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Your hot tips picking a fake or 'non honest' profile
February 09 2020
The downside is wading through the tonne of fake and misleading profiles.. this includes bored people with premium accounts that use stolen photos.
What are your sure fire 'warning alarms' that things aren't all they seem?
Once we had recently was a ridiculously hot male looked like a supermodel (ended up being an European model with a quick reverse image search) but he was a paid member, gave a mobile phone number and seemed real until multiple excuses as to why he couldn't meet or video call or send a specific selfie I requested exposed him.
Another one was a guy who insists is single but can never talk at nights when he's in Melbourne, but constantly wants horny chats while he's away for work.
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RHP User
4 years ago
As a guy its women with names like Hot65417 a profile pic that looks like it was stolen from an Instagram THOT and no description or description of their ideal guy.
dianet
4 years ago
If they are not willing to show up in person, a good chance of being fake...
but the more difficult fraudsters to pick online until it's too late are the professional conmen (love cons) who lurk this, and other sites to scam money... big money...
boobsandbusted
4 years ago
Hot tip , online is a minefield of problems ,try getting to some meet and greets or party’s and meet people face to face ,
Mr b
Cucknshells
4 years ago
The best way is to trust your gut. Trust your instinct. They are normally pretty spot on.
Shells.KDebony
4 years ago
Meet stunning woman online this weekend. Amazing photos, new account, new kik and hubby said she looks too good to be true. I asked for a quick selfie of her poking her tongue or holding two fingers up. After lots of quick messages and her sending gorgeous pics apparently the request for a quick selfie to prove she was real became too much and she said she got shitty. Convo went real quiet after that. Anything wrong with asking for a little proof when they aren't validated?
Readyfors0mefun
4 years ago
We tend to do the exact same as you do, we ask for a unique selfie.
Quite often the chat will just stop right there so we've learned to do it quite early after making contact on kik.
Genuine people have no worries about doing it and we've done it for others even though we have validations.
badboyhere
4 years ago
On KIK I have found some rare female gems, but more often than not they are either after financial "rewards" for their time or they are time wasters only after hot chat so they can work themselves up, and not willing to meet.You did the correct thing with your "hot male" by asking for a contact number as this is a good first start. If somebody is not willing to offer their phone number then there is no point in trying to arrange a meet up.Keep doing what you are doing, which is asking for validity and eventually you will find a willing genuine participant.
RHP User
4 years ago
Quoting 'KDebony'
Meet stunning woman online this weekend. Amazing photos, new account, new kik and hubby said she looks too good to be true. I asked for a quick selfie of her poking her tongue or holding two fingers up. After lots of quick messages and her sending gorgeous pics apparently the request for a quick selfie to prove she was real became too much and she said she got shitty. Convo went real quiet after that. Anything wrong with asking for a little proof when they aren't validated?
When I first got started in online sites I got caught out by fakes a few
times. It made me very pessimistic about things online for a while. But I did get caught out once when I called someone out for being fake and then they proved they weren't (it ended well fortunately), so I'm careful about my language choice to not be rude when asking for some kind of "proof of life" if they look dubious.
If someone is genuinely open minded and there is reciprocating interest to pursue things further, I don't understand why a genuine person would get upset at providing some kind of verification of themselves. Unless maybe they're completely new and don't realise how all the fakery happens on here and are hesitant to share their beloved face to the interwebs.
I think everyone gets a 6th sense after a while, but only once you've been through a few fakes...life learning...
naughty_natured
4 years ago
if the profile or message is written by a male then it's bullshit. Plain and simple. They can't help it it's in the DNA.As a woman who has past puberty you should have already figured that out.
To weed them out should be pretty simple, you have a couples profile just get your husband to talk on the phone to them. Guys are pretty good at spotting dipshits.
sweetfrangapani
4 years ago
I constantly get asked for pics. But I dont have the confidence in myself any more and like taking selfies. This annoys alot of guys. I would rather meet in public and work it out from there........
MrandMrsFrisky
4 years ago
There's a pattern to most profiles that start throwing up red flags.
1. Age range up to 99.
2. No information with what they're looking for or it's exclusively the suggested bits from the profile builder.
3. The aforementioned hot_chick1234 style username.
4. Asking to go to kik, or similar, in the very first message without having established if there's any connection at all.
5. Couples profiles where they share the same star sign, both divorced etc.
6. The really dumb ones have the watermarks on the photos they share with you to entice you to share some back with them.KDebony
4 years ago
All awesome suggestions guys. Yeah there's one new gorgeous attractive Irish woman in Melbourne that seemed too good to be true and maybe she's real, but she's also new. Had no probs sending nude pics(That we didn't ask for) but got offended when we asked for unique selfie. We explained that there were alot of fakes online, that we've had a no show male and been caught out with one genuine guy that had photos posted from when he was 30 but is now pushing 50 years old. So we had valid reason for doing so and also advised as a single female she should be careful. Either she was put off by the request or was indeed fake as convo stopped straight away.
