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Outnumbered
June 30 2018
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think your profile is fine :)
I don't know how the profiles used to be as I am still reasonably new, but I find it disappointing with the lack of effort that goes into a lot of them. There is nothing to go off if they write nothing or use the generic lines.RHP User
6 years ago
Firstly, it is admirable to want a quality partner, so no problems there.
But (& this is one mans view), blurred photos & a long profile don't encourage interest. Most blokes like honesty, but would prefer it more straight to the point.
When I read and like a profile, THAT is the moment when I'd like to learn more. Too many words too soon, scream hard-work
- Posted from rhpmobile
Hottie1
6 years ago
It just doesn’t scream ‘I’m easy, I’ll just fuck anyone’ and as the bloke said above, so many men don’t want or can’t do ‘hard work’.
IMO, it’s the ‘hard work’ ladies that are so worth it, it’s too bad so many people can’t see past their own narcissistic, self serving selves that they miss such an awesome opportunity.
When you can go through the ‘drive through’ for quick convenience, why go for that delicious meal that takes just that bit longer to cook, has some thought and effort attached to it ?????
Mary xxRHP User
6 years ago
By "hard work", I mean long profiles that are essentially
"I want"
"I want"
"I want"
I've no issue with expecting a potential partner to make effort.
Just think that perhaps it would be a more successful venture to get their interest with the small stuff first, before delving deeper.
Just an idea (from a bloke who values quality over quantity).
And I do wish you all the very best, LoveMaiden
- Posted from rhpmobile
PurePeony
6 years ago
I do state very clearly a lot of "I want"s in my profile because I'm mature and wise enough to know by now what will work and what won't. Instead of wasting my time and their time, I like to be upfront about it. Then of course, there will always be the special people who break all the rules and yet, there's sizzling hot chemistry and I'm open to that too.
It's not a hard and fast rule but it does help to sieve the wheat from the chaff. I used to receive a ridiculous amount of flirts and msgs daily and I deliberately made my profile lengthy to dissuade those a huge majority of people.
I am "a lot of work"... if reading and thinking hurts the head!RHP User
6 years ago
Your profile is fine
Profiles are just a small snapshot of who we are and what we seek. If someone cant take 3 minutes out of their day while on here to read anyone's profile (because its too long), then they are not for you and vice versa
I was recently criticised for what's on my profile which opens with a piece of poetry which I really like. Its a reflection of me that I like words and that others articulate what I think and feel far better than I do and I hope that the choice of the poem (or quote) shows a side of me that may resonates with another. That's an important connection for me and its lead to some great opening discussions
No-one should ever have to apologise to anyone for what they do or do not write on their profile.
The operative words are, its their profileRHP User
6 years ago
Too much writing which reads as too much hard work
For me three reasons why I wouldn’t chat or message
1 Narooma
2 smoker
3 not my body type
We are all different but maybe rework the profile give up smoking and see if you get better results
JenLoveMaiden
6 years ago
thanx for the critical appraisal of my profile, yes I was your age once and yes I did have a body like you.as you've listed your reasons, i shall list mine.1. you live in Sydney2. Superficial3. No effort for me means your might be a starfish...but goodluck to you too
RHP User
6 years ago
As a male who would like connection and friendship and one who wants to read a bit about someone and what they seek I thought your profile was great and very enticing. I have been here on and off for several years and as far as profiles go I don't see any difference, some make the effort and some don't. As far as outnumbered goes damn it would be nice if it were the other way round
LoveMaiden
6 years ago
Thanks all for your positive comments and contributions.. XXX It's nice to know that there are some people out there that do like to read and not just to look...XX
RHP User
6 years ago
Anyone with your written profile and interests would have my ears (and perhaps other things) stand up... more or less exactly what I am seeking.
You would have got a hopeful message from myself, like others have, if you were in my state. Except though, personally, my preference is for non-smokers (for something long term anyway), and of course, I myself fall outside of your own age criteria.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
I can't see how anyone says your profile is too long; to quickly read through the entire thing only takes about a minute still, anyone who cannot fit one minute for another into their lives isn't worth approaching.
- Posted from rhpmobile
Seachange
6 years ago
Your profile is fine. You have clearly articulated what you want in your interactions. That is the best we can do to attract the person we want. You've put in the effort and we see that. It reflects an articulate intelligent and self assured person
In saying that, a lot of the time, many, who will not match your search criteria,, will contact you just the same because they are too lazy to read. Unfortunately. Will this blasé extend to the bedroom? Most likely. Such a turn off
I wish you luck and great experiences on your search.
