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Secrets to mind blowing sex

April 20 2018

Sigmund Freud, the dirty old geezer, wrote about libido as one's "life force", not solely sexual desire but a primal instinct to seek out pleasure. Over time and practice I've come to think about sexual energy in this way and being in touch with and cultivating your libido, life force, whatever you'd like to call it, the key to wholly satisfying mind blowing sex. Great sex is about connection with first and foremost yourself, then your partner(s), then with the broader world and people around you. You might call it cultivating a sh*t ton of oxytocin but I think this is as overly simplistic and meanginless as saying you need adrenalin to be afraid. Letting go of yourself, you insecurities, your neediness, your judgments and being unafraid to connect with the other person (s) in a vulnerable way. In short, it's about selfless love. Not the Hollywood romantic possessive version of love but one in which you give and receive with no thought to the future or past, you are simply in the moment. How does this translate to practice? I can only speak from the experience of being a female but my go to is first masturbation. Oh yes, know thy self. Practicing acceptance and nonjudgment and a willingness to deviate from the societal script of how sex should be. Thinking about it, talking about it where appropriate, showing warmth and affection to others, and not shying away from those sparks of attraction when they happen. Laughing at yourself. Taking your time. What's your secret? - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

I don’t even know what it is or how I do it, I just lose my shit and Mrs Tori is on the receiving end of said shit losing. The ravished being fully indulgent in all the delights the ravishee can offer up. Yes please and then give me more. - Posted from rhpmobile

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MsSuperFoxy

8 years ago

Funny, how a lot think it is and compares it to porn. Ms Foxy

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EarthQueen

8 years ago

It seems random. Right time, right place type of thing. With a regular partner it’s about being in tune with each other I think and of course mutual spark and attraction. But the other day I was reflecting on the comment that is often made (I also had it in my profile at one stage) that the sex is better once you get to know each other etc. Then when I thought about it some more, some of the best sex I’ve had has been one offs or the first meet. Then after that the actual getting to know the person you realise you aren’t that compatible or there are obstacles 🤔. So go figure? Just know I have to feel comfortable and most importantly SAFE with a man to let go. I think I’m general this would apply to most women. Safe as in physically safe and emotionally safe. He will listen , respect my boundaries and only push/play to a point that’s mutually agreed. Highly important to me and necassary for me to get relaxed and turned on. Then I guess it depends on what turns your mind on. That’s a complex web, that’s different for everyone. Just have to find someone that pushes those buttons. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

Once you decide to cross that threshold with another and shed clothes, you should also have left all judgements in your clothes and totally accept every aspect of your lover in that time and place. Having a focus on the experience of sharing each other is how I’ve always approached it. Climax is not a goal, it never should be.... although it will happen if attention is directed to delivering a pleasurable experience to your lover. Have fun with each other. Don’t “push boundaries” as guys in here seem prone to say just to try and give an impression if their sexual skill Instead..... share them.... explore the options, opportunities and play TOGETHER - Posted from rhpmobile

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AnnieWhichway

8 years ago

Try to, it'll never happen. But the times I've achieved it, I'll remember forever. Usually combined with the right partner, right amount of alcohol and the right amount of herbal infusion. The last time 18 months ago. A great way to remember someone

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RHP User

8 years ago

As you say when you have a great connection with someone youve been seeing for a while when you are in sync, thats when the magic happens. - Posted from rhpmobile

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MsSuperFoxy

8 years ago

Is truly a beautiful thing. It stands apart and is totally unforgettable. You would know if you have experienced it. I believe it's the mind, body and soul connections - to me that's "Soul Fucking"! It can be very very addictive. Ms Foxy

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RHP User

8 years ago

That sexual spark for me can be in a one off or a partner. The letdown for me personally is planning things. I love the randomness of not having the pressure to achieve a certain thing at a certain time. Give me the spontaneity and whatever pleasure happens at the time. I love giving pleasure, it is as much of a turn on as receiving. The sexiest thing is indeed making that connection mentally. It all starts with the simple things of being present in the moment, a touch, a look, a conversation, a smile. The way someone looks into your eyes when you have encounters. The build up to seeing each other, the anticipation of touch, taste, sight and feeling. Filling your senses with everything sensual. Physically fucking someone as well as mentally. Super foxy termed it soul fucking and I think that is pretty spot on............

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RHP User

8 years ago

Freud was never my favorite... too many assumptions and too much control. I even think he feared women. I love sunlight. La desire comes to me as an uninvited thought from some hidden and elusive place...and then theory suddenly gets a heart. Not only that, but the language (thought) becomes an organ of erotic and amorous extension, reaching out, caressing the possibility of the other... but to write about it is to confront the muck of language. And then the thought becomes the urge. What Freud would call "primary processes" in action. No. A demand. Demand hidden in fingertips. I wish to indulge with caresses. Even in dreams.(Ms)

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HotNightsGC

8 years ago

For us sex has always great and we have hot exchanges physically,visually and verbally. So a lot comes down to purely who you’re with and the chemical and mental attraction between people. Environment, spontaneity and conversation do play a big part too, but our encounters are really what we make of them or what we allow to transpire depending on the connection that happens when people meet. Life and relationships can be so random. I guess our erotic liaisons are not much different at times. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

I think sex is always great, but to take it to mind blowing levels, a lot of planets have to align. The points you make below, plus mood, health,fitness, tired/not tired, desire, stress free, lots of things Quoting 'HotNightsPerth' For us sex has always great and we have hot exchanges physically,visually and verbally. So a lot comes down to purely who you’re with and the chemical and mental attraction between people. Environment, spontaneity and conversation do play a big part too, but our encounters are really what we make of them or what we allow to transpire depending on the connection that happens when people meet. Life and relationships can be so random. I guess our erotic liaisons are not much different at times. - Posted from rhpmobile

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nightingale8

8 years ago

So please keep them coming. I'm deep down just a perve 😄 EarthQueen, HotNights, MsMidnight - in all the randomness, if we are to look at the common denominator across all hot sex experiences, it is you. Could it be something about you during those encounters that took the experience to another level? I wonder. I've been with my partner for some years, and those honestly spiritual experiences with him I've asked him afterward what was different. He says - honey it was all you (about my state of mind and body, time of cycle, etc). Of course a genuine caring skilled hot lover is necessary for the mix. Heat, fuel, and oxygen all necessary for the fire but I'm talking about creating an inferno! - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

6 years ago

I would say teasing and good foreplay, anticipating an outcome can enhance how good everything feels, from natual lubrocation sensitive genitalia, etc Even with or without natural lube you should still add extra that can help with arousal too, feeling the slippery texture on your genitals. Mindblowing sex can also involve something new done right. Or just some skill from the one taking control

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RHP User

6 years ago

Using foxxys words soul sex is a great way to explain not just great sex but a whole other level of heightened connection and pleasure. When several hours can disappear between the sheets. Researched this a little and the release of oxytocin into the body effects the same part of the brain that cocaine does. For women there are three situations when oxytocin is released. During orgasim, child birth and breast feeding. It is what creates connection and nuturing instinct. Given this is great when having a child but not so much when having casual sex. Like a drug it can be difficult coming down from such a heightened experience. Just have to remind yourself the reality of the situation and you will cope better.

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