Mischeviouslad
4 years ago
Single photo
Photo in a very instagram style pose
(Reverse-search engines help, folks!)
Overly forward written profile
Eagerness to ask for private photos or move to kik
There are more subtle tells.... but those are the first and quite obvious flags
Chances are..... its a guy
But some people just keep flogging that horse hoping against their better judgement that its a real photo
EarthQueen
4 years ago
Question to men?
Are the instagirl profiles all scammers then trying to get money? Or generally men ?4Evercurious
4 years ago
Quoting 'EarthQueen'
Question to men?
Are the instagirl profiles all scammers then trying to get money? Or generally men ?They are not just after money as in a direct scam in terms of asking for cash..ie Recent ones have included them supplying a nic on another site where it was clear she was a Dominatrix for hire (Nothing about that at all in her profile here)Another lady replied that was happy to meet, but had to be at a particular Swinger Night (trying to drum up numbers). We know that for as soon as we said we prefer to not attend Swingers parties no replies, and no further discussion.Single female profile, whose sole focus was securing a girl to be a birthday surprise for her bf. Clearly a guy.Yes fakes abound. Saw the Irish girl profile. The first message back she had a headless nude pic in her private gallery, but if you compared the body shape to the clothed pics it was clearly not her. So knew she was fake.RHP User
4 years ago
My approach is to meet people in real life. I'll chat online for a small amount of time and/or speak on the phone to help the other person decide if they want to meet me but, for me, it all starts in person. I try reserve my judgement as well avoid building expectations until then.
Online the profile could be real, fake, a computer program or an over achieving cockatoo, I don't care. All that matters is will they meet me in person and that is a question that get's a definitive answer pretty quickly, no guesswork required.KDebony
4 years ago
Yep thought so about Irish female. Flooded us with pics until we asked for selfie then that became offensive somehow. Lol. Said she was new to the game but first thing she asked was ' do we have any rules?' Which didn't sound like a newbie question.
Regarding the 2 females we know that ' I'll be at Cocos if you want to meet'.. both put a space between their last sentence and name and both profiles ended in ..
..
Made me jerry straight away that both messages written by same person.
AnnieWhichway
4 years ago
Generally wane in the conversation stakes. Keep them talking and they seem to get comfortable and let things slip.one way or the other.
Like the couple from Albury who wanted me to go there for a night, paid accommodation. He got comfortable and let slip a few small things.
It was going to be the old ' my kid is sick so my wife is looking after him but l can still play..."
I got his phone number and cross referenced to face book. I then asked for a couples selfie with my name on a bit of paper which never eventuated.
I then texted his name to him and told him that if his profile was not deleted within the hour, his wife would get a copy of the conversation by morning.
The profile vanished in 30 minutesKDebony
4 years ago
That's amazing! Good on you!
curiousgirl35
4 years ago
As a profile that does some of the things mentioned as 'sure fire ways to spot a fake' can I clear a few things up:
I (Mrs) do all our chatting
I wont offer face pics unless I feel a connection after chatting for a bit
I offer my kik account in msgs as its an easier/quicker way to comunicate for me rather than logging in to rhp to see msgs
(Why does kik have such a bad wrap?)
I wont give my number out for privacy reasons, hence why i talk on kik instead
I am not quick on meeting up, doesnt mean I am not going to.
I won't chat on ph as im awkward af when i dont know you
Please don't write people off straight away, use your gut before a list of reasons. We have professional lives and families to protect.RHP User
4 years ago
The profiles that have not quite right photos, very little information and say that they are Native American!
Do I look like an idiot?
Don’t answer that.KDebony
4 years ago
That's fair enough, whilst mental simulation counts, for us looks matter.. as this is a physical game. Same time though if we move to kik after looks and the conversation is non existent (usually by single males) they get bounced pretty quickly.
