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The morning after you first sleep together leaves you with a lot more to contend with than bad morning breath,...
RedHotPie Editor | March 25 2008
You’ve Slept Together – Now What?
The morning after you first sleep together leaves you with a lot more to contend with than bad morning breath, wondering where you left your knickers, or a hangover from hell. Exactly how long should you stick around for? Should you wake him or her up before you leave? And now that you’ve slept together what does it all mean? Make a smooth move from ‘oh yes’ to ‘see you next Friday’ by following these little pearls of advice.
Make your Exit
Yes, it doesn’t sound as romantic as breakfast in bed followed by a lazy day together reading the papers but you’ve only just slept together so that means that there are still boundaries to keep in check. If you played your cards right then he or she slept at your place and you won’t have to search for your t-shirt under the bed or worst yet, take that walk of shame in last night’s funky get up. Tell him or her that you have early morning plans (think faux personal training session or brunch with your parents) and then high tail it out of there.
Chillax
‘Chilled and relaxed’ – this should be your mantra. If you are freaking out about whether or not she expects a full blown relationship now that you’ve bumped uglies then you’re better off freaking out when she’s not around. Same goes for the ladies – a simple ‘thanks, I had a great time last night,’ will suffice. Bring up the slather of ‘where is this all going?’ questions with your girlfriends once you’ve divulged all the dirty details; after all that’s what Saturday morning brunch is for.
It’s Not Your Problem
You may think you’re acting all adorable by offering to make the bed or wash the wine glasses from last night but the truth is that it’s not your problem – and worse yet, he or she may want you out of there pronto. Making yourself at home while you ask where they keep the dishwashing liquid just extends that awkward moment much longer than necessary.
Say Goodbye
Leaving without saying goodbye is just rude and poor form – even if you don’t want to pursue anything after you’ve slept together, you still don’t want to be remembered as that pig he or she once dated. Trust me, word gets around and if you want any action from someone he or she knows you’re best off leaving with your reputation in tact. If you’re really feeling uncomfortable at least leave a note – it’s lame but better than no goodbye at all.
Make your Exit
Yes, it doesn’t sound as romantic as breakfast in bed followed by a lazy day together reading the papers but you’ve only just slept together so that means that there are still boundaries to keep in check. If you played your cards right then he or she slept at your place and you won’t have to search for your t-shirt under the bed or worst yet, take that walk of shame in last night’s funky get up. Tell him or her that you have early morning plans (think faux personal training session or brunch with your parents) and then high tail it out of there.
Chillax
‘Chilled and relaxed’ – this should be your mantra. If you are freaking out about whether or not she expects a full blown relationship now that you’ve bumped uglies then you’re better off freaking out when she’s not around. Same goes for the ladies – a simple ‘thanks, I had a great time last night,’ will suffice. Bring up the slather of ‘where is this all going?’ questions with your girlfriends once you’ve divulged all the dirty details; after all that’s what Saturday morning brunch is for.
It’s Not Your Problem
You may think you’re acting all adorable by offering to make the bed or wash the wine glasses from last night but the truth is that it’s not your problem – and worse yet, he or she may want you out of there pronto. Making yourself at home while you ask where they keep the dishwashing liquid just extends that awkward moment much longer than necessary.
Say Goodbye
Leaving without saying goodbye is just rude and poor form – even if you don’t want to pursue anything after you’ve slept together, you still don’t want to be remembered as that pig he or she once dated. Trust me, word gets around and if you want any action from someone he or she knows you’re best off leaving with your reputation in tact. If you’re really feeling uncomfortable at least leave a note – it’s lame but better than no goodbye at all.
