning. Ran the lot and never a worry, busy sure, reps took me a couple of times, ordering stock. I reckon one rep had the secretary manager question me to spending the entire lot of money and any credit the club had in their banks. Could not walk into the cellars as they were jam packed with what the rep said was regular purchase. Once . The only other time of concern was a waitress bringing me a bottle of the vintage wine only a couple of thousand dollars a bottle, with cork floating in it. The secretary manager was very forgiving and wrote it off and personally dispensed of it. mooks worry is for kids crook and people close, in times where nothing can be done to it, though that is only in extremities. And worry seves it's purpose, it just buggers up most other things.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'AuntieEdna' said an unexamined life is a life not with living.He stressed the importance of happiness,self achievement and fulfilling goals without hurting others........... Sometimes lilmiss I feel like I have lived about five different lives in this one life......I am content with my small life...it has a nice balance...I work,I volunteer.... Iget to spend time in a very supportive community....faith based,but not my faith but one whose philosophy is "the least the last the lost"...I have come to terms with the fact that there is no great romantic love for me,but I experience love in many different ways,every day xxxQ...great topic btw Me too AuntieEdna...... I will die alon in my apartment and nobody will notice, but it's okay, by that time I will have loads of cats who can eat my body so that I just disappear without a trace. Can I ask you. what does that mean? "the least the last the lost"? I am not sure I understand.
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RHP User
12 years ago
My focus for the last few years I mean, I have been focusing on me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
The children who are thought of the least,cared for the least,the children who always come last,the children who get lost in the system.....I have always been passionate about social justice and I love this philosophy xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well my life has changed so much for me in the last 18 months. End of marriage, no longer a fulltime mum, heartbreak and the death of my father. No longer capable of working fulltime due to lower back problems. You know what I've accepted all the changes in my life. My focus is to just enjoy life, be good to your friends and family, be open to experience new things, take of myself physically, and be open to find love when it finds me again. I have sponsored a world vision child for 10 years and a regular blood doner. Save to try and travel and just try be happy as life is just way too short.
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' My focus for the last few years I mean, I have been focusing on me. To learning, observing participating hosting and posting over the last couple of years, and some archives to your dream caretaker of debauchery. Fuck you know more to everyone's nature of desires and kinks, more to the nature of most couples grasp on swinging, your kicking around with a legend of the era, If you don't get off your arse and make something of the dream in your hands, well its more than just you, we will turn up, so would hmmmm, check the archives to Meeka posting, how many pages of someone asking what to it and Meeka, casually just happened to have spent time to it, have fun, do or don't, if you do then fucking you with my strap on shall settle any differences. Ideas Meeka, I know rockstars with less enthusiasm, not even that bright, but they love it, that is where your love is. Anyway you shine bright to something to what question for why? is given reason to the answer to what is stopping you?. Your self is the only thing the dream waits on?, plus all us dirty fuckers that would turn up and help screw things to walls and yeah I'll go up there and put that hook in, wrap gazpacho up in a warm satin gown and keep his eye to the moral, you just got to choose location. You are no fool, I have spent many years around people just like you doing it. Honest.
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RHP User
12 years ago
So what are you saying? The meaning of my life is to bring debauchery to as many as people as possible. LOL.
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RHP User
12 years ago
one of the best forum posts for along time. Thanks Lilmiss Wish I new enough to add to the convo - but learning and appreciating form those who have.
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madotara69
12 years ago
Have a watch INXS Live baby Live wembelton stadium. local kids from newcastle. The crowd are moved to the idea, literally It's the meanings you will give to so many peoples lives, you know how to make it work. yeah, it is your meaning. And there ain't nothing like the way you would have it. Tara is happy to come down and ride around mow the lawns, or just drive for the fun of it. I have a big ladder. And some very nice lights.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I actually thought I had a blessed life, I am happy, healthy and have 3 kids the same. I never really ever want for anything although I am far from rich. I enjoy helping others and have been a volunteer with the SES. I give blood, donate to a few charities here and there and done other volunteer work along the way. Then when people hear what I have gone through in my life they wonder how on earth I function. I tried to commit suicide as a kid, I found my father dead after he hung himself, my ex was an alcoholic, pot head, pathelogical liar who threatened to kill me then left me for a 22yo, I raise my 3 boys on my own. In the last few years, I have been held up at knifepoint twice at work and almost a third time, had my life threatened again by a woman and her bikie boyfriend for not giving her a job, an ice addict stabbed my car tyre, had a peeping tom....I still think my life is pretty good. I am happy and healthy and have everything I need. I have a great family, my kids are a good reflection on me and my efforts. I don't sweat the small stuff and I love a challenge so bring on the hard stuff. I am in a job that I love and work too much but I manage an adult shop so my work is probably more fun than my life, lol.
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Smilingwithfun
12 years ago
Meaningful Life. Would mean a lot of different things to a whole lot of people. I am reminded of the words from The Bucket List as to what the Ancient Egyptians asked. Have you found joy in your life? Have you brought joy to others? Two short questions asked that would sum up a meaningful life to many.
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RHP User
12 years ago
To live, you must aspire to attain the goals you set for yourself, not live to please others. Don't struggle to reach any one else's ideals.The goals you set are not always necessarily meant to be reached. It's the journey that is life.
