M48 F37
Our first mmf
June 29 2020
New to the site and way of life however excited to explore our sexuality.
My wife had her nails and hair done. Shaved herself smooth in anticipation of meeting our very first mmf opportunity. He was a carefully selected individual.
He was a no show which has effected her self esteem and faith in dating websites.
I've reassured her we were unlucky and she's smokin hot and his loss however the damage has been done.
Anyone experienced this before with a positive follow up?
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welove2play
4 years ago
Hi guys, we are extremely experienced in this lifestyle and want to say to both of you - don’t give up! You have to take the good along with the bad and everything is a learning curve. Don’t allow other people’s lack of respect or manners to get you down .. we have had that happen and even had people leave us almost as soon as we’ve got started, which has left us frustrated.
The best approach is to be selective by all means ( you should make sure there is comparability etc) but also be the ultimate opportunists - we tell ourselves that no matter what happens at least 50% (us) of the arrangement is HOT and fun AF and if the other party isn’t interested it’s their loss...get excited but don’t take it too seriously -we always remind ourselves that the best fun we ever have is always with each other and this journey is an adventure! Enjoy exploring xxRHP User
4 years ago
So annoying.
The guy chickened out or was never real to begin with.
Its not a reflection of you at all.
I hate no shows! Very selfish and cowardly.
Dont take it personally, its not you its them. Its always them 🤷♂️😖😂
Better luck next time.RHP User
4 years ago
Tjankyou for your advice and words of encouragement
Rlee552
4 years ago
Sadly you will see on the forums this is not an infrequent occurrence. I have also been told by a number of couples of this happening to them (sometimes been told as the Plan B replacement - Plan A’s loss and my and the couple’s gain). In no way is the disrespect you have been shown on you, it is purely on him.
I would continue to persevere, and you will get better picking out who is genuine and who is not.
And hoping that first experience for you is amazing.twister
4 years ago
I have to say, it’s probably just as difficult (if not more so)... for me to find a couple to help me enjoy MMF loving!!.. Yes, age is against me it seems, but hey, I can’t do anything about that🤣🤣.... So, I’ll keep on looking, but I can assure that I won’t make a date, unless I plan to keep it!!.. good luck and enjoy your adventure as I intend to enjoy mine😘
RHP User
4 years ago
lots of couples have had experiences with no shows from guys, I think a lot of guys like the fantasy of the mmf but chicken out when its actually offered to them.rejection is just part of rhp, we've had couples show lots of interest up until they've seen our face pics and then turn us down, it really doesn't bother us. remember there was once a guy who said no to a record deal with The Beatles lol.
you look like a hot couple and if you're ever on the gc and want the company of a couple then hit us up, we meet first and play later and have no expectations, if there's no chemistry we just drink instead :)Sawadee
4 years ago
You cant help what other people think or do ? Lady looks every bit of who most guys would luv to be involved with in a MMF or MFM .. I identified with the nails ' hair ' smoothly shaved bit Lady put herself through' as l watched Mrs Sawadee go through exactly the same preparation. Fortunately our outcome was positive but l could imagine the disappointment after so much antisipation.. Truth is , it's his loss.. Put it down to experience and dont let it get in the way of a more positive outcome...
RHP User
4 years ago
i am keen to have raw sex with man in company of his girl. perhaps kiss her while he is penetrating me. when he has had his way with me i would love to penetrate her as he watches and helps.
Mischeviouslad
4 years ago
🤦♂️ This place brings out a certain factor in some people
👆
click_lick
4 years ago
A lot of guys talk it up and then get cold feet. But by not showing up, the person merely demonstrates their own lack of quality....insecure, unreliable, selfish.
Not someone to take to bedroom with in the first place.
It is ok, in my opinion, if a man shows up, nervousness gets him in bedroom and he cannot perform. (lots of guys forget that a man has more than one tool to pleasure a woman).
And, for completeness, it is not ok for ANYONE not to show up....couples, men, women. That is just low.
And, for extra completeness...no second chances. Late notice.... depends on reason. No-show....bye bye.
FeistyFatty
4 years ago
@rawbitch🤣🤣🤣🤣
ajaussie
4 years ago
I think its unfair for the couple who takes this step and the guys doesn't show up. If the guys aren't sure and not confident...they should convey the message honestly and authentically. To the couples.....There are guys who are always communicating and clear in there responses......so don't loose heart and the best would come to you ......for a great experience. Cheers AJ
youandus33
4 years ago
twister , threesomes are NOT about LOVING may be thats where you are going wrong LOL
RHP User
4 years ago
We would definitely be interested in catching up with you guys for a drink
PartyOrg
4 years ago
That is a pathetic effort on part of the single guy, hopefully he had a good reason to cancel and did not just cancel last minute or ghost you.
Agood idea is to meet for a coffee prior to the play date, if the guy shows up for the coffee chances are less likely he will cancel on the play date.RHP User
4 years ago
This happens so often, women go to all the effort of making ourselves as attractive as possible, and that’s a lot of prep! Nails, toes, nice hair, makeup, expensive sexy clothes and shoes. And most of the time the guy doesn’t even bother to shower! Or even turn up!
It happens to everyone, even my drop dead gorgeous friends. It isn’t a reflection of the person who gets stood up, it’s a reflection on the person who fails to turn up. They are of poor character, easily distracted or insecure.RHP User
4 years ago
I see this both ways!
I've experienced no shows and as a women after putting in all the prep work to feel and look our best it can be super upsetting! But even after experiencing this myself I was so close to bailing on my first couple play situation. As I was getting ready I started to get nervous as one lone person meeting a couple can be very intimidating. What if I'm left out and the third wheel or they don't like what they see etc. I just kept telling myself I have nothing to loose and the couple reassured me there was no pressure just meet and see how the night goes. That reassurance is what got me there but I was very close to not having that amazing moment. So definately don't take it personally and hope you get an amazing experience soon! xx
newfoundintrest
4 years ago
The same happened to us little over a month ago.
Wife got all dolled up, had the beers on the fridge, heating on and no show.
We decided to play at clubs from now on as there is always another option there
KinkyHugh
4 years ago
Happens all the time. Don’t give up though. A lot of time wasters here and other sites too. You will get used to it and learn to weed out the fakes soon.
Chippy2010
4 years ago
Sorry to hear you had a bad first try with it. Ive found that alot of guys who claim they are bi are just fakeing it. Best way to tell is if they are displaying Bisexual on the profile, as there is alot of stigma that goes with putting that as your preferance. I know first hand the number of ladies and couples that tell me not interested because im Bi and they think it means im going to automaticly play with their cock is unbeliveable.
Tell your wife to keep trying you will gind the right guy at some point and she will forget about the bad eggs. And from what i can see based on your profile photos she is a very sexy lady and it that guys lose not hers.69tattoorob
3 years ago
As a couple trying out our first MFM was not as we planned wife thought she picked the right man but he was only interested in pounding hard into her smothered her making it hard for me to participate in hour later he was gone trying again another one once meeting us not interested in giving her a DP as we talked about doing it took three more attempts all strangers to get close with one but he only wanted to fuck her arse but cum to quick they all lied about a DP one good thing came out of it wife was truly fucked hard by five of them we learnt from our mistakes one day we will find the right man for DP
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