Meet The Unicorn, A Unique Attendee At Every Swingers Party

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In the swinging scene, unicorns are solo females who go to sex parties on their own......

They're rare and highly sought after. 

According to fairy tales, unicorns are mythical creatures that everybody has heard of, but nobody has seen. In the swinging scene, unicorns are solo females who go to sex parties and swingers’ clubs on their own. They arrive alone, they leave alone and just like their mythical counterparts, their scarcity makes them highly sort after.

Unicorns admit that even people in the swinging community are surprised when a single female arrives by herself at a sex party.

Lucy* is a mid-30's professional, who was married for 10 years “I always wanted to explore things like swinging and pegging when I was married, but my husband wasn't keen. When I got divorced, I met a guy on a dating site who was into the swinging community. He took me to a party and straight away I realised, these are my people, this is what I had been looking for, it was fantastic, I was hooked."

Lucy admits that her first sex party started just like any other party. “There were about 12 couples in a serviced apartment, there was Jatz and cheese and dips. People were standing around making small talk and having drinks, then after about half an hour, a couple of the girls yelled out ‘let’s get started’. So a few couples moved to a bedroom and started getting it on with each other, then some more people joined in. By the end of the night, everyone was naked and having sex with each other”

Since then Lucy has been a proud unicorn, going to sex clubs by herself or being the third wheel in threesomes. "It's just more exciting by yourself, you don't have to worry about what your partner's doing if they're happy or being taken care of. It’s great to be able to pick and choose who I play with and who plays with me. Being a unicorn I always make sure I play with the hottest couple".

"A lot of people comment that it must be really empowering walking into a room where everybody wants you, buts its actually the other way around, I do it because I am empowered. It’s something that I enjoy doing and I have enough confidence and I'm comfortable enough to be able to put myself out there" Lucy added.


Louise* also considers herself a unicorn even though she is still married. “About ten years ago, I found myself alone as a single mum with two young children as my partner travelled overseas for work nine months of the year. My sex life was restricted to watching porn and using a vibrator when the children slept. I didn't want to get into the complexities of having an affair, but I missed the adult company. My partner suggested I go to a sex club as we both agreed it was safer emotionally and physically."

It's not just guys that Louise is attracted to when she goes out alone "I am polysexual, so I am attracted to people rather than a specific sex. If I am playing with a couple, it doesn’t matter how nice he is, I have to connect with her as well. If I'm playing with a single guy, then he can’t take himself too seriously, make me laugh and make me feel like I'm the only woman in the room, and you’re halfway there. Sometimes for fun, I will see a couple playing together and if I catch her eye and I can see she is interested, I will just walk up and start kissing her. His reaction is usually jaw-dropping, especially if they are new to the scene."

Even though Louise loves being a unicorn, she doesn’t always fly solo. “I have more interaction as a solo. As soon as couples and other singles notice I’m solo they come and say hi, but I don’t feel any pressure from the people I meet as I’m 100% in control. I also meet some awesome people and make great friends. Occasionally my husband will come along if I ask him. He loves the cuckold experience, so he is more likely to say yes if the event is not for couples only.”

So would Louise ever go back to a vanilla relationship? “Yes, absolutely, I enjoy the community and I love being a unicorn with the full support of my partner. Without that support and encouragement, the magic wouldn’t exist and would likely be replaced by jealousy and there would be nothing sexy about that.”

“The swinging community has taught me many things; Firstly confidence – the perfect body doesn’t exist outside of magazines, so except mine, as it is, take it or leave it. Unicorns are unique within the community and I've enjoyed the confidence that has brought me. Secondly, never to expect others to know what I want or what I am into. I tell them what I want, how to do it and what I don’t want. I find they really appreciate this inside track and that way I avoid bad sex. Here’s an example – my breasts are very sensitive. Treat them with care and I will get really turned on, start squeezing, prodding or chewing and I am going to want to flatten you and not have sex with you.”

When Louise tells people she is a Unicorn, it usually comes with a lot of misconceptions and judgment, “People think we are sex maniacs or predatory female marriage wrecker. Sure, we like good sex, but we love the interaction and friends we make as well.”

