DeeCee

DeeCee

M61 F54

Watching your lady with another man

January 16 2025

How do you explain to your partner why you like watching her with another man... or 2. I join in, I'm not a cuck.

Comments

  • Primal_Curiosity

    Primal_Curiosity

    20 days ago

    By telling her…?

    You could write her a letter explaining it?

    You could draw it like cavemen used to?

    Hieroglyphics?

    But seriously, is this a post looking for permission to tell her or what to say?

    It’s best coming from the heart ❤️

  • Notice_Me

    Notice_Me

    20 days ago

    Why do husbands or wives get turned on while watching their partner with another person?

    Compersion and being involved in your own live porn movie

  • Flirty2020

    Flirty2020

    19 days ago

    The way that you have worded your post / question, give us the impression that this is all about what you want, with very little emphasis on what your partner wants. We could be wrong - this is just our opinion.

    How does she feel about swinging? Does she enjoy it? What are her desires? Does she know of your question on here, and that you have a couples profile on here ?

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    19 days ago

    Being on the same page and able to talk about what turns you both on , then doing something about it is one of the most exciting things a couple can do together.. But both need to journey together.. Good luck..

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    19 days ago

    Google Compersion and use your big boy words to have a discussion with your wife..... Its pretty simple 🩷

  • justforfun76

    justforfun76

    19 days ago

    Good question as it was hard to put into words to her after we had our first MFM. Compersion puts a meaning to it but hardly explains everyone’s personal feelings about it. My wife enjoyed the experience for her own reasons and they were very different to the reasons I enjoyed the experience. The best part was discussing these experiences and reasons and enjoying each other after it. To love someone so much that you can enjoy them being with someone else is an experience not every one will share or feel the same about. Hope you both find the words to discuss the possibilities.

  • nightingale8

    nightingale8

    18 days ago

    When it comes to what you enjoy sexually you don’t really need to explain why although I’m sure anyone could fill in the gaps with all sorts of explanations, valid or not.

    All across the animal kingdom are example of sexual selection that make no sense at all in the context of survival. Sometimes they’re even a hindrance to survival. And yet people like to pull up all sorts of evolutionary and other reasons why we like what we like with so much confidence.

    While you don’t have to explain the why, there’s the what: the joys of delighting in your sexy goddess immersed in pleasure? What’s not to love. Of course only if that’s what she wants

  • Felicitous

    Felicitous

    17 days ago

    It's an incredible thing to allow your other to pleasure in another and the expansion of all that comes with that.. in addition to enjoying that aspect yourself.

    My husband was the same - he wanted things for me before I realized I wanted them or desired them.. and I am sincerely grateful for having this world opened out for me.

    I struggled initially to allow him the same in terms of, I didn't get turned on by seeing him with others, though am happy for him to discover that for himself!
    It took me a while to understand that difference between us and realise that there's nothing 'wrong' with me for not being that way inclined.
    I'm only mentioning that in case your wife is similar.


    I also want to mention this aspect.. your wife might be totally different and this not become an issue at all.. however we can only share our perspectives. The novelty of me exploring others under his encouragement and for his pleasure quickly dissipated, because for me personally, I didn't want to 'share' myself with many... Rather too soon, I felt pressure (though he never intended this) and ultimately now that 'pressure' has severed the inclusionary aspect.

    So my advice is; proceed with blissful caution, proceed with compassion, proceed with patience or resentments can build and can't always be articulated or clarified. For me non monogamy is like discovering a whole new language. Sometimes we are really clumsy within it.

    All the best though!
    V

  • AshAndPaul

    AshAndPaul

    11 days ago

    It’s such a powerful feeling watching each other being fucked by someone else and hearing that person enjoy your man or wife. It’s knowing that depth of pleasure they are able to give and sharing that makes you want to devour your person even more.
    It brings lust….my husband and I both find it a huge turn on.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    10 days ago

    I'm curious about this too, my girlfriend is very jealous and would never agree to another woman but she would love another man, have to admit it does turn me on having threesome, don't think I could watch been a cuck but the DP would be cool

  • eroctictimes74

    eroctictimes74

    10 days ago

    Try and watch some xxx movies with that theme and see if she responds. I had a partner that said she would never participate in that but if we watched some xxx movies with that happening she got so turned on. So show her that you trust her and happy to try. Sometimes a girl might think she’s been set up to see if she would like it

  • justforthefun44

    justforthefun44

    8 days ago

    In our relationship it was the Mrs that asked for another man to join use
    Loving it