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We all know that work is a place where we need to switch on to work mode ONLY, but we’re not robots, we are mere humans with many needs. When hungry we need food, when tired we need rest, when sad we need comfort and yes when we are lonely/ Horny we need Love/SEX. To be clear we're talking about consensual sex as opposed to sexual harassment.
We’re spending more and more time in our place of work and the office has become the new ‘pick up place’. Gone are the days where work was perceived as a means to an end, to pay bills and put food in our plates.

Work place through the years has changed in its dynamics; spending uncountable hours in the office lend itself to changes in the fundamentals of the work ethics. Work has become a place where life happens.

The construct of making money for survival alone is not a true reflection of modern workplace. A new balance had inevitably to transpire; coupled with the fact that people have more time to look after themselves and there are more women in the work field, work is the obvious place for meeting and fulfilling fantasies.

We have direct contact with co-workers on a daily basis, we talk about life and work, we laugh at jokes, and we have coffee and occasionally lunch together here and there. These are a reiteration of the beginning stages of the dating game already. What follows is almost inevitable. It shouldn’t really surprise us that people get attracted to their co-workers and sometimes take it to the next level.

Reality is we cannot deny ourselves our human instincts and as much as we’d like to think we could control them, we act on them sometimes, an instinct that has been detrimental to our survival as a species really. Sometimes emotions and hormones get the best of us.

But at what point do you decide if it’s worth risking the future of your job to take the next step. Take a close look at all the potential benefits and disasters that could come out of this adventure.

While dating a coworker might seem like a wild thrill don’t entirely throw caution to the wind especially, if you are trying to advance your career. There are a few main factors to consider before impetuously taking the plunge into an office romance.

Unless you want to walk the plank and swim with the sharks, an office romance in a small to medium size office is potentially disastrous, more chance of success in bigger office places. In small office places your little adventure becomes everybody’s business, not a desirable.

As a rule of thumb in any workplace, if you’re to have sex at work keep the kissy-touchy part of the relationship out of everyone’s ‘face’, for everyone’s comfort and for the sake of keeping a productive environment. In short do your best to conceal your office romp. Don’t brag about it to your friends at work, it will leak and that is a recipe for disaster.

Also don’t date your boss, it creates an unfair relationship, keep out of this equation and all is rosy and fun!! Furthermore, once the romance comes to an end, guess who is going to be looking for a new job? While an office romance is a very common occurrence and not quite as taboo as it once was it’s often best to keep your little fling under wraps.

If you find yourself in this kind of pickle try to weigh out the pros and cons of such a fling. In general, be professional at your place of work. It is understandable that given the amount of time we spend at work we are inevitably, at least some of us find our next fling or life partner. If you think you can handle a fling and continue productive work regardless then enjoy the wild adventures.

Here is an interesting facts for you:

In the Australian Sex Census in the question: ‘Have you fantasised about sex with a co-worker?’ 70% of men and 50% of women have answered yes to this question. Also have a read at what people are saying in the Forum on Work place Sex

The majority of us probably condemn such behaviour but there is a need to acknowledge the reality of today’s work dynamics and talk about it. It may be a sign of the ages; times change and so do attitudes and perceptions.

If you haven’t had your share of sexual encounters at your workplace, at least you’ve probably thought about it.


What are your thoughts on this subject? If you had a chance to pursuit a ’fling’ at work would you? Have you ever had sex at work or got it on with a co-worker?