Credit: whimn.com.au/love

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sassysonya
Posted: May, 31 2020
Find a caring, understanding, respectful couple and be honest. Oh. Heres one right here! Lol 😉
sassysonya
Posted: May, 31 2020
Id love to chat to you MissKink xx
4nmore
Posted: May, 30 2020
A few years ago we attended a group party and met a lady who was there with her brother. He didn't play , he was just there as a minder more than anything else. It was a little weird but she certainly enjoyed herself several times with different people including us. There are always plenty of guys wanting to attend parties so in this world of equal rights why shouldn't some ladies want to attend and have a good time too.
duckyxx
Posted: May, 29 2020
I'd consider being a unicorn to the right attractive and fun loving couple
wallylee
Posted: May, 29 2020
I have not been at one but day are had to find I will have to look around
HotMedusa
Posted: May, 27 2020
Look me up
HotMedusa
Posted: May, 27 2020
I agree. It has to be mutual and be enjoyable for everyone. Experience lately has been the unicorn has put herself out there as a prize, going to the highest bidder so to speak.
Kat2507
Posted: May, 27 2020
Me and my fiance are actually looking for a 🦄 just dont know where to start
NiceMiss
Posted: May, 26 2020
The best place is right here. You have to find them.
Unicorn123
Posted: May, 25 2020
Please just play nice folks! We are not hear to be abused and fyi not stupid!
Discreet_meets
Posted: May, 25 2020
@JasonsChain for sure.
youngandwild
Posted: May, 24 2020
We have few lovely regular females, but wouldn’t mind more if there’s s anyone from Melbourne reading the comment 😜
ck4fun8
Posted: May, 23 2020
😉🔥✌️
sweetnsensual
Posted: May, 22 2020
We have met quite a few beautiful women and have remained friends with them over the last few years. We treat them like people with respect and friendship!
sparkledaisy
Posted: May, 22 2020
I love being a unicorn! I get to play with all my friends partners with no comeback. And most in our friend circle too. Fun times
kevirish
Posted: May, 21 2020
Where r the best clubs to meet these lovely ladies when things open up again in Melbourne
MsSledgehammer
Posted: May, 21 2020
❤🙋🏻‍♀️😈🦄😘
h20oo
Posted: May, 20 2020
Perfect explanation....... prob explains why I dislike the term unicorn.
JasonsChain
Posted: May, 20 2020
The "look at me!" types are too common. The understated girl with intellect and good conversational skills is a unicorn.
Discreet_meets
Posted: May, 20 2020
Jus because you go to sex parties alone as a female, or a swingers party, doesn’t make you a Unicorn. If you ask 10 couples what their idea of a Unicorn is, I’m certain you will get ten different answers. I’ve had a few girls introduce themselves as “Unicorns” one at sex party last year and one at a Swingers club.. On both occasions, my date and I were so turned off by their over exuberance and holier than thou attitude that we just couldn’t wait to get away from them! Things are rarely as they seem. A true unicorn for me is a woman who is seemingly highly unattainable, because of their relationship status or moral ethics but the chemistry is so strong it totally absorbs you (and her). If your very lucky, it explodes into an absolutely insane sexual phenomena, usually one off but as intense as it gets. That’s my Version of “Unicorn sex“.
yo123
Posted: May, 20 2020
Sydney anyone?
Funclassycpl
Posted: May, 19 2020
We sooo want a unicorn 🦄 to spoil in and out of the bedroom or public place 🙈🙌
unicorn4Y0U
Posted: May, 19 2020
How cunning, I have a unicorn and Pegasus tattoo, I can hold a conversation, be witty and funny and suck a tennis ball through a garden hose.😜
unicorn4Y0U
Posted: May, 19 2020
Then I must be special 😉
beautifulcouple1
Posted: May, 19 2020
We are looking for 🦄, we’ve been lucky enough to have two ladies in our bed but we didn’t have the chance to build a friendship with them. Also, seems hard to meet girls on RHP, in most cases they ask for naked pictures and if we don’t provide they disappear. Female unicorn around Perth don’t hesitate to contact us.
Lenah
Posted: May, 19 2020
So do we 😜
Dylmiddi
Posted: May, 19 2020
Highly interested in meeting a couple and genuine and honest and loyal hoping to meet ppl soon new to this
cartooncock
Posted: May, 18 2020
One of the best ways to unpack that whole ‘thing’ I’m becoming less of a fan of boxing anything up more and more ... especially when it’s just not that complicated ... love your thoughts on everything and we know each other well ..;)
sweetnsensual
Posted: May, 18 2020
Have had two visits by unicorns on the weekend who we have formed ongoing friendhips with . Beautiful people and lovers.
gingermads
Posted: May, 18 2020
I’m a unicorn, have only just started my sexual exploration journey. I’ve been to one swingers party, two Purr parties and can not wait until I can go again! Still haven’t found a couple I click with though and would love to explore more 😍😍
