No fat chicks...

No fat chicks...

    | Mar 23, 2019
NaughtyCam   Man 34yrs
Well before you loose your minds over the heading, is it OK to say this?

Where does one draw the line?

Women on RHP do not like brown men for whatever reason and it's OK to open have this on profiles. Hell there is a user name call "Asian4White"

Yet, the second a man writes anything - he is shallow.

Can we have an honest conversation on this.

Whilst I personally don't care about race or size, people on here do. So can we start being honest in our profiles to save people time!


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Rlee552   Man 43yrs

Perhaps do not use the phrase ‘no fat chicks’. Imagine how someone reading that might feel. Does it come across as disrespectful, insulting and demeaning? I suspect if you said that to someone’s face they may react adversely so why put it in writing and expect a different reaction.

Can you alternatively phrase your preference in a respectful polite way? Perhaps express what body shapes you adore (petite, svelte, athletic etc).

Frankly though you are a male on this site. Unless your inbox is completely overflowing with demands for sex from people who do not fit your preference preventing you from focusing on all of those demands of women who do match your preference, why bother. You always have the ability to say no to people who do not interest you. You even have the ability to ignore them.
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MissRedFox   Woman 43yrs

Well go on and put it on your profile

It will help me in my desire to avoid superficial people

XX
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EarthQueen   Woman 48yrs

You could

It’s your profile and you can say what you like. But personally I prefer to focus on what I do want, rather than what I don’t want.

It wouldn’t offend me. That’s fairly hard to do. I’ve had men tell me I’m too thin, not busty/curvy enough. Who cares 🤷‍♀️ I can’t be everyone’s cup of tea.




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countrytouch82  

Man 37yrs

Well...

There are even events that don't admit "fat" women, or men (definition varies). However, while anyone is free to have their preferences, you can choose to write in a tone that shows either more or less respect. "No indians", etc shows up a lot. "Preference for caucasian appearance" might be a better option, just as one example.
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LustttCaution  

Woman 43yrs

Interesting coming from OP

Who says that he does not want to go to S&S ball full of fat chicks.



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fun2afterdark   Couple Man 54yrs Woman 50yrs

Do you have to say it like that?

Everyone has penchants, ones that wet their knickers and the shrivelling opposite.

I would ask you, what is fat to you? Define it in terms that are kind. Ask for what you like but don't be a self-entitled bratty moron.

Above anything else. Be kind. Women are reminded several times a day how 'imperfect' they are.

Mrs F


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Qefenta4  

Woman 100yrs

What you put in your profile

Is an indicator of how you think..it's a reflection of you.By saying "No fat chicks" it speaks volumes,and would probably be very off putting to those intelligent conversationalists that you say you seek.

Q
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Mischeviouslad   Man 47yrs

Words..... can be selected


You may say “no fat chicks”...

.... when empathic people with at least basic EQ simply say “thank you, but no” when others who don’t fit your criteria contact you

See the difference?!

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SuperFoxxxy   Woman 47yrs

Where does one draw the line?

I think I know where you are coming from OP. It is not really the profiles of real concern to me, they are just words. What is and where the line is drawn is looking at ourselves first and to stop putting ourselves and others down. We are accountable for own own choices and actions. In other words, love ourselves first, the rest will follow and attract. Everyone is unique, individual and like what they like.

I really don't give too hoots what people have on their profiles (they can write whatever they like/dislike) or think of me. It is not until I have met them face to face, then I'll decide.

Ms Foxy
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NaughtyCam   Man 34yrs

Dude!




Quoting 'MissRedFox'

Well go on and put it on your profile

It will help me in my desire to avoid superficial people

XX
Dude - there are profiles that clearly state No, Arabs, Asians, or Indias... Men have feelings too man!
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PassionFreaks   Couple Man 43yrs Woman 49yrs

Put it in your profile.