Swingingnudist
6 years ago
Lovemaiden i see you have mentioned Sugar daddy...great way to get guys to move to next profile...
Just looking for a man to pay your bills turns a guy off straight away.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
Don't think your profile was in the slightest bit too hard to read or long. Nicely spaced paragraphs make your points easier for the eye as well.
The sugar daddy thing didn't put me off, as the way I read it, was that you "might consider" one and that they were not your primary focus of who you were looking for.LoveMaiden
6 years ago
Quoting 'countrytouch'
Anyone with your written profile and interests would have my ears (and perhaps other things) stand up... more or less exactly what I am seeking.
You would have got a hopeful message from myself, like others have, if you were in my state. Except though, personally, my preference is for non-smokers (for something long term anyway), and of course, I myself fall outside of your own age criteria.
- Posted from rhpmobile
Thanks Countrytouch, I appreciate you reading my profile, I do wish you were closer too but alas that's our great big wide southern land. .... oh and ps, I only put social smoker as if I'm around smokers and drinkers i will smoke, if I'm around non smokers I don't and I don't mind a joint at a party... maybe that's the hippy thing in me..xxLoveMaiden
6 years ago
Quoting 'swinger007'
Lovemaiden i see you have mentioned Sugar daddy...great way to get guys to move to next profile...
Just looking for a man to pay your bills turns a guy off straight away.
- Posted from rhpmobileswingerSwinger007 sweetie I AM NOT just looking for a man to pay my bills, I would only consider this as a mutual decision between 2 consenting parties, unfortunately only one line of my profile has resonated with you...shame really. I tend to look for the good and not the bad first..RHP User
6 years ago
Ok with too short or very generic profile. But do you always take the time to read long profiles? Can it get too long that you stop after the first paragraph? My point is that most women are most likely drowned under a big load of daily messages and cannot afford spending much time on each. Am just wondering how a woman works her way through a profile. I also assume some look at pics first to get a gut feeling before bothering reading.
RHP User
6 years ago
Ok with too short or very generic profile. But do you always take the time to read long profiles? Can it get too long that you stop after the first paragraph? My point is that most women are most likely drowned under a big load of daily messages and cannot afford spending much time on each. Am just wondering how a woman works her way through a profile. I also assume some look at pics first to get a gut feeling before bothering reading.
RHP User
6 years ago
That people are saying the profile is too long???
I’ve fully read much longer profiles than that. I think it quite aptly describes the OP’s position and preferences which saves a lot of time and disappointment for prospective suitors. If someone found that profile ‘hard work’ it wouldn’t fill us with hope on the effort they’d put in down the track.
Good luck with your search LoveMaiden xxBadsitefguys
3 years ago
The cost benefit equation with profile effort favours women so dramatically that many men opt out.
DonnaBrett
3 years ago
Your profile is fine. The first thing we look at are the photos then stats and in particular the issues of Smoking and Safe Sex. If the photos and answers to those two questions are compatible with what we seek then we'll read the rest of the profile. The more info provided the better. People who put in no effort with what the say about themselves or their profile is littered with bad grammar and spelling errors gets an immediate pass. Good Luck.
Notsocurious
3 years ago
Profile quality varies as people do in real life. I ignore profiles with genital pics, non verified or a supid name like pumpallday lol. Couples seem to be a better option I am discovering as the male halces tend to be more mature and I also love the touch of another woman. Switch to verified profiles with a nice introduction and nice pictures. First impressions are normally right.
Charlea
3 years ago
I've only been on this site about 6weeks. But what I have come to realise is that for me and all other women, it is full of candy! And not just eye candy either!
I have rarely walked into a candy shop so well stocked with such yummy selections.
I have already got enough contacts from choice applicants to last me years.
So much choice, so many to choose from!
All good I say.
And re profiles, what I learned from standard dating sites is that men rarely read more than a few lines into a profile unless it really gets their attention.
Personally, I put that down more to the use of the phone which focuses the eyes towards the center of the very small screen and pressurizing the mind, rather than allowing the eyes to rove across a much larger screen thus creating an emotionally heightened and relaxing experience.
On the other hand, those who do go back to read your profile later are generally looking for more than a ONS. (or a one day meet)
I agree with one guy here who said don't ask for it all at the beginning (in your profile) as it might put off a good contact. Test the waters, ask for more as you go along.
I would add from my personal experience, have several on the back burner because you never know what is around the corner.
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