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Tips on how to increase your libidoGet your libido back on track and bring back your sex life.

Christina Miller | December 05 2019

Tips on how to increase your libido

Has your sex drive taken a nose dive? Fear not. It’s perfectly normal to experience dips on your libido from time to time. Lack of sleep, hormones, stress, tiredness, relationship changes, physical and emotional health can all impact our sexual desire.


If you find your lack of desire for sex is worrying you or is affecting your relationship, then it’s a good idea to get some help and take some action. Here are 8 ways on how to boost your sex drive.


1. Lifestyle

Often, we have unrealistic expectations about sex and how it plays out in our lives and relationship. We expect sex to be spontaneous and passionate. Sure, there are occasions when it is, but generally -life happens. Between work, kids, health problems, ageing, tiredness and duties, sex unintentionally gets squeezed back, left in the back-burner. Everyday life can take over the thoughts of stripping off and going to pound town together.



The truth is sex and desire, much like anything valuable in our lives, require work. Making time for sex is a must. Send a naked pic and sext (sex textingyour partner to let them know you are thinking of them, passionately kiss them when you pass by each other. Small moments of affection can create a big surge in your libido.

2. Go on Date-Nights



Start with setting one night a week for a DATE- NIGHT. Occasionally, make it a whole weekend. Disrupt your routine and focus on yourselves.

Devote all the time to do what makes you reconnect with each other. It could be shopping for sexy lingerie, going to swingers' party, or venture to a meet & greet. With summer here, go to a nudist beach, it's daring, sexy and it'll get your red blood pumping. The feel of the sun, wind and water on your naked body will have your libido awaken. Cross out a few of your fantasies – whether it’s a threesome, public sex, a first visit to a swinger’s club or try out a strap-on. Add a little fun into your relationship.

3. Set your room up for intimacy



Revamp your bedroom and make it a space for intimacy. Add candles, scents and bed linen that invites sensuality, hell, get a lock in your door to keep off intruders. Making your bed sexy again will make you more relaxed and ready for intimacy.


4. Eat clean

Look after your health and diet. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle will contribute to higher levels of energy necessary for sex. In a nutshell, sleep enough, eat healthily and keep active and fit which will help your libido. A growing body of research shows that certain vitamins and components can enhance sexual function and desire. Here are some food that will increase your sex drive: Avocados, almonds, strawberries, bananas, salmon and oysters are just a few foods that may set the mood. 


5. Exercise often


Exercise lowers stress, improves mood, and increase self-esteem - together they rev up your sex drive. Take up poll dancing, learn to twerk or get busy sexercising.


6. Gauge your relationship

Resentment, constant fighting and not making time for each other will inevitably affect your libido and your relationship. Good sex starts outside the bedroom. If you lack respect or affection, then your sex life is likely to reflect this. Want a thriving libido? Practice kindness and courtesy and share house chores - you certainly don't want your partner to have run out of steam by the time they get to bed. Be partners inside and outside the bedroom. Sexual desire is complex, with both psychological and physical components. Knowing the cause can help a person find the best treatment. There is no shame in seeking help from a certified sex therapist.

7. Take inventory on your sexual image (body image)




Do you feel good about yourself? If not, why not? Do not let social media dampen your brand of sexy. Learn to love your body shape and others will pick up on that sexy confidence. We all know that both men & women find confidence sexy. If your libido is low, masturbating can help you to begin feeling sexual again and give you a jumpstart reconnecting your mind to your body. Reworking your sexual image into a positive one is essential to your libido. There's nothing sexier than someone in touch with their sexual self.


8. Check your medication

Sometimes there can be medical issues behind your libido loss. Medication and changes in medication routine often can cause a temporary drop in libido. Common medications that may cause a decrease in libido include; anti-depressants and anxiety medications; anti-seizure and antihypertensive meds; cholesterol-lowering meds and hormonal birth control, to name a few. Always best to talk to your doctor about changing the dosage, altering the time or adding or trying other meds. If a medication is the most likely culprit, discuss your concern with the prescribing doctor. Another treatment may likely be used with fewer side effects.

Finding your lost libido is an important journey to finding your sexual self and reigniting your sex life. One fundamental truth, the more you set the intention to reclaim your libido (spice up your sex life), the more likely you are to succeed.

If you play around with these tips and still have no interest in sex, you may want to consult a doctor. Sometimes our hormones get out of whack and that can decrease your sex drive. A doc can help you get back on track.

Do you have any tips on how you can boost your libido and sex drive?

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