M38
Traditional vs. Fetish
July 07 2022
There have been a few times when I've come across distinct people using specific or odd phrases and terms, and thought we'd have no connection only to realize later "Oh, THAT is what they were after!"
I used to hide on other sites with a different pool of people my interests (not lie, big difference) but now are upfront with what I'm looking for - looking for people's opinions and experiences on this subject
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FeistyFatty
2 years ago
Have seen that often over the years. Both Hubby and I have different profiles on different sites for many different things. Not uncommon.
Missb4u
2 years ago
Yes see them all the time on different sites and the profiles can be quite different.
I find men once they know I’m on rhp generally have a different expectation of how our interactions will go and they treat me differently.
I become someone to fuck not someone to date.
I’ll never understand why you can’t do both 🤷🏻♀️RHP User
2 years ago
There’s good reason why some people ‘temper’ their profiles on more mainstream ‘dating’ sites . . . you get kicked off. 😳
But in all seriousness, unfortunately, RHP has changed quite a bit. Especially during two years of lockdowns and closures. A LOT of people have come here thinking that ‘looser’ people exist here.
There will always be ‘players’ and abusers who mask their intent with a carefully worded profile, but that ‘mask’ comes off far more quickly here on RHP than it does on other sites.
Kokoflamingo
2 years ago
When I had a profile on more " traditional" sites Id see a guy who loved making pancakes in the morning and was a loving dad to 2 girls......he had a profile on here and loved dominating slutty women ( his words) and was into BDSM and dom/sub. At least you would get some freshly baked pancakes after a good whipping! This is why I stick to RHP, I like clarity and honesty.
Kokoflamingo
2 years ago
I should add, Im sure he is a doting dad who makes nice pancakes, but dont paint yourself pure white. That way, you wont shock or disappoint anyone.
countrytouch82
2 years ago
I'm one of those people on multiple platforms from vanilla, to sex positive, to kink. Obviously a vanilla profile on the kink site will not interest anyone, and likewise a kink profile on say, eharmony. I do include some common elements on all profiles like my general personality, life interests and hobbies. On vanilla sites I sometimes just mention I'm involved in some "other/alternative adult communities". Sometimes it's a risk of losing more potential interest than you might gain.
As for my experiences seeing other people across multiple sites, sometimes it helps with clarity about a person, and may help in working out why someone didn't reply. For example, an apparent perfect match on one site doesn't reply, but then I happen to notice via another site (even another site of the same nature but with more profile options) that this person has a clash of interests on wanting to have children, and that *may have been a reason why they didn't reply on the first site, even though all the boxes were mutually ticked. The clash might have been visible on my profile, but not on hers, so I didn't know there was a clash before messaging.
kickingaround
2 years ago
I have a profile here and one full of red flags on a site you can name for your family.... that way when I want to tell part of a story I can just say it came from the other profile... the other one has enough red flags it gets next to no attention.
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