TANTRIC69TACTILE
4 years ago
Mate, I couldn't agree more with you....could just about have written that myself!!Nothing beats meeting in person, period = all doubts and questions cleared very easily and quickly, without any annoying hiding behind a screen impersonal cyber-chit-chat crap...!!!!!Cheers and Good Luck😎
On_Safari
4 years ago
Hello sweetheart, your fb stalk is a tactic that fair enough can level a playing field. It also opens the door to stalkers when they know they can achieve this IF they have the correct info. Just saying not all secrets we use need to be made available to others 🤷🏼♀️ I’ve had stalkers from here, one I actually ended up meeting because they found me in the manner above Then approached via Messenger and gave this whole story about similar issues they’d gleaned from the fora. Long story short she was sussing me out because we had a person in common she had a “bunny boiler” interest in and was making sure I wasn’t a competitor for his interest. I was ropable when I found out via him the nature of this person’s interest after a subsequent visit when she started quizzing on this man. It’s good to be safe and call out the deceptive but at the same time they can be inadvertently armed by us as well ~ Miss your face 😘 Indy xx
AnnieWhichway
4 years ago
Hi sweetzYeah but most know about the FB backdoor. Reason why there is no cross reference available in my Facebook . I take extraordinary precautions to be private. I even masquerade as a guy at times to throw them off the trail. James bond during the day, Linda Lovelace by night......
When the Brissie meet and greet......?On_Safari
4 years ago
I keep thinking I should do another QLD M&G and then think FUCK IT no one here knows about mine anymore and probs wouldn’t come? But maybe Icould come out for another hurrah 😁will chat to my co-conspirators xx
Kokoflamingo
4 years ago
Google imaging is a good tool to use, many fake photos on profiles. "Single", but prefers discretion and daytime meets. Otherwise, if you get to chatting , ask to meet and the fake or dishonest will suddenly become Casper.
kisslids
4 years ago
I just love being told I’m fake.
My weight gain.....fake
My mortgage....fake
My monthly payg bill... fake
What else is there that I detest, that should be fake?
Oh I got a flower for valentines, it was plastic....fake
Anyway rant over.
Have a great day all.honkytonk
4 years ago
age preference 18 - 99
plenty of 'ask me'
Mrs_Deep_Love
4 years ago
I think I'm pretty good at spotting the fake profile, 4 years of experience. Now I just have to wade through the profiles of men that say they are single but not .
P.s freakyfun incase you're reading this I verify that despite no verification, you are real
Freaky_Fun
4 years ago
LMAO
I did feel my ears burning 🤣🤣
Can't get much realer....is that even a word 🤔badboyhere
4 years ago
Response to Earthqueen
More often than not they are looking for $.
Somebody mentioned about ladies pushing to meet at swing clubs to drum up business.
I have had this too and seems to be the latest scam getting around. Seems the swing clubs are enlisting some Overseas businesses that specialise in targeting guys to spend their money at the club as they get bigger cover charge income from guys.
What annoys me more is the amount of new young women profiles that are coming to this site looking for “sugar dating”. Totally wrong. I counted just the other day that there was 11 new profiles and 9 wanted “sugar dating”.badboyhere
4 years ago
Maybe they want their uni fees paid for by their sugar daddies
RHP User
4 years ago
Hi people how is everyone?
newyboy70
4 years ago
I (male partner) do the AD and the filtering.
We are very specific in what we are looking for and will not budge on the criteria.
If the male wants face PICS straight up, we cull them. If they are 1 sentence replies ( lets meet tonight or lets fuck etc) when we have specifically asked for info (tell us about yourself) and that this is a work in progress and will not be within the next 2 weeks, we cull them.
If they meet the criteria and appear genuine. I pass on the Wife's details and they communicate through SMS or email only. It's up to her if she sends face pics.
PS: On the phone call issue. When you have kids, it's very difficult to have a conversation with someone on the phone when it is a certain kind of conversation, kids can tell what is normal talk and not.Mrs_Deep_Love
4 years ago
Quoting 'newyboy70'
PS: On the phone call issue. When you have kids, it's very difficult to have a conversation with someone on the phone when it is a certain kind of conversation, kids can tell what is normal talk and not.
What rot! Walk out into the back yard, close the bedroom door. It takes less than 2 minutes to verify on the phone that you are who you say you are.
And at times, I have had two little kids, a big kid, her boyfriend and my father living with us. I have made it work.
MsSuperFoxy
4 years ago
I agree. I would not want to have any sort of relationship with someone who makes excuses not to have a phone chat. Even if it's for 2mins to verify. Red flags straight away!
Ms Foxynewyboy70
4 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy'
I agree. I would not want to have any sort of relationship with someone who makes excuses not to have a phone chat. Even if it's for 2mins to verify. Red flags straight away!
Ms Foxy
I never said making excuses. I said for those who question the phone call thing. It's very difficult and the phone call comes after a lot of leg work prior. If I had to chat with every person that contacted me, i'd be busier than a Telstra call centre operator.
It's just the same as guys wanting a face pic straight up. I try and explain, it's different for a female that has children and in a certain profession. You cannot just give your photo out to anyone. They take it as being a fake profile, that's a loss for them.
