Toxic Femininity

June 22 2022

My observation and interactions over the years with RHP has brought me to an understanding that many of the men here have been the victim of toxic femininity.

Toxic femininity seems to be out of control in epidemic proportions. Men are being gaged silent and they are suffering at the hands of toxic nasty bitches. I can only assume men stay silent because of a perceived sense of being embarrassed for reporting their partner for emotional, psychological and financial abuse. Which is in fact domestic violence. I would like to hear from men who have experienced this?
How did you cope?
What did you do for help?
I hope that your answers assist someone who may be experiencing toxic femininity right now.

If you are a toxic female and feel the need to respond with your 2 cents worth. Go right ahead then all the guys will know who to block. Consider it as posting your own community service announcement.

Comments

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    2 years ago

    Weird post. So weird.

    You're on an adult sex site, listening to mens' sob stories (some true, many probably not / 100% one-sided) so they can get in your pants, and you're calling out "toxic femininity"?

    Did it work on you? How many of those men did you shag? Have you bought your sign / coloured it in for the weekend parade?

  • Rising_Phoenix

    Rising_Phoenix

    2 years ago

    Wow, this makes YOU look toxic. Yikes!
    Why would you even make this about gender? We all know it comes from people on both sides, bad behaviour has no gender and by mentioning it you’re only encouraging a slinging match, something that’s also evident in the way you’ve worded your post.

    Maybe calm down a bit...some things are more gender specific but domestic abuse isn’t one of them.

    My condolences to anyone of either gender who experiences toxic behaviours from others, it’s a shit time indeed and I hope you bounce back better than ever!

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    2 years ago

    Show me on the doll where womankind hurt you

    😆



    Fella, you’re obviously not enjoying your experiences and interactions with women in this world to labour over writing that piece.

    Did you think posting it publicly would help change that?

    Your time is better served in other pursuits that DO make you happy

    🤦‍♂️

  • countrytouch82

    countrytouch82

    2 years ago

    Dunno. I'd make a few random and unordered observations from life:

    1. Men and women can indeed be c**ts, directed to men or women or all. They might defend themselves based on their gender, but often it's just their own individual issues, such as inflated self entitlement or self importance.

    2. I'm essentially a life long single yet still love and adore women in general. I certainly don't hold any grudges to a gender, if not any individuals.

    3. I don't feel silenced or restricted much. If I do, it's from excessive PC police, which is why I love stand up comedians who can still take the piss about everything in life (cue Ricky). But this is not necessarily related to gender.

    4. Some examples of what some might define as toxic women are labelled as "Karens" and are easily found on you tube. In seriousness some people can indeed have their lives or livelihoods affected by online or offline lynchings, but a mob or bullying mentality exists among many types of groups and between groups, that may or may not be gendered. Double standards abound. See point 1.

    5. I like dogs. (Told you the points were random) :p

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    2 years ago

    I don’t think RHP would be a reliable source to gauge female DV. The number of men on here cheating on their wives who justify it with weak excuses would lead me to believe you’ve been told a few fibs to get you fired up.

  • Ex007

    Ex007

    2 years ago

    I am the poster. I am female. I also worked as a first responder for 18yrs. I have witnessed more men suffering from domestic violence then woman. It just goes completely unreported because it’s viewed as socially acceptable for woman to emotional, psychological and financially abuse men.

    My interactions here has reminded me of those times. Where I have seen men used and abused. These are confident well spoken, well educated men who only want to take care of their family.

    Bra burners beat the drum all the time on women DV. They get enough airplay. This post is about men, they are entitled to a voice.

    Obviously, the consensus here is that men are not entitled to be heard. I guess some people are a part of the problem and others are a part of the solution.

  • Flirty2020

    Flirty2020

    2 years ago

    We find your post to be toxic and full of anger. Our 2 cents worth .

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    2 years ago

    This is actually a very interesting topic and Hubby and I have discussed this ad nauseum in recent months.

    Keen to see what others say and if anything constructive comes from your OP.

    Side note..... Agree with OP, there is a quiet culture of "toxic femininity" which we're all aware of, may have been guilty of and all should call out.... Same as "toxic masculinity" just not as PC.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    2 years ago

    Okaaaay...Please exclude me from your "nasty, toxic bitches" labelling criteria. That's not for you to decide, especially when you've never met 99.99% of the ladies here or in society.