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RHP User
12 years ago
meaning of life is LOVE. I learned the hard way how precious life is, and how little time some have.I love and I am not afraid to be loved and I want to mean something to my people who surround me. Each person who comes in my life doesn't matter its only for a short time or until the end of my days I like them to feel happy in my presence.That's all, I have no demands on no one and I have no chains to bind anyone.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lilmiss fussy you ask the big questions. From the amount of time some of us spend on here sex must have something to do with the meaning of life. And I like Litonya's take on it. At the risk of not being politically correct and offending some people on here I think the meaning of life has something to do with children (and grandchildren ) and procreation because on some level that it what got us here.......the need to produce the next generation, and this has been happening for generations. And if you get right done to basics none of this crazy world would exist if we failed to produce the next generation. That said I know some very inspiring and worthwhile people who have not reproduced. This confuses me. I think the true meaning of life is that there is no meaning, and the best we can do is be amiable and cheerful and enjoy our allotted time with out impinging on anyone else's time slot.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I heard a big bang the other day and sent the kitten to investigate, seeing as she is brave and there is no man in the house. She ran back in distress, fur on end. I discovered that the hanging rail in my wardrobe had collapsed and chaos reined in my wardrobe, as it did in my life.I did, what any brave woman or kitten would do, after surveying the mess, I laughed and simply walked away! Next day, I filled 3 bags with excess stuff and felt a huge sense of relief. The kitten found some kinky lingerie I had forgotten about, with feathers to play with. A kitty after my own heart. I realised then that I should be happy with what I have. I am starting to rid myself of the baggage I had accumulated, failed marriage, low self esteem and fear of being happy. Next time someone bullies me at work, I won't let them see that they can upset me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
What a brilliant post. You're a natural story-teller x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I believe that the only thing of any value in this world is love. Therefore love is the purpose (meaning) of life. Thank you for your gorgeous post reaffirming this for me. My ponderings are how I can live a more meaningful, therefore more loving, life. Not the love of a partner, though that's divine! But LOVE, big love, unfettered love, generous love, expansive and extensive love. To love and be loved. My question to myself is how best to create a life around that. It's an interesting reflection. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've always challenged the idea that the biological urge for survival of our species constitutes meaning. But then, when you strip everything else away and question all other attempts to define meaning, inevitably you get back to nothing more than survival of the species. Except for the impact of conscious thought and free-will, which transcend basic biological urges. For me, life is a choice. Procreation is a necessity only so that a species survives but not so that the species has any intrinsic value. Survival does not equal value. Life does not equal value, in my view. I think choosing death is an equally valid choice. Therefore if I CHOOSE to live I want it to be for something of value. For me, the only thing of value is love. I really like your post, thank you x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have decided to share in this post. I came from a bad marriage of 18yrs. I moved 4500km and changed everything about my life. I knew no one in the area I moved to, had to find a job and started my life again with 2 kids. According to my kid's I'm the strongest person they know. I have faced my demons, done the battle and every day is a new one. I constantly re evaluate my life, I try and do things outside the box. Put myself out my comfort zone. I've become a bit of an adrenaline junkie I guess, the buzz of something new makes me realize just how alive I am and what I can achieve. Yet I stay grounded. Feet firmly on this earth and I try to be the best person I can be. I have some great friends now, on and off this site, I love my job and I'm settled. I do not "need" anything in my life, I have my wants and desires of course, but have the essentials, stay humble, be honest, treat other's with respect, laugh (its good for you) and remember tomorrow's a new day. Appreciate the simple pleasures in life like the sand between your toes on the beach at sunset, the joy of good company and how it's the simple things in life that are the best. The rest will follow :)
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' meaning of life is LOVE. I learned the hard way how precious life is, and how little time some have.I love and I am not afraid to be loved and I want to mean something to my people who surround me. Each person who comes in my life doesn't matter its only for a short time or until the end of my days I like them to feel happy in my presence.That's all, I have no demands on no one and I have no chains to bind anyone. So including the picture you seem so full of life and in good spirit, health and some real genuine reason to be happy, a picture tells a thousand words. Yet your post reads as though you are saying goodbye, that you have lived life. If you do not mind, are you OK.? Love is all, I agree, amen, yep you beauty, bloody oath. Then reason of meaning is you mean something to me, hence I ask with means to love.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I got tired of seeing my best efforts get turned into bullshit by the same people who paid me to do the job. So I stopped giving myself freely and began sharing myself openly instead...a minor distinction, but a major mind shift.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Simple as that limiss fussy a meaningful life is just that ?meaningful to your life .:-)) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Amazingly lil missfussy asked the question, yet I have followed this thread and found many answer's. Love reading the post's and I have opened my eyes to many things I forgot about. Thank you all, just wanted to say :)
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigocean72' Simple as that limiss fussy a meaningful life is just that ?meaningful to your life .:-)) - Posted from rhpmobile I haven't mentioned to Tara that you have gone fell in love, a little bird came sat on my shoulder. Look after it, keep it close by all-ways, don't forget to remind yourself until it becomes etched into that poetic mind of yours. Centre of your life, don't leave it up to her. People are going to try test you, stay strong
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RHP User
12 years ago
quite a lovely thread :) Thank you all x
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RHP User
12 years ago
Some birds speak chinese! Some birds dont sing ! Only whisper!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigocean72' Some birds speak chinese! Some birds dont sing ! Only whisper!! - Posted from rhpmobile I was just sitting here at the computer, probably perving on Lady T, as one does. Then the computer screen started flashing, bells and whistles went off, at first I nearly shit myself thinking fuck!!! they caught me. No, it was then quite apparent, Bigocean flashing right there in front of me, saying come read my story. So the whole entire population of RHP, maybe face book and surely the rolling stone, would not consider it a whisper, bahahahaha Bright lights, big city.......I feel like singing again
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madotara69
12 years ago
I just found myself lying on the floor, must have fell off the chair It took but all of a second, to find the meaning for it. Seems you have everything in order.
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