lotsofpuddles
Posted: May, 18 2020
@ChloeandDan love your response
HappylilMunchkin
Posted: May, 18 2020
Are you referring to anyone in particular 🤣🤣🤣
we_are_cumming
Posted: May, 18 2020
Guys like that exist, but how you actually communicate that lifestyle and find each other is society's fault/problem 😔
louderz1
Posted: May, 17 2020
Is it fun & worth the relationship instability but?
We_love_it
Posted: May, 17 2020
There is plenty of them out there finding the one that suits now there lies a hole new puzzle on it's own. She needs to be attacked to both and feel wanted by both especially by the female of the couple. That's what we have found anyway. Neither the less they a are truly marvellous creatures and we have had some great experiences with some amazing ladies. Love them all but it would be nice to end that search😘
blondie77
Posted: May, 17 2020
🙋‍♀️ 🦄.
maltalian0
Posted: May, 17 2020
I have met a unicorn at a kik party once. She basically told me she was a unicorn. I mentioned how impressed I was and was turned on to see such an empowering women and had full respect for her. She loved my attitude and said that was not at all what most guys think or react. After a few drinks and chatting I then got invited back to a secret after party. She was unbelievable. We both had a great time. She played with all the couples and other single guys. Was a fantastic experience. It was like I was her casual cuckold for the night. He he
horny26a
Posted: May, 17 2020
I've lived the unicorn life for around 5yrs now and im quite certain I've found my calling. I'd like to find a supportive partner who would except it and be part of it with me but to be honest that's easier said than done. Lol
ChloeandDan
Posted: May, 17 2020
H20oo Thankyou for challenging this word from a single perspective. I came to back you up, from a coupled perspective, in amongst comments that I think are in part ignoring that EVERYONE in any romantic or sexual configuration is sovereign, with equal rights, feelings and needs to anyone else in that configuration. Rules that couples make to protect themselves emotionally, while not protecting another individual muddy the waters of consent, and the reality that it is implausible that any one person would find any two people equally attractive, or want the same level or intensity of interaction or relationship with them. Ironically, this is quite possibly the reason that it seems to be such a common lamentation that wonderful, sex positive individuals are hard to find to make a group with. All power to the polyamorous, loving, wonderful singles looking for non-traditional relationships who hold steady their needs and boundaries In the face of unfair rules. I gotcha back 🤗
JoMi1
Posted: May, 17 2020
I guess you could say we met a unicorn at a party. The 3 of us clicked amazingly and ended all falling in love. Coming up to 12 months together as a throuple.
kissedagirl
Posted: May, 17 2020
Hello to our unicorns/friends 🦄👋 you’re wonderful 😘
JasonsChain
Posted: May, 16 2020
An allicorn is a unicorn with wings. Or a Pegasus with a horn. What's rare is to find someone with smarts and wit. Not relying on their body to get by. That's the real coup in my eyes.
asianbbwxxx
Posted: May, 16 2020
Im a unicorn lol
sydney_tradie
Posted: May, 16 2020
Been lucky enough to be a male unicorn sometimes
Sdc300
Posted: May, 16 2020
I've been lucky enough to come across a unicorn but only once so they are rare. Plenty claiming to be such online but they are hard to get hold of perhaps because they are so rare and have a lot of attention.
cymbeline
Posted: May, 16 2020
We no longer get invites to swinging Parties things are much quieter in Canberra than thirty years ago,then Mr Cymbeline visited a Party overlooking Lake George and there were actually two of these rare Beasts,friends,both divorcees in their late thirties...both very pleasant and obliging Ladies,he remembers water in the Lake then,just as rare a phenomena LOL.
teamaj2
Posted: May, 16 2020
Matt change your profile perhaps . Add pictures, say more about what you seek , more about yourself and you will be good to go . Good luck
notgoingtoheaven
Posted: May, 16 2020
We have had two great unicorns in our life. They are really no different to men. Everybody needs some love at some stage, but from our experience a good "unicorn" will keep coming back to play for many years.
Great article.
mattcar
Posted: May, 16 2020
Hi I'm wanting to become a male unicorn does anyone know how I can go about it
lakeswingers
Posted: May, 16 2020
Would really love too meet a unicorn I’m sure they don’t exist
funways
Posted: May, 16 2020
We would love to meet a unicorn
sensualcple2play
Posted: May, 16 2020
you just did ! :)
sensualcple2play
Posted: May, 16 2020