    As my Nana always stated, never ever call anyone a "bitch", because you will appear jealous of there success.

    I'm not sure what else to say, so I'll sit over her, watch and observe from the sideline.

    Ms Foxy

  • Rising_Phoenix

    Rising_Phoenix

    2 years ago

    You may also want to actually look up toxic femininity 🙄
    “Toxic femininity refers to the adherence to the gender binary in order to receive conditional value in patriarchal societies. It is a concept that restricts women to being cooperative, passive, sexually submissive, gentle, and deriving their value from physical beauty while being pleasing to men.”

  • Libertine001

    Libertine001

    2 years ago

    I also see where the OP is coming from although stated harshly.

    I for one have been through a long drawn out unsavoury divorce that I found the woman I loved turn into someone I never knew of which I blame the lawyers feeding her information to maximize the outcome.

    I wont go into detail but something that should have been amicable being that we just grew apart with no abuse of infidelity to speak of was drawn out by the lawyers to pay for their kids private education

    Having said that I dont treat it as a gender issues but and individual and I dont tar all women with that brush

    A post like this doesn't achieve anything but negativity which has no place except whinging.

    The positive you can take is you have left a situation which is toxic and you're living your best life.

    Just my 2 cents worth

    Libertine

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    2 years ago

    ‘Pick me girl’ comes to mind the more I read the OP’s posts.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    2 years ago

    Umm interesting I am very surprised that your post went live I posted the same thing 4 times got blocked and hacked but yeh guys need to grow some balls before they loose them .

    I have been on this site and all I have seen is hatred towards men. woman dictating the size cock they want and yet men don't even get replies and when they do it is all hatred towards them there seems to be double standards here. it's ok for weman to cheat but if a man does you get abused .it's ok for weman to get thousands messages so they can be picky but the men don't get many replies , there is double standard on this site for sure and men finish last so it's great to here more men speak up and as for the weman you should call out other weman that speak down to men we all live together we are all human well some of us hihi

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    2 years ago

    I want to thank the lovely lady that posted this we need more weman like you to speak up and say the truth as you see it and call out the feminists on there ruthless behaviour as we are all human and should be treated that way the word is fair .

  • Mrs_Deep_Love

    Mrs_Deep_Love

    2 years ago

    A very aggressive post.

    As you have been a first responder to human misery for 18 years, I can only hope that you are OK.

  • allfouradventure

    allfouradventure

    2 years ago

    Interesting post , re read it many times and don’t find it either toxic , harsh or aggressive,

    I do find it stating the truth .

    In the end who cares about this stuff , only one person can change it if it’s applies to you .

    Made your bed then lie in it . Don’t like it then change the way you live your life .
    Not prepared to change then you don’t have the right to whinge about it .

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    2 years ago

    This post was always going to open a can of worms because of circumstances.. Because of this ' l was reluctant to put my 2 bob's worth knowing too well how volitile the subject could become ... So l gently tip toe out of here before the trolls come looking .

  • Rising_Phoenix

    Rising_Phoenix

    2 years ago

    People don’t want to discuss issues honestly and openly, they want a slanging match that leaves them feeling righteous. This post is evidence of that.

    This is not toxic femininity, it’s domestic abuse, often in cases of domestic abuse the victim is also making bad choices and sometimes being abusive so it becomes a very sticky situation, until people put their egos aside and discuss it properly there will be no solutions, just angry whinging like we see here.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    2 years ago

    Can't we all just keep scrolling, yeah people in general are shit imo doesn't matter what "gender" they are or identify as.

    In the words of Eddie Murphy, have a coke and a smile motherfucker.

  • Notice_Me

    Notice_Me

    2 years ago

    Ironically, and unjustly, abused men today are where women were 60 years ago: their ill-treatment is ignored, trivialized or mocked; there are virtually no funded resources for them; and they are expected to suffer partner violence in silence. Which most of them do.

    The problem is that DV is now a multi-billion dollar a year industry, interest groups & government agencies have strong incentives to manufacture false accusations & exaggerate incidents to protect their funding & political influence. The feminist left ensures women remain fearful or resentful enough to vote as a bloc at elections.

    As a result, men have no funding or access to support services. Bad ideological laws enable bad women to outsource their violence and harassment to the police, courts and family misandry system. The divorced male suicide rate is 8x that of women.

