Interested in expressing interest!

June 10 2024

Leading up to the long weekend we posted a date for Saturday night, we didn’t specify what we were doing this time, for example ‘we are heading to . . . . ‘. We kept an eye on RHP and by late Saturday afternoon we had received 21 expressions of interest for our date, but no messages from anyone that expressed interest. We were curious to know who had the ability to message first, so we checked and found that 16 out of the 21 profiles had a premium membership.

We have had some success in the past by posting dates, but the majority of the time it’s been a similar scenario - no messages. We have also stated in our profile - ‘If we post a date and you’re interested in meeting up, send us a message and let’s see if it works out’.

So, it has us thinking, should we continue to post dates? and if you post a date, is there an expectation or unwritten rule as to who should message first, the date poster or the people expressing interest?

We would love to hear everyone’s opinions on this.
J & R 😉


  • Opalrose


    a month ago

    They expressed interest. It’s up to you to reach out to who you like from that list.

  • Blueflamingo


    a month ago

    Personally, I'm not a fan of expectations, as they can often lead to disappointment.
    I dont believe there is a specific ruleset around this, but being proactive usually gets you closer to your goal.
    I would see you at the inviting party and them as the guest, they have made second move showing intrest, your tun to reciprocate with a message.
    Go get'em tiger !

  • Flirty2020


    a month ago

    We have posted a few “Date finders” in the past.

    As we are no longer paid members, we naturally cannot reply / respond to expressions of interest.

    What we have found is that a high percentage of the expressions of interest, to our published date, were from people who had not correctly read our date, its location nor our profile. Many expressions of interest were from people interstate or many KM’s away (as in 3-4 hours drive )

    Needless to say, we did not end up meeting anyone from here, who had expressed an interest in response to our datefinder post.

    Perhaps it’s akin to those expressing interest for events, but never had any intention of going?

  • Margo_Lover


    a month ago

    Our experience with posting dates for us, Margo or me is all broadly similar, with vastly different numbers of interested parties.

    Only a tiny percentage will reach out & message us. Most who click interested, and then we message them, never reply to our message. Ie time wasters, who probably clicked interested in every date.

    Now and then a date actually happens, but it's not particularly common.

    - Alex

  • MsSuperFoxy


    a month ago

    I regularly post Date Finders on my RDO's.
    I do get a great deal of interests.
    I see it like this; Rule 101- No expectations or pressures. If they have an interest, that's all they've done - selected an interest. Doesn't matter if they are a guests or paid membership or who send 1st message.
    It's up to me to decide on the outcome, as I posted the date finder.
    I may read their profile and if it interests me, I may send a little cheeky message if they havent sent one. 😜
    I also have back up plans as well, as I don't solely rely on date finder to fill in my time to get me off (I have toys for that lol!). I'm not that desperate either for meaningless shags.

    Ms Foxy

  • RachWandered


    a month ago

    Well according to all the chaps in Sydney who post datefinders … they only ever post dates so they can see dates not to go on actual dates 😂

    Assuming for a minute that everyone posts dates just to see dates and not date … maybe all those interests were just to show they expressed interest??

    Haha I am being tongue in cheek but think I’m funny

    Soz who knows… sticky date pudding probably more satisfying if you ask me.

    Good luck xx

  • Dutchy7


    a month ago

    I've had the experience of doing the expression of interest, even messaged, as the party requests to find out details only to be left unanswered.

  • boobsandbusted


    a month ago

    Don’t forget ,guests can register interest but cannot message you

  • ElectricDreamers


    a month ago

    Very similar experience when we posted a date saying open to suggestions...

    In life and RHP only a small percentage of people are initiators or people who naturally take the lead. Yes different once in the bedroom but getting there is another story...

  • Hedonistic2


    a month ago

    We posted same weekend and didn't even get any expressions of interest 🤣🤣🤣

  • EyeCatching


    a month ago

    Yes, it happens all the time! Great question

  • countrytouch82


    a month ago

    It also depends on whether you've written specifically what you are looking for in your date listing, and what you are not looking for. Many have a generic description.

    Some couples date listings have included men, yet their profile explicitly does not, so it's hard to tell which is correct? (Messaging can severely backfire in these situations).

    There's not much date text available, so perhaps use one's profile to elaborate on any current intentions. Just thoughts, may not apply to you.

  • jackrabbits


    9 days ago

    We have thought the same. If someone is taking the time to look at the date & hit the “express interest” button. Why wouldn’t they send a message. This happens to us all the time.

  • BLkVelVet


    9 days ago

    I assumed that the date posters would assess profiles and then reach out to those whom they are attracted to
    And I’d assume that screening would take at least 3 days prior I look for dates on weekends on a Monday in the hopes to learn about the posters by Friday and have planned locations and times to catch up.
    But. Definitely people of post should reach out to the interested.

  • MrSin68


    7 days ago

    If you post a date is there a system in place where you then say messaging is required . I’m sure you don’t want so many people applying and limiting who you actually want to.