What have you got to loose 😃🙄
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NaughtyCam   Man 34yrs

You people don't get it or didn't read my post fully

Firstly, if you read the original post - I said I don't care about that stuff.

The title was purposely contentious to get people to read the finer points... which are.

Should we just be blunt and be done with it.

Basically, women can write anything on their profile, be height-ist or racist and it's ok. But the second a man says anything he is automatically considered the devil...

The double standards are SHIT!
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Kokoflamingo   Woman 56yrs

Naughtycam

Ive seen profiles stating they are after people with gym bodies, one asking for " no oldies" and yes, people stating which race of people they dont want to attract. I wouldn't use certain words though..... people do get offended. Oh and the ones stating they dont want anything under 9 inches. Rules out 90% of the honest guys right away :)
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Seachange   Woman 46yrs

OP

Anyone can write anything in their profile to either entice people they are attracted to or repel people.

The point of putting their personal preferences to play with caucasian males or females is totally acceptable. You should not take it personally. I'm Asian Aussie but I can't force myself onto someone who is not attracted to my race. Too many other fish in the ocean.😉

By stating ' no fat chicks' in your profile does more harm to your chances of meeting people as it just reflect someone who is crass, boganish and insensitive. Definitely low in EI. Personally, I'd stay away from someone like that.

Be respectful, kind and be a person of integrity. Don't you think that is more attractive?
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DynamicCouple36  

Couple Man 49yrs Woman 40yrs

The real reason for your rant ?

Is this really about “ fat chicks” or is your rant due to the fact that you have been turned down due to the colour of your skin ? You are coloured various and not Caucasian?

Pulling the race card are you ? Coming from RSA you really should know better. Ja, nee!!

Nothing about fat chicks on your profile though, unless you have deleted that ?
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DynamicCouple36  

Couple Man 49yrs Woman 40yrs

PS

If one does not find black, Indian, coloured, Asian people sexually attractive, does that make one racist ?

We all have different tastes do we not ? Are we entitled to have different tastes ? If we don’t find you attractive, does that make us racist ? Simply because you are a person of colour?
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The_Antichrist   Man 40yrs

If the statement is in alignment with your moral compass....and it’s not up to anyone else to tell you if it should be or not...

But assuming it is, any person that is offended by it is merely not ever going to be compatible with you....

And to be honest, why would anyone care if some random stranger thinks you or anyone is shallow?? Fuck em, it’s your journey, not theirs....

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jince  

Woman 39yrs

In most cases, preferences are learned from a young age based on what people see and are used to. Such preferences are often difficult to change. Unfortunately, there is plenty of racial stereotyping in online dating (which starts when you set up your profile and select your race) and it would be ignorant to say there is no racism in online dating when it exists in society.

Ofcourse it isn’t nice or respectful to express preferences in a rude/racist way. Those who do are people to steer clear of. We don’t tolerate people saying “no black men” or “no fat chicks” in real life, so we shouldn’t accept it online either. I think online dating sites should have a responsibility here.

Personally, I accept that many men won’t be attracted to me because I’m a bigger woman (or a “fat chick”) and not Caucasian. Does it bother me? No. They’re just not for me and I’m not for them. No use wasting time trying to convince them otherwise. If they’re rude about it, that says more about them than it does about me.
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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 56yrs

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A great bumber sticker back in the 70s and 80s. Proudly displayed on the back of panel vans.

Funny about the fat cunt driving the fucking thing.
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Rlee552   Man 43yrs

OP, you complained about double standards, and I accept you are deliberately using an inflammatory phrase to try and illustrate your point. I imagine you are suggesting what is good for the goose should be good for the gander. That all we need to be is honest.

I don’t know and do not care if there are double standards.

The only standard that matters is the standard we should aspire to be, not the lowest standard others use.

Don’t use descriptions that you would not use to your Mum, sister and your daughter. If I criticised my Mum like that she would burst into tears, my sister would tear me a new one and my daughters would not respect me as a man.

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