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Straight guys, or are they?
September 25 2024
We're openly very bi and we're only interested in bi guys (and girls).
But you wouldn't believe how many messages we get from guys saying they're bi. We then check their profile and it says straight.
How does that make you feel, knowing that a guy you thought was straight, is actively seeking sex with other men?
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SydFembino
21 days ago
(Love the title btw lol)
I'm not a couple or girl but I do get a lot of those from men regardless. A big thing I also see is men who say things like "Are there any femboys or guys who like straight men?"
I see it as an insecurity thing with them not being comfortable with their own sexuality and feel a bit bad for them, but at the same time I want to tell them to get a grip and just accept some things.
As for the idea of some straight guys actually liking men. I dont really mind that, I think they should just be open about who they like
boobsandbusted
21 days ago
Not my circus, not my monkeys ,and honestly don’t care ,as long as I’m not fed roofies and wake up feeling like I been the dude in the hangover
Mr b
NatSquared
20 days ago
Unfortunately there's still a stigma against bi/gay guys, especially in certain regions and communities. I (M) am lucky enough to have very open minded family, friends, and even colleagues so I don't really care, but I have friends who have been beaten, disowned, and ostracized by family and friends after their sexuality had been outed. Even once you're out of those environments the feelings linger in some ways.
A "straight" guy actually being bi could suggest that they're insecure about openly being bi, or it could be they're very selective with same-sex play and don't want to be approached first. It wouldn't bother us so long as they were clear about it.
gazpacho
20 days ago
It’s not gay of you’re just practicing for chicks.
NeoAndTrin
20 days ago
I'm thinking they just wanna chance with your missus only and then not actually engage with you when it comes to doing the deed
Ourmalibu
20 days ago
We have found that BiCurious/Bisexual men say they are straight because they fear it might rule them out of play if the other man is straight. They think the straight man will get scared they might want to touch them so it’s easier to say they straight.
We have experienced both sides…relief from the male to openly say they are bi curious too or a straight man freaking out that my partner might touch them.
(Ps, He won’t touch anyone without consent!).
CachelessSociety
20 days ago
How can you be 100% sure they are actively seeking sex with other men. We wouldn’t be surprised if they didn’t bother to read your profile, they get excited when they see the pic of Mrs Kinkyelves and when it comes to meeting up, reality hits them, they finally realise there is openly bi guy on your end and he is wanting to play with other guys as part of the experience/s.
Also, when you refer to couples, are you saying there are lots of couples out there in which the male half is secretly bi and seeking those supposedly straight/bi men?
Andrea_Sydney
20 days ago
If they are messaging you saying they are bi, then they are approaching you with honesty. The question is why you feel entitled to demand they declare this publicly.
If a straight woman plays with another woman, it’s regarded just play. Nobody gets righteous about what she says on her profile or declares otherwise.
To change the ease of saying publicly who and what men are attracted to, it would help if people would stop making it such a big deal.
People are here for fun, not to be lectured or reprimanded for not declaring things on their profile that come out in conversation.
I personally think everyone should just do what they desire. If they are able to vocalise their desires towards their potentials to seek consent - amazing!
I don’t understand what the upset is about and think people need to be more gracious and kinder and less righteous.
Margo_Lover
19 days ago
Most guys we've played with in MMF situations have their profile listed as straight.
When I changed my profile from straight to experimental a year or 2 ago, I had more than one couple say they wouldn't meet us, because their man is '200% straight'.
I'm sure a great many write us off for the same reason, and we'll never know about them.
All of which is fine, we want people to do what makes them comfortable. Just treat others with respect & kindness ❤️
- Alex
Sawadee
19 days ago
100% straight and never had the urge to bat for the other side at all ... Besides ' its my belief theres more bi or gay here leaving me in the minority .. So not everyone who states they are straight lies ?
nightingale8
18 days ago
A couple decades ago I’d have been hesitant to hook up with a bi guy because of the stereotype of gay/bi men being super promiscuous and sexual health concerns etc. I know better now. Just because you’re “straight” doesn’t mean diddly squat about being less likely to have STIs. I probably would just wish they’d have told me.
Spanker101
4 days ago
100% they should just be open and say they are bi or bicurious. I've always been open with my partners. It takes the stress out of it
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