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Is squirting the stuff of urban legends or is it real? It’s definitely real. Squirting is not a party trick. It either it happens, or it doesn’t.

The question isn’t if female ejaculation is real, the question is why don’t trust women to tell us?

When we credit people with their own sexual experiences we can all learn from them. When we accept that bodies are diverse and amazing, and that we don’t know it all. Only then can we better learn and understand each other.

Female ejaculation does not always happen, it depends on the situation, how stimulated and comfortable women are. It is estimated that around 60% of women can ejaculate. Some experts even state that female ejaculation is something that has to be learnt, which means that you may need some training to do so.

It’s quite normal to experience female ejaculation during sex, but it’s also normal if you don’t do experience it.

So, to clarify what squirting is, here are a few questions we’ve answered and some tips if you want to try it.

DOES IT HAPPEN TO EVERY WOMAN?

Nope. Research shows that a large number of women can squirt. If you feel like you are missing out, don’t. Because you may be able to learn how to squirt.

SHOULD YOU TRY IT -  AND HOW DOES IT ACTUALLY HAPPEN?

Heck yeah, you should try it. According to a study conducted, 80% of women and 90% of their partners who have experienced this said it was good for their sex lives – so why not give it a go?

You might or may not get there – again it’s not clear if it’s a born or learned skill – but all the same have fun trying to succeed, it’s lots of fun. So, if you want to give it a go, these squirting techniques and tips may help you with achieving a stronger orgasm or a squirting orgasm.

If you want to try it, here a couple tips to follow:

Get her to relax

The most important thing that helps a woman squirt, is that she is in the right frame of mind. This is everything, really. If she feels judged, nervous or shy or that she can’t let loose, there’s no way she’s going to squirt. The secret is that she needs to feel comfortable and free that she can let loose and squirt.

Use lot of lube

Plentiful amounts of lube are absolutely recommended for this. You will always benefit from extra lube, because making her sore or scratching her is going to kill your chances of making her squirt. 

Stimulate the G-spot

Be certain that your partner is completely aroused. Use loads of foreplay, focus on the clitoris and other erogenous zones and then move on to stimulating the G-spot.

You find that squirting happens during G-spot stimulation. You can find the G-spot by sticking a finger in vagina and making a ‘come hither’ motion. You know if you feel an almond-sized area wrinkly skin. A quick note, it is vital that your hands are clean and nails are trimmed to avoid infection or injury. 

Get a toy

If your fingers get tired, because squirting, especially if it’s the first time, takes time and fingers get tired. So, bring in your favourite vibrator.

Hop on top

Not going to sugar coat it, it may be difficult to squirt during sex, especially in the beginning. If you’re game, try woman on top position, facing him or back to him. This position helps you better control the angle of his penis.

Don’t hold back

Just like you won’t hold back an orgasm, don’t do it here. Relax and just let your body enjoy it

Some women squirt more than others, but the sensation will be pretty intense.

It can be a shock the first time it happens, but the good news is, you’re most likely doing something right, so you can be proud you’re pleasing her.

If the sheets get wet, don’t make a big deal of it – just have a towel handy! If she’s embarrassed, reassure her it’s completely natural.

If it doesn’t happen

Don’t get discouraged if she doesn’t squirt the first time, you can try again. When you eventually succeed, she’ll love it. If it never happens, she’ll still love all the attention and the orgasms as a result. Bottom line is - squirting and not squirting are both normal. 

It's great to want to experience another aspect of sexual pleasure, but don't let that translate to pressuring yourself to squirt or feeling "inadequate" if you don't. It should go without saying that if you feel pressured to do it, it's just not going to happen.

That’s it. Hope these tips help you with squirting.

If you’ve discovered your key(s) to squirting, do you have any advice to offer? Please share in the comments below.