PS: The times we have arranged with someone, yes they have chatted on the phone. As the filtering has been done.RHP User
4 years ago
Newboy, you get all fussy about the single men asking for a face pic?
I guess you still take advantage of seeing them quite quickly though.
I know it's all about connection but connection can't happen or last if we don't show up our vulnerabilities. And in this game of sexdating, our face picture is a big big game changer. And it's even horrible when you chat for 2 weeks without seeing a clear face picture and then you get it, there's 0 chemistry on your side and you just feel awful about feeling suddenly so superficial.
FunDou
4 years ago
Annie Whichway...
Genius, absolute genius🎖 + a mic drop 🎤.
The look on that sneaky bugger’s face would have been priceless 🥴🤥🤬🥵🤯🤐👻
Absolutely brilliant 👏😂RHP User
4 years ago
Validations should be compulsory. No validation no account. Too many fakes accounts, and rhp isn’t providing the safety and security they should provide to protect our personal data against scammers.
HOTnHAPPY02
4 years ago
We have now met in person six (6) couples of RHP and of those only four (4) actually fitted their profiles. It's a little sad that people feel the need to post dated pictures of themselves to get a date... post your up to date photos and know that there won't be that uncomfortable first impression when meeting 😊 and we agree with an earlier comment that you should trust your instincts.
Unfortunately it is impossible to eliminate fake profiles or time wasters......sadly 😪RHP User
4 years ago
I generally don't message profiles without private pics unless the public pics show a face aswell. But there are no hard and fast rules as I hsve met girls and couples that break all the perceived red flags we have mentioned. I think as a general rule if someone isn't willing to do what you are willing to do then they are fake/too much effort or drama for you which is the same thing. If someone wants to talk on the phone and you don't then you won't get along anyways, same with if they don't want to kik or send face pics. Fake or too much effort or drama are the same thing at the end of the day.
Curvesnextdoor
4 years ago
Easy, consistently meeting the screening protocols.
First one is a time waster , second one married if he can’t talk at night in Melbourne 😅
jedi_knight
4 years ago
Spelling and construction of the profile - bad grammar (acknowledging that we are not all perfect) generally indicates someone offshore has made the profile.
Pics of the lady that look like they come straight off the cover of Vogue
No validation or verification ... pics in the public gallery and none in the PG...
First message back is - email me at :
There are tons ... generally now prefer to only chat to verified folks so many people who are not who they say they areRHP User
4 years ago
Like everything it comes down to experience, sometimes glaringly obvious fakery, sometimes more subtle, requests for particular selfie is easy and quick, anyone with "no camera" is b.s.
Occasionally "I'm not alone" is legit
Dwindling to one word replies onsite, Kik or mobile is a bad sign
Plus you sometimes get people who are plain rude
Just now had someone, with some reluctance, list her limits then seem outraged that I said "no thanks not interested "
Apparently that doesn't work both ways for some
BUT the genuine replies make it worth weeding out the idiots/fakes/scammers
Ben** (nickname)RHP User
4 years ago
I've lived by 2 simple rules;
1. ) Verified profile (non-negotiable).
2.) Able to answer a question coherently when I send a message.
Anything else is a waste of time. As a result, never had any problems with anyone I've met from the site.
Good luck x
tickledpink
4 years ago
We are real and like going to Kik straight away. If the “female” or “couple” can’t produce an instant we know they are fake and there is no point chatting and wasting our time. Simple
RHP User
4 years ago
Easy. Any female who contacts a male FIRST is a fake profile.
Sassinak72
4 years ago
Have I understood you correctly Mike? Are you actually saying that woman don't contact men on this site, simply wait to be approached? If so what a load of hog wash!
Sassinak72
4 years ago
I hear you KDeboney on the Irish woman vibes....I thought I had the spot the fake methods down pat but "she" caught me out😕
RHP User
4 years ago
Quoting 'MilitaryMike'
Easy. Any female who contacts a male FIRST is a fake profile.
I've made first contact on a couple of occasions : 0 )
A verified profile is an absolute must, and apart from that, I go with my gut.
Happy hunting Sherlocks!RHP User
4 years ago
Mike I would love to support you but alas, I can't. The beautiful woman I share this couples profile with was the one who contacted me. I was a long time as a single man in here doing my thing when a gorgeous butterfly landed on my nose and as they say, the rest is history.
As for the fakes, as others have said. Gut feel, obviously profile mistakes and a lack of willingness for face to face contact lead you down the path of successful detectionRHP User
4 years ago
A very interesting read..i've not been long on this site but the learning curve as to who's who on here has been fairly steep to say the least..
joanne1991
4 years ago
I find all this information invaluable it’s like being a detective
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