Keep searching, they're out there somewhere :)
ajaussie
Posted: May, 16 2020
I have been regular to some parties and find single women there coming for fun. All are good and they mingle with each other well and there’s no prasuti at all form anyone to play or so. And in the end we all end up having a good time.
BecSteve456
Posted: May, 16 2020
Trying to find 1 of these mythical creatures seams to be an impossible task lol
JohnLou
Posted: May, 16 2020
We have met several lovely unicorns on this site. We prefer dinner rather than a swingers party as it is more intimate.
teamaj2
Posted: May, 16 2020
We love unicorns . We prefer single males or single females to a couple . For us attraction mentally and physically for ALL of us is important . The other persons wants,needs and boundaries are just as important as ours . We’ve also found at events many female unicorns . Understandably it is safe way to meet like minded people . Single males are more the rarity sadly .
busty_temptress
Posted: May, 16 2020
I feel that single women at swingers parties aren’t rare at all and definitely on the increase. Parties I go to easily have over 5-10 single ladies inc me! ....and single ladies also look for single ladies & men, there’s less pressure and issues, it’s just not all about couples!
badboyhere
Posted: May, 16 2020
I’m a male unicorn. Start the crickets chirping in the background. Well if anybody likes a male unicorn message me. In Brisbane area
Subswitch13
Posted: May, 16 2020
I can't seem to find a couple that's right for me 😔
3someparties
Posted: May, 16 2020
Funnily enough we find it a lot harder trying to get single guys to come along to our parties. The single women have never been a problem nor are they that rare tbh.
SurfSeaMan
Posted: May, 15 2020
No, just being single doesn't make a unicorn, at least not in the circles I've been in. A single female isnt actually that rare, in fact there are plenty of single, sex positive girls and women out there. Urban dictionaries, fet life, swingers groups, the bi, pan and especially the poly community, would define a unicorn as one who is pan or bisexual, equally attracted to all genders, and available to play.
biandshameless
Posted: May, 15 2020
Single females not so hot, bi couples make the tee
Loulu
Posted: May, 15 2020
😊🥳🦄
Zulu889
Posted: May, 15 2020
Believe us... finding the right single guy is just as hard! #maleunicorn
LivelyLadybird
Posted: May, 15 2020
I recall my first swingers party and couples experience, quite popular being the single girl 🦄
LivelyLadybird
Posted: May, 15 2020
I recall my first swingers party....quite popular being a confident single girl. 🦄
JasonsChain
Posted: May, 15 2020
If My Little Pony has taught me anything, it's the cutie mark you should look out for.
NiceMiss
Posted: May, 15 2020
This post has made me realise I’m A Unicorn!! I’m that girl who goes out by herself, knows what she wants and asks for it. No bad sex here. I love meeting people and getting all cosy with them. This is me!!! 😘😘😘
Lust_4_Life
Posted: May, 15 2020
We love inviting a woman into our bed. The dynamic is incredible. Available women around Brisbane & Sunshine Coast please send us a flirt ;)
QueenV_4_Venus
Posted: May, 15 2020
I've been a unicorn for about a year now... i find my biggest challenge is finding a couple I'm equally attracted to. If i find one of the two more attractive, unfortunately it will show... i can't help it... i can't fake it.
SydneyThomas
Posted: May, 15 2020
Heya..how are they ngs for you...im Tj... care to chat
Beingjustme
Posted: May, 15 2020
How do i start my first move to that life?
h20oo
Posted: May, 15 2020
I’ve shied away from the term unicorn. Sure I have the ability to make some fantasy’s come alive , As a reasonably attractive promiscuous naughty female -The best part = I come free of baggage and drama. But from my view, I’ve occasionally felt like a Piece of meat in a couples fantasy, which has made me put couples on the back Burner for a bit. Ppl become so focus on finding a unicorn they forget that we r real ppl as well. It’s about exploring everyone’s fantasy’s, and experience sexual satisfaction and friendships amongst a group of like minded ppl. We’re certainly not out to steal your man or your wife in some cases. Therefore I throughly enjoy meeting couples on a even playing field like a swingers club, where I have the opportunity to meet couples that are conscious that my needs r just as valid as theirs. We’re all their for a good time, and the friendships formed are just like the cherry on the cake 💕
Cassbella
Posted: May, 15 2020
New to it and loving it! 💃
MissKink
Posted: May, 15 2020
Another unicorn here ❤️
Sonya1971
Posted: May, 15 2020
I love the unicorn lifestyle😍
realitybites7322
Posted: May, 15 2020
I have played this role in a few couples meets... very flattering..
nita77
Posted: May, 15 2020
Unicorn life here 🙋‍♀️