M47 F37
We're Swingers? Or not?
March 24 2025
Thats what I always believed what swinging was.
But being on this site for some reason a couple's refused to swap that's the whole reason why you experiment as a by curious female male or male male female you won't be with your same partner so you are actually swapping being with someone else's partner so I don't get it can someone give me some answers?
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friendseeker
9 days ago
The answer is that you cannot control what the other couple thinks or does
A few questions about your post?
Did the other couple explain why they didn’t swap?
Had you been clear in your expectations
So many questions as to why the situation happened
MsSuperFoxy
9 days ago
Swinging: Having free uninhibited sex. More an act of sexual expression, than a silly label.
Ms Foxy
boobsandbusted
8 days ago
Maybe they are and just didnt want to swap with you or anyone on that night or saw something once naked, heard something that put brakes on , there are many umbrellas to the lifestyle ,and one is only playing with their own partner amoung others ,
Mr bboobsandbusted
8 days ago
Ps not sure if I’m on
My own here ,but it would make it easier when chatting texting or meeting people if they didnt just say we are swingers and went with something that let you know where there at ,like we are dirty vanillla ,swingers ,soft swap swingers ,retired swingers ,own partner swingers ,peeps get the drift instead of just ,we are swingers ,but at the end of the day no one owes anyone anything and you just have to work it out or go with the flow until you find out , it’s part and parcel to the lifestyle
And yes ,I like the idea of a colour coded party ,
ElectricDreamers
8 days ago
I (Mrs) have been at clubs overseas where everyone sticks to their partners. That felt a bit weird... like they were there to feel naughty and not actually swap...
But in terms of couples here on the site - everyone's got their own journeys. Especially when they start out. If their journey and boundaries don't fit with yours you are not a match.
Best to just move on...
FeistyFatty
8 days ago
Swinging isn't linear.
Hubby and I swing left, right, up, down, in andq .... All couples play differently and I prefer "Lifestylers" if I'm labelling 🩷
seekandplay
8 days ago
First up - RHP is not just for swingers. Sure, it’s where a lot of swingers come but it’s not *just* for swinging. Single F here, met ENM married M here. We do not swing and I did not meet him for that purpose. Many, many others I know are exactly the same.
Secondly - just because they were YOUR intentions, and may have been listed out, does not mean the couple you met with need to do *any* of it. I’m sure we have all been in situations that sounded great and then faced with reality, we’ve decided to remove our consent as it just didn’t seem right. Seems this is just what happened here. And fair enough!
Sure, there and many true ‘swinging’ couples but doesn’t mean that’s the sole purpose of this lifestyle for many.
dazzandT
a day ago
I think good communication helps. Myself and my husband ware talking to a couple for about a year before we seen them face to face we both know how things ware going to play out and they know how long we have been in the lifestyle that is something I ask everyone.
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