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A little more conversation
February 23 2016
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sweetgem
10 years ago
When I meet a man for drinks or coffee, I just let the moment takes its course, after a little of an ice breaking chat. Usually, when I meet someone compatible, conversation topics would just flow in and we interact back and forth smoothly with a bit of teasing, getting to know each other and fact finding without making each other feeling awkward. However, I do tend to ask the certain same questions each time I meet someone new just to: 1) find out if he's already taken or not; and 2) find out if he's after an one off or a regular encounter. As for the struggling part, depends on what degree does he struggle and what kind of body language has he shown. If he shows impatient, or doesn't want to be there type of struggle, where he would take out his phone and starts making bullshit excuses for using his phone while I'm sitting opposite him, then I know I would have to get up and leave first. Another instant deal breaker for me at a coffee meet is, when a man starts hinting that it's enough coffee talk, let's get down to business! Sure that I love sex too, but im not desperate and certainly have no interest in making myself feeling cheap! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Firstly, I love that song and use it as my catchcry 'A little less conversation, A little more action' I talk about sex, always lol I'm not kidding, that's it
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RHP User
10 years ago
And it's never awkward, guys love talking about sex
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RHP User
10 years ago
god sorry, hijacking the thread here, I'll bugger off after this, but music as well, love music and talking about it. Just received a message from a really nice guy who articulated a great message, finishing with a kind of 'quick quiz' lol I won't embarrass him by saying too much more but it was fun answering the few questions and expanding on them, great way to get to know someone and a little different, really cool
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RHP User
10 years ago
If I meet anyone for the first time and strike up a conversation, I never plan whats going to come out of my mouth.I bounce off the other person. The only difference with online first meets is that sex will be brought up at some point.
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RHP User
10 years ago
ever ever gone on a date/meet up in my life - either in or out of RHP! Wow! That's pretty sad considering I'm 37! But I've basically been in a long term relationship with someone since I was 16 years old. And they've either started off in group friends situations or with hubby - we knew each other as friends through work for ages before we started seeing each other. He started taking me out but by then I knew pretty much everything about him. For me what the other have said though. I wouldn't have anything prepared - just go with the flow and bounce off the other person. If they were quiet but their body language showed me they were into me, I would try and bring them out of their shell a little. I've been watching the show first dates - because it cracks me up how some people interact on a first date. The was a lady on their who came back for a second time. But she would hit her dates up on their five year plans etc straight off the bat. She gave her dates the Spanish Inquisition!
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RHP User
10 years ago
No set plans as one conversation leads to another anyway. That being said I do try to think of a few things before hand if there is one of those awkward gaps in the conversation
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RHP User
10 years ago
We have just had a post in which some people have made their views plain about conversation before sex. As in its not required. However .....I like to talk to someone first and get to know them a little. Their likes and dislikes, sense of humour.....what buttons I need to press. Its all about anticipation. If we connect then talking about things leads to an understanding of what we need and like. Mmm 2 guys, massage, morning well spent.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
lol When the conversation happens is up to the people, for me it's via the phone and then after sex, definitely no conversation when I meet the guy. Is that okay with you or are we going back to the whole dating before sex thing, yawn. Getting a little tired isn't it, the narrow minded view I mean. Sex are my dates mmm again not traditional, but doesn't exclude me from being in a relationship, just one with sex coming before everything else, even food lol he won't have time to eat, unless he's making a meal out of me 😁😁 and not a lot of time for conversation either. But thanks for highlighting how traditional views are clung to, bang on topic, nice one 😁
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes, or should I have said bang on topics, plural? Yawn
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Seachange73
10 years ago
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RHP User
10 years ago
In short, Freya...I wing it. But it's not hard and it's not really winging it. I just be myself...and the heavens willing...I'm feeling well and the rest comes easy. Of course, unlike with someone I've known a while, I'm careful to allow the other plenty of time to respond in full. When with persons I know well, we may but in on each other before our sentences are even finished.If we're drinking, anyway.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Let it go, be happy with who you are
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RHP User
10 years ago
Given that from what I'm told, the majority of guys send messages to a photo/written profile which basically say (paraphrasing) "hi, I'm so and so, I can go all night and love giving pleasure and will eat you for hours, you won't be disappointed etc etc".... how they think a conversation could flow from that should they actually convince someone to reply, or actually meet them! That of course is viewed from my own perspective.... where banter is part of those things which I find attractive. You might look like (insert name of your preferred heavenly vision"here") but if there isn't great banter, I'm just not going to feel like escalating things. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hey, thanks for yet again highlighting my posts, can always count on you. There will always be guys looking for a quick root and nothing else, same as there are guys who enjoy a womans company too, so we both win. Smiles all round
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RHP User
10 years ago
Usually laughing heaps and dribbling shit while solving the worlds problems. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Like most things in life planning is not something I am partial to. Have no idea where a conversation may go but I hope it moves in a direction that can be somewhat confronting and strange if the other is as open to chatting about anything and everything. I would have to say the most enjoyable time I have had was through a dating site with a real out there kinda girl, no topics were barred and as we sat eating dessert, out of the blue she asks. Have you ever slept with a man, funny as fuck and I am not sure if she was disappointed when I said no. We didn't get together as we were far removed from each other but they are the kind of chats I love.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm smiling. Sex makes me very happy mmm
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RHP User
10 years ago
Me to. Dribble shit ( small talk ) until you hit on something in common. What else can you do ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
How about , I'll show you mine if you show me yours even ? Now that's not fuckng around. ? lol.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Its their way way or the highway. Fuck. Dont you hate it when you sit on your popcorn...... No set chat with me. What dribbles out......is what dribbles out. They dont like it.......well have some popcorn
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RHP User
10 years ago
Depends on how down to earth I think they are, if I sense they are easy going and have a sense of humour, or if they are a bit more conservative, it differs.
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RHP User
10 years ago
A bit like customer service, you assimilate to them to some degree to make them feel more at ease.You read them as best you can when you first meet to that end.Once they are at ease talking then you find out more and can take it from there.Avoid polarising topics. Basically try to get out if the initial tension zone as quickly as possible and avoid awkward moments.First impressions count.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'd rather just turn up and "go with the flow". Sometimes, the minute I see the guy from a distance, I really just feel like running away but out of courtesy, I turn up and often regret not running away. Conversation is a two-way street. I hate it when people do not participate actively as in they just sit there quietly and what... expect to be entertained?! Chemistry has a big part to play though - sometimes, the conversation just flows and you can't get enough of each other. Other times, it feels like the ol' water drip torture. It's not just the topics brought up during conversations that matter - it's the confidence that's being projected, the passion for the subject matter, and their interest in your opinion or are they just happy to hear their own voice all the time. I love people who are in touch with their emotional selves and have a bit of introversion and reflective capabilities. Flibbertijibbets, will 'o' the wisps, clowns on helium, motormouths ... I tend not to get too excited about them.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I once learnt that first coffee was much more successful if you didnt focus on what to talk about. Generally if you've gotten as far as a meet you should have something in common already - well I prefer to build something basic as it helps me be my confident self. Ive not had a situation where awkward conversation stalled progress which is lucky for me but I think focusing on confidence in yourself is probably going to help conversation along heaps!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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