Protocol of rejection

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  EarthQueen

  6 years ago

  Its OK to change your mind and say I'm not feeling it. I would just say that. Sorry that its got to this point but this feels uncomfortable and I've changed my mind. At least you are in a couple with each other for support because it's a way more challenging predicament to be in as a single woman. The last thing you want to do is take one for the team and then feel awful/distressed/regretful about it later. It's OK to say no. Maybe next time slow it right down so you can take small steps and not be in the same predicament. I understand how you feel, theres nothing worse than being naked with someone and just realising that it's not doing it for you. It's a very vulnerable position to be in.

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  SSExplorer

  6 years ago

  I always try and look at these issues similar to if I was a single guy dating a single girl. In that situation doesn’t a no always mean no? When single I was never in to ONS so I guess the attraction was always built upon and there was quite a few heavy petting sessions to know exactly where both parties stand. Now on to couples meeting couples, I think the first meet is not as easy as most couples have kids or even without, finding time when all 4 are free and up for a date is hard. So we likely don’t have many nights spare for dates which puts pressure of achieving an outcome. So most couples are up for play on first meet, If so, it’s not just a matter of does boy like girl and girl like boy but does girl like guy, does girl like gal, does boy like guy, does boy like gal, does gal like boy, does gal like girl, does guy like girl and does guy like boy! That’s 8 different connections to be made! So you’ve all decided it’s worth getting naked then somewhere one of those 8 connections wanes, if all the other 7 are still up for it that puts a lot of pressure for the 1 to not ruin it for the rest. On the other hand I think as a couple you can have the mindset that you’re into it together and so long as one of you from each couple is really getting something from the experience the others can take a back seat supportive role......

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  SSExplorer

  6 years ago

  ...I remember our first experience which was Mrs S’s first ever. All 4 gelled very well but when it moved to the bed I was more into watching Mrs S and making sure she was enjoying it that I took a backseat and didn’t play much with the other woman. It was a great experience. Our most recent experience also highlighted how tricky it can be. Met a couple who were inexperienced and not wanting full swap. Well in the meet and greet stage we both really liked both of them a lot. So clothes came off and hours of heavy foreplay and oral sex ensued. Now the normally shy Mrs S got lost in the moment and all she wanted was to see my cock slide into this wonderfully sexy girl while sliding the guy deep into her. We had to remind her of these guys limits so she calmed down. Later in chatting to them I found out he thought Mrs S wasn’t into him, OMG He was the first guy she was nearly begging to fuck her, it took all her control not to just sink down on him. We try and simplify sex but there’s a lot of emotional content there that needs to be respected as it holds the difference between a great physical experience and a mind blowing body and mind experience. That’s not to say it’s bad to just enjoy whatever level it gets to, so long as all involved are comfortable and happy.

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