Swimming in a Sea of Verbal Starfish
November 04 2024
Conversations turn me on. No doubt about it.
Debate with me, challenge me, quote literature at me and I'll mentally undress you there and then.
My displeasure in my journey on this site comes from profiles which make zero effort with the written verse. I've likely said this in posts and replies of years gone by.
As we would describe a girl who lies there and does sweet FA as the proverbial starfish, could the profile with no words / autofill / one sentence with crap grammar be the verbal equivalent?
Are we meant to assume something about them off only a photo of their cleavage or arse?
Could I be missing something obvious?
Alas, I'm out of touch with the telepathic generation that follows me.
Comments
Kokoflamingo
2 months ago
Unfortunately a lot of guys are quite happy with a cleavage or arse pic to go on. It's the same in the chatroom. There's a cam on, and it's a close up of female bits, and all the guys are telling her she's the hottest woman on RHP. No clue what she looks like or what kind of person she is. A written bio is very attractive, as long as it tells me something about the man and isn't a copy of a porn script. I didn't realise a lot of women don't bother. Honestly, I think a bio should be a proviso of having a profile on here
Magdalena
2 months ago
Women get bombarded with messages before they’ve even put a photo or filed or their bio, most men don’t read the bio anyway so why bother with comprehensive information? Mine specifically says don’t contact me unless xyz and the messages I get demonstrate they haven’t read any of it.
MsSuperFoxy
2 months ago
If you are having conversations with those who have put in zero effort in a profile (written verse) with just pics of an arss or a pair of elegant ladies, sadly that on you.
Yes, you are missing the obvious.
Ms Foxy
Rinoandpinkie
2 months ago
Here I was wondering if our profile is too wordy.... but I have stated who we are, what we are looking for, the criteria with which we will filter etc all whilst letting our personalities show. If we are contacted by anyone who isn't within the parameters stated it's usually a block or delete, or even a thanks but no thanks. Just like real life the chances of someone or someones being our exact vibe is low so also need to be prepared to maybe find an unexpected counterpart in unlikely places. But yes usually more than a few sentences in a profile is required to pique my interest. Nice smiles and kind eyes work too.
Heart2Heart
2 months ago
I just read your profile. Poor Abi! Haha. You’re hilarious and I love your style. If only more were like you!
Obi1kenietzsche
2 months ago
Please please please Pie Gods, remove the generic profile options. It’s the most singular crappy feature about this site (and has always been).👎
WildFire
2 months ago
We like well written detailed bio’s, it gives you an insight into people’s wants, needs and intentions in the lifestyle.
We know many do not take the time to read write ups but there purpose is to let people know what you are looking for in the lifestyle, with no write up that’s a red flag for us.
Temptress_T
2 months ago
I have had some amazing conversations with men, women and couples in here. I have also had a lot that were very meh and were just sent to delete or my ignore folder. I am like you, conversation turns me on. If you can't stimulate my brain you are not going to stimulate anything else.
As for the chat room, I think people forget there are different rooms. Hot Chat is supposed to be exactly that - Hot. There is a social chat room for those that dont want to watch cams and don't want to engage in naughty talk.
WolfandKitten
2 months ago
Unfortunately, it's not just profiles which are proverbial starfish. Sadly a lot of our conversations have felt more like interviews, with us asking questions to learn more about potential play partners and them only giving closed responses or saying only what they don't like. Rarely do they ask questions of us or try to move the conversation forward.
Apples_N_Oranges
2 months ago
It seems that profile content is the topic of the day, as pointed out in the forum topic ‘Mff threesome’ written by Welovepussy.
We also enjoy a well written profile and a good chat, which builds on the connection and flows easily into other mutual thoughts and topics.
Could it be a generational thing . . . maybe, minimal effort with the expectation of maximum result is here to stay.
Ex007
2 months ago
I usually read it as little effort on profile = little effort in life. I treat dating apps the same way. I block a lot of profiles in my efforts to find that shiny needle.
SLplay
a month ago
I don’t think it’s necessarily generational, it’s just representative of society. Some people are low effort, it’s not that deep.
SweetSerenade
a month ago
No bio = fake account. It's that simple.
Aidan_Chislong
a month ago
I have a slightly different take on profiles.
For me it’s not about the volume of words in a profile, but rather what has been written..
Some one line profiles can be straight to the point and very succinct, but if I happen upon a profile with paragraphs of rambling or a virtual “checklist” of hoops one must jump through in order to have the privilege of engaging with that person then I sidestep those quick smart because that just screams hard work.
Oh and bad grammar and spelling is also a turn off
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