M58 F51
Straight/Bisexual
January 28 2022
Do people actually think that the vast majority of men are straight while the vast majority of women are bi? Or could this actually be the case?
In our experience many ‘straight’ men love a bit of light MM contact or even oral, but they still classify that as being ‘straight’, whereas women are more than comfortable labeling themselves as ‘experimental’, bicurious or bisexual.
Is the stigma of being ‘gay’ still so great that all the men on here can’t admit that in the heat of the moment one hand or mouth feels as good as another?
What gives, guys. Time to man up, we say!
Comments
bitenomagain
2 years ago
Our theory is that men take a lot longer to become at ease with it, but once they enjoy the intensity and pleasure of an anal orgasm, it speeds the mindset up dramatically.....
GimmeFunTime
2 years ago
One day I might be lucky to experiment with a bisexual encounter. My profile says experimental, because I’ve never had the pleasure yet. Love to chat with couples who feel the same way. It is hard in general for guys to open up to the wide world. We’ve been conditioned all our lives to behave a certain way and society generally still ostracises men if the stray from that conditioning
Rising_Phoenix
2 years ago
I actually think there’s way more men who like to think most women are bi than there are actual bi women out there.
I also think there’s a lot more bi-curious men who are wanting to experiment, but that may just be the people I meet 🤷🏼♀️
teamaj2
2 years ago
Always an interesting topic . Back in June 2020 - I posted in the forum - ‘Is MMF deemed unacceptable ?’- it got a huge response of over 300 comments . It made for interesting reading .
Over the years of being here , we’ve learned a lot from chatting and meeting people . The common theme that single males tell us is , they do not put bi in their profile as many women and couples will simply over look them because they are Bisexual . Sad state of affairs in this day and age , especially here on RHP . Surely , we are all open minded . Many of us have fantasies , wish lists etc that don’t always come to fruition as boundaries are discussed prior play with potential partners .
We , like yourselves have found a lot of guys firmly state they are straight BUT they are more than happy to for example receive . Makes us shake our heads in disbelief. I also think that women being bisexual is 100% acceptable to most people . Pity it’s not the same for men . Ax
RHP User
2 years ago
A bi site that I'm on, the majority of bi guys are straight and married. Some of the kinkiest guys I've played with in a bi mmf have presented as straight only 😆
tryus30
2 years ago
It is an interesting topic especially for some men to be comfortable enough to own up to their curiosity. It’s pretty special when you are comfortable enough to share with your partner your every curiosity/ fantasy . We have chatted to numerous guys on here who identify as straight but would never put it on there profile.
RHP User
2 years ago
I guess it has to do with the whole stigma of being "gay" I (male half) would say I'm bi but not full bi... I guess bi with rules, I love oral but no back door stuff and I would never do anything without my wife there as for me that would be gay... I guess everyone is different but if you are not going to be honest here then what are you here for? When looking at profiles we actually prefer if it says they or the male half of the couple is bi or curious or experimental... I would never admit any of this in my everyday life but if you are here and in this lifestyle I say be honest with yourself and others and it can only lead to fun times...
AnnieWhichway
2 years ago
It's society.
Ok for women to claim to be bi but are no where close to it.
Ok for men to say they are straight but hang around gay beats.
Strange world.
Women trying to please their man, men trying to be straight to please other men.
A man's world?
Enough of the bullshit
2022 is maybe the time for men to be who they want to be, not who they are expected to be.
But there are a lot of women out there who think it's Ok to explore their bi side but in no way accept their man to be thinking of exploring.
There is no answer, people are just generally selfish and fucked up.
So guys, just suck a dick and make up your own mind. It's Ok to swallow too, you expect your lady to do it!
countrytouch82
2 years ago
I guess it depends on frequency too perhaps?
If you have a bi encounter/experiment just once a twice a year, yes for all intents you could put down bi but it doesn't necessarily indicate a "usual" inclination. For similar rationale I list as a non drinker, because it's closer to the truth of me only having a drink once or twice a year, than the next available option to list which is "social drinker".
I still think hetereoflexible is the most appropriate, if available.
And also, one might be interested in trying a bi activity but might want to explore with a supportive partner than trying for a solo gay date or wandering into a gay club or equivalent, it might be a bit much for a first time.
If a single male puts down bi, he might further reduce his already slim chances of dating interest, the only way around this would be to have seperate bi and straight profiles.
Markov77
2 years ago
I originally noted straight on my profile then as my mind started to wonder I changed to Experimental. After a while I finally made myself have a couple. If experiences and figured I don’t think think I’m bisexual full on as I don’t really find myself attracted to guys. I just enjoy all different experiences sexually and an comfortable with that. Sure I want to expand my experiences and try more things as I feel comfy and with the right people.