    The deliberate ongoing distortion of this social issue is all about feminist’s fear that recognizing the real causes of violence. poverty, addiction, mental health, generational family dysfunction, will shift funding away from their social engineering programs directed at alleged gender inequity

    Thanks to the OP for having the courage to bell this politically correct cat. Anti-male misandry, like anti-female misogyny, is unjust and dangerous. When will revenge end and fairness begin?

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    2 years ago

    To be clear.

    It is ok to be a feminist and want rights for weman after all we are all human but as soon as a feminist takes away the freedom or rights of any man in any way this is not on and should be exposed to what it really is and that is sexism and we all need to get along so to be clear the word is fair . Weman should call out other weman that use feminism for a excuse for sexism and should be exposed . Men need to be fair and to also stand there ground as a man .

    Eg . When hiring If you remove 1 man from his job and put 1 woman there that is sexism and not on

    But If you add 1 woman to the job that is feminism and fair . There is a difference the word is FAIR

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    2 years ago

    Very interesting topic...
    I went thru this many yrs ago i coped because i loved my kids and still do there were days i didn't want to go home because i knew what i was walking into
    In those days there was no where to go for help and don't think that has changed much, i was lucky the old fella i was working with had a lot of good advice and didn't take sides called it as it was.
    How do you prove emotional and phychological abuse it doesn't leave physical marks so the Police arn't to much interested in going any further
    If i can give a few words of advice for guys going thru marriage breakup
    Kids arn't dumb they work things out fairly quickly whats going on dont make them pick sides
    Never run there mother down in front of them she is already doing it to you in front of them to anyone who will listen
    Never make promises to the kids you can't keep this only leads to disappointment and eventually resentment especially if you meet another woman with kids.
    On the occasions where you have to deal with your ex partner remember she knows how to push your buttons to get a response keep it polite and cordial dont raise your voice talk calmly however hard that might be to do. Example my ex had neighbours in the right places to hear our conversation so when she said no to me having the kids for my weekend with them if i'd arced up she had them as witnesses for an AVO as i later found out was a suggestion from her mother to help her cause in court.

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    2 years ago

    An interesting and thought provoking OP.
    I don't believe DV is gender biased. It's just differently executed and therefore more publicised based on the brutality/sensationalism of the type of violence.
    A physical crime grabs the headlines, a physiological crime is underground much of the time. Males orientate to the physical, females to the other although each is more than capable of the other when required.
    So it's more a human/personality crime than gender.
    It's also a human thing when as a victim to keep it to themselves.
    Wether a male or female victim, help is always available.
    We as a society need to get over the male/female stereotype and consider the victim as a person regardless of sexuality and the gender based crime they were/are subject to.

  • Viking1969er

    Viking1969er

    2 years ago

    Love this 🥰

  • Supernova

    Supernova

    2 years ago

    Goodness…Many of the responses here doing a great job of reaffirming the OP 😳

  • badboyhere

    badboyhere

    2 years ago

    Well given that there has been both mixed reactions and thoughts that this post would not last that long it’s seems it is continuing to gather comments.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    2 years ago

    I think it's interesting that the most toxic women to lurk on these forums are drawn to this thread like moths to a flame - desperate to defend and justify their own repugnant behaviour and attack the OP for drawing attention to it without even naming them as offenders. These are the women who complain endlessly that men need to spend more time crafting thoughtful messages for them to ignore, proudly boast about how rude they are to men on this site, and invariably respond to forum posts made by men with insults and sarcasm whilst their enablers cheer and cackle from the sidelines like a pack a craven, misandristic hyenas.

  • Mrs_Deep_Love

    Mrs_Deep_Love

    2 years ago

    The original post is about toxic femininity. Toxic femininity involves restricting your behavior to fit stereotypically feminine traits that men supposedly find pleasing (see I can google).
    I have often pondered the concept of toxic masculinity, which I think is more damaging to men than women.
    The Australian cultural expectations on men are many and restrictive. But I can see that changing which is fantastic for the overall mental health of men.

    Perhaps the OP meant to say toxic women, or women with toxic opinions.

    What did you mean Ex007?

  • Kokoflamingo

    Kokoflamingo

    2 years ago

    Gosh, the married blokes are loving this post.....