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Age difference- younger men

December 30 2020

I get approached my fit younger guys who look great but only seem interested in the quick hook up.
When I tell them they’re too young they get offended. I’m older and carrying weight not like the ladies on the posters and don’t want to be judged as an easy lay.
How do I get around this and meet the genuine guys? My sometime partner is 40 and loves my curves - just don’t see him much. I’m looking for a regular partner - any advice would be appreciated as I’m getting a bit disheartened.

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Twisted_Geek
3 years ago
I don't think you will find you are alone in younger guys being of the 'hit it then quit it' mentality, but I personally just do not understand that. More mature ladies are far more fun sexually, experience counts for a lot. And curves have always been super hot, at least to me.

I guess what I am saying there is that I don't have a solution for you at all except to say that I hope some of the younger guys come to their senses as soon as possible.

I have a problem along similar lines, in that I have developed a huge attraction to much older women, like 20+ years older, and would love to invest time with one and show her how desirable, sexy and divine they are but I have no idea where I would find such a lady. I think they stay away from sites such as these and have given up on finding intimacy and sexual fun again. *sigh*
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RHP User
3 years ago
It’s like anything and especially with this site, it’s a game of patience until the right one comes along....lots of screening and by the looks of it if they get annoyed it’s a sure sign they are not right for you.
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FloozieandHim
3 years ago
Exactly the same issue for us. Young guys just don’t seem to read profiles or take a polite but firm rejection.
It’s very frustrating!
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MsSuperFoxy
3 years ago
Just keep up your intition skills and an eye out for red flags. They are out there. I know as I have met them.
Ms Foxy
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teamaj2
3 years ago
There is of course plenty of young fit gorgeous men that message and then when I mention my age they are dust . Like yourself , it’s on the profile , with recent pictures ( I am far from a young supermodel ) . We feel our profile reflects who are and what we seek,without any grey areas . I don’t want to lump ‘all young guys ‘ into the same box . There is respectful, intelligent , sexy young guys out there . Patience is the key , stay true to what you seek and follow your gut instinct . Good luck . Let’s hope all good things come to those that wait . Ax
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RHP User
3 years ago
In my experience, it's not just younger men who behave this way. Perhaps your screening techniques need improving, or simply giving yourself more time before you jump into bed - it may help weed out the "players". Your profile is clear, but don't assume that everyone will read it. Be upfront and state your intentions. In regards to curves, there are plenty of men (including younger) who enjoy a curvier/bigger woman and will appreciate your body.
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Jakes11
3 years ago
Walk on by .
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sam_990
3 years ago
I would say that it isn't exclusive to men. Since I've been a member here, I've had (albeit only a fraction of what women must get on here on a daily basis) some people - including women - message me even after I've said I'm not interested.

I think the biggest problem is that, being the site that it is, some people don't realise that they're still talking to actual human beings and not just internet profiles. My advice would be to just be honest and upfront, if you're not interested in someone, just respond with a polite message saying that you're not interested. I know that women must get hundreds if not thousands of messages on here, but I do think people tend to take this better than the whole reading and ignoring thing, especially when we all live normal busy lives and sometimes do tend to read messages and forget to reply later if we've suddenly gotten caught up in something. Again, this is just my input and obviously I have no idea what is must be like for a woman on here, getting bombarded etc. However, as someone that falls into this 'younger guy' category, if someone replies with a polite message declining my offer to chat, I respect their decision and move on.

Oh, and in terms of the whole 'curvy, carrying weight' thing, this is a big plus for lots of men, including myself. I don't like skinny, slim women like those on posters. I'd happily takes curves over a washboard stomach any day
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