Perhaps one day I will change to bisexual but for now I feel bi curious suits where I am at.RHP User
2 years ago
To me being bi has opened up a whole new world. As early back as school days I was getting & giving oral with another guy . Then when I started having threesomes with couples & playing with both of them .I now in a long term relationship with a female , I introduced her to swinging . Not being hardcore ,but just from time to time we meet up with another couple. She found her bi side & we both get turn on by watching each other with same sex oral only . So we do full swap for sex & we have met some really nice people. I don't seek men only, just in a foursome , works for us.
InTimMate
2 years ago
I've read some studies that suggest (and I quote) "women's sexual identities are more 'flexible' than men's." I get the idea this may be either evolutionary or a hangover from social history. Women have typically been more nurturing than men. Men have died in wars and other battles, leaving behind many women. Was this how harems came to be? Whatever the reasons behind it, it could be that male sexuality (generally) is less "flexible" than female sexuality, amongst us humans. Of course, that doesn't speak for individual differences.
JohnAnn2227
2 years ago
Hi,
My husband John describes himself as straight whereas I am definitely bi. When we started swinging we were both straight. I had no bi leanings but after playing with others in a group situation I started to realise I was interested in other girls. It took me a while though before I admitted that I was bisexual and wanted to date girls as well as guys. John has never got to where I am. He now does not mind male touch in group situations and has received blow jobs from other guys (unknowingly at first) but has yet to give one. He has held other guys to put them in me and has given a few handjobs while in a group situation. In a group situation he now describes himself as experimental. Will I ever get my dream of seeing him give a blowjob to another guy? Maybe. Will I ever see John participate in anal in a MM situation? I really doubt it. Please note, he is nowhere near being homophobic, he just isn't really turned on by other guys.
HappyHedonist
2 years ago
I identify myself as a hedonist and not bi as although I'm happy to be pleasured by guys in couples play, I'm just not attracted to men.
hot2nwild
2 years ago
Honestly everyone should try everything they can and if you dont enjoy something try it again, it could be so many unrelated factors affecting your ability to enjoy something. Im a bisexual man, i hate labels though i think it definitely holds people back. I dont really find men attractive so much as I find cocks attractive, If i see a nice big, thick juicy cock online, I only see how amazing it would be sucking and fucking that cock with my partner, and dont care much about the attraction to the person connected to it. In reality its personality and sexual energy that turns me on, no matter what sex organs they have. It took a lot of retraining my brain, to be fully comfortable with what I enjoyed sexually. Even when i thought i was fully embracing sucking cock and getting fucked, i realised I was still holding back and not allowing myself to embrace my enjoyment sucking and fucking like a sopping wet, sensual woman would.. and Fuck it was mind blowing, I fucked our biggest dildo doggystyle like a sexy pornstar showing off her cock twerking skills... What an enlightening experience. Fuck the lies and the brain washing society has infected people with. Everyone would enjoy both pussy and cock in every possible way, if they have the right mindset, environment and people to do it with..
Just_Dan
2 years ago
Totally. This kills me. It just seems to be a thing.
RHP User
2 years ago
So we are a new FWB couple in WA trying to find a descent bi guy to play with us for the first time.
It is difficult to find guy that’s is actually bi
Daddysprincess6
2 years ago
I think it's because we think other men will judge if the find us in the real world. So at work etc which could cause you some issues I suppose. Also maybe because we haven't actually accepted that we do enjoy it. I never enjoyed it at first but I do enjoy it now with the right couple of course the guy obviously has to he well groomed and fit for myself if he was to join us.
WayneoRHP
2 years ago
I'm a white straight male with no clothes on Wattsapp rite now I like to masterbait
Jimmbobnsa
2 years ago
I'm a happily married guy. I just happen to enjoy a throbbing cock up me. We I successfully sift through the morons and tee up a session, I go out of my way to make the most of the date. Be honest with yourself at least if you can't go public.
RHP User
2 years ago
I was introduced to bi sex by a couple i had been playing with for quiet a while and never looked back probably one of my best experiences. "Straight guys" its not bi until its anal sex keeping in mind a lot of these guys will very happily have anal sex with a woman, Based on things i have been told by couples both straight and bi...Bi couples have trouble finding genuine bi guys as a lot claim to bi be just to bang the missus. Straight couples seem to be in some sort of fear a bi guys is suddenly going to hump the old man. Or bi guys have a high rate of STD's news flash anyone could have STD's irrespective of you sexual preferences A lot of the negativity is portrayed by the media every time they mention gay its always 2 guys usually in a bad light never 2 girls,
RHP User
2 years ago
No issues here like playing with both and really enjoy mm and mmf sex. Just don’t need a label for it.
RHP User
2 years ago
I have never had an experience that included a man but I think I could have a threesome with my partner and accidentally touch a dick.
rwp9969
2 years ago
Too many labels...
Kinky_DnA
3 months ago
Perhaps these labels can be changed to “will take a dick”, “will give a guy a dick” straight to the point so to speak.
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