Outing the 'No Shows'... fakes!

February 14 2021

It's a shame there are so many profiles/people, singles and couples, who seem to have no ethics when they decide to engage in the 'swinging' scene.

I've lost count of the number of times someone, including couples, can't be bothered to let you know they've changed their mind, going to be late or for whatever reason don't turn up. This is also referring to supposedly Verified profiles.

Does anyone know of, an off site group forum or chat where those details can be shared with others so we're potentially not wasting time and the dodgy f***wits may start to think twice about how they treat people? Surely they can get their kicks another way.

Comments

  • Phoenix_Rising

    Phoenix_Rising

    3 years ago

    No and that sounds like something that’d just encourage more animosity to be honest. What if you turn someone down and they put you on there talking shit about you? No thank you, not something I’d ever be a part of, I’m happy to use my own judgement and learn my own lessons, as painful as that may be at times.

  • Mrs_Deep_Love

    Mrs_Deep_Love

    3 years ago

    I assume that you are new to this site? You will learn quickly how to spot a fake. After awhile it's dead easy. Before making plans insist on a phonecall or video chat. You can do a private video chat in the Rhp chat room. Problem solved 🙂

  • Mrs_Deep_Love

    Mrs_Deep_Love

    3 years ago

    I find it odd that you have experienced so much of this. In 5 years hubby and I have never had a 'no show' in couples and singles dating.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    3 years ago

    There should be no expectations or pressure especially If you have not met them. People ghost for all sorts of reasons that can vary in complexity. Be gentle on yourselves, as you are blessed you have each other to fall onto. Singles don't. Would you believe, ghosting happens more to singles than couples.
    It is not humble or appropriate to publicly name and shame. I would think twice about posting on any social media platforms. It may come back and bite you, especially in the "swinging scene. As they say, what is trash to some is treasure to others.
    Ms Foxy

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    3 years ago

    A simple name change makes the listing of profiles irrelevant.
    Just refine your selection process

  • JT_team

    JT_team

    3 years ago

    I'm often with the mass opinion of no expectations until you actually meet. Although just recently we had a tick everything on each other's list and as soon as photo was exchanged from our end on kik they went quiet. We're ok with that as sometimes although not nice, people including ourselves, CBB to respond with a no thanks. But what made this one stand out was within 2 mins of exchange they went and blocked us on RHP? Just felt a bit OOT and a bit off putting, did we come off as desperate/pushy after 5 messages? Long story short, slept on it and the next day back to 'meh on to the next one' - so i think just give yourself time, even a pause, and once ready get back on. Don't be ashamed of your emotional reaction (the whole i'm so tough i don't care facade), but don't fuel it either i.e. this idea. Just my 2 cents!

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    3 years ago

    I couldn't disagree with you more OP. I am not a believer in the "name and shame" of which you speak..... just childish on your part.
    Not everyone on RHP is here to join the "swinging" lifestyle as you've stated and I'm assuming you're relatively new if you think they are. Everyone has their own reasons for participating and their own reasons for not participating.
    Hubby and I have been active members for many years and had one "no show" and that was over 7 years ago. A few days later he kindly informed us that nerves got the better of him.
    Maybe improve your vetting processes to ensure an improved outcome.
    Best of luck 😊

  • 2EssesExploring

    2EssesExploring

    3 years ago

    OP your profile reads very nicely and you are certainly very attractive. I would think you would attract a lot of attention and some of that is always going to be undesirable.
    I’d think with some time you’ll find the right ones for you.
    Another thing that might be at play here is that it’s well known that people just don’t show when they say they will. We have very few weekends without our kids and have been disappointed that when making solid plans with one person/couple, it often falls through. We have been tempted to make plans with multiple people to ensure a backup, I think this is what many people do. We haven’t done it as we just make sure we plan a night for ourselves and if the planets align and we connect with someone all the better.

  • nightingale8

    nightingale8

    3 years ago

    Vengeance is scary. Don’t be scary.
    😂

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    Exactly why do you believe this will work ??

    And..

    What happens if said person changes for the better?? Then what?? How do you go about removing yourself off the register of the fucktarded??

    Details are needed here, not just a petulant dummy spit ...

    I hope this helps

  • TouchOfEden

    TouchOfEden

    3 years ago

    The funniest suggestion was that profiles are given a 5 star rating... like we do for Ubers because clearly the verification and verifications don't work. Thanks SG x

  • SpicyKale

    SpicyKale

    3 years ago

    We’re not the most active at meeting new people, but we’ve never had a no show. We’ve had a few go into radio silence the day of, then contact us the next day with an explanation. I suppose the trick was checking in and not leaving home without a response.... it doesn’t make it any easier if you’ve used up your sitting allowance though! On a plus side for the couples getting a kid free night together is never a bad thing🥰 As a lot on here will tell you, it’s about how you vett and how you communicate right up to the second you walk out of your house. There’s no way in hell we’d book a hotel room for a first date!

    Naming and shaming is never cool, as others have said it can be abused if people have grudges. Another platform we were on years ago let people leave comments on your profile page, they didn’t even need to have had contact with you to do so. You had no way of deleting them, it was very much abused and one of the main reasons we ended up on here. It’s definitely not something we’d like to see on the pie!

  • pieadventures

    pieadventures

    3 years ago

    I am very careful before I commit to anything, but once I have made a commitment I show up every time. I am fortunate to have nothing but good experiences so far (touching wood, not my own though, that’s just awkward 😜). Some of the groups I have connected with will inform each other of dealings with profiles or people in the past if asked, but this is generally positive, as in they’re fun or into this or that, you’ll like them, etc. I tend to like the meet and greets as you get a better feel for people and if you’re likely to connect and be what each other are after!

  • badboyhere

    badboyhere

    3 years ago

    I have to agree with with what another has mentioned here that you seem to have a fairly well written and to the point profile and you look very attractive, so I must say I am very surprised that you would get any no shows or knock backs at all. Obviously somebody with a partner that did not know that they were on red hot pie and could not commit to all of their chat up talk I suspect might be the cause. I have had multiple no shows and multiple cases of ghosting in the past and I too at one point felt a little like that I needed to put these people to protect others from experiencing the same treatment. But then I realised what good is that going to do? I came to my senses and realised that people will be how they want to be and there was nothing I could do to control them. I could only control one thing and that was how I want to be and how I want to be portray to others. For me I realised that as much as others might have poor values in life I wasn’t going to drop my standards and I could set my own expectations. Once I realised this I found lots of ways on here to protect my feelings when these cases of no shows and ghosting occurred. Practice made progress for me, and now that you have experienced this I hope you don’t experience this again but if you do put it down to a necessary evil that has to occur to allow you to grow. Take care and I hope that you have pleasant experiences in your red hot pie travels🙏

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    We have had two fakes this week 🤦‍♂️ I don’t understand what they get out of it. Both were reported so hopefully they don’t bother anyone else.

  • steveandhisgirl

    steveandhisgirl

    3 years ago

    Weve got a hobart couple that started a rumour we were fakes. Just cause she found out her hubby had been chasing me solo....... I never wanted him anyway lol but such insecurity on the wives behalf.