Articles
It’s the fantasy of many men around the world: watching two women engaged in a sexy, highly charged session...
Alison Cox | May 25 2006
Boys On The Side - Why girls are looking for other girls
It’s the fantasy of many men around the world: watching two women engaged in a sexy, highly charged session of exploring each other’s body. Even just watching girls get playful on the dance floor of a nightclub turns a lot of guys on. Certainly, girl-on-girl scenarios feature strongly in porn films (the majority of which are still male oriented), and of late, even in mainstream cinema where audiences can’t seem to get enough of implied or explicit sexual exchanges between women. Yet, the very thing that men lust after is slowly becoming a source of frustration for those seeking some adventure via Internet personals. It seems that the only thing single women are looking for these days are other single women! RHP looks at why more and more women are opting to try out for the other team.
It’s OK, Women Do Still Love Men!
Happily, men shouldn’t be concerned that women are losing interest in straight sex with men. Women who are bisexual are, after all, so called because of their sexual interest in both sexes. It’s just that for most women, it is easier to find men for casual sexual encounters than it is to find a similar arrangement with another woman.
Most women have no trouble finding male playmates within their own social circle or simply at a bar or club, but meeting women is more of a challenge, especially for shy ladies who are perhaps more ‘bi-curious’ and not sure how to get first base. There may be lesbian and bisexual bars and clubs that work as good meeting points for many women, but for those who need a level of discretion, the Internet has become an ideal means to meet people in a non-confronting way.
Men’s Fantasy, Women’s Reality
Just like men, many women have very horny fantasies about lesbian sex. However, unlike men, it’s something that woman can, and do, turn into a hot reality. Some men do get caught up in the porno whirlwind of blonde heads, taut bodies and silicon, that they forget that women do actually enjoy sex with other women for their own personal pleasure. In a way, it is almost an affront to men that their fantasies are indeed a reality for many women and it’s one that can totally exclude men. The increasing number of women who are interested in exploring their bisexuality may make some men feel uncomfortable to think that women can enjoy sexual activities that don’t involve a penis. They may wonder if there’s any use for men if women can find gratification with other women. However, men should consider all the reasons why they are attracted to women, aside from the fact that as a heterosexual male, it’s the ‘normal’ way to feel. Women are equally attracted to the soft sweetness of the female form, just like men. Given that, men should be able to relate to why women want to act on their urges.
Is It Just A Phase?
Thanks in part to those numerous lesbian scenes in both porn and mainstream films, it is socially more acceptable for women to have bisexual tendencies and act on them these days. For that reason, bisexual women have become more visible and their presence has therefore become more prominent in Internet personals web sites. It probably isn’t correct to suggest that this seemingly recent trend towards being bisexual is a phase that will eventually pass. In fact, many long-standing bisexual women would argue that there has always been a community of women who love other women. It’s just that now there are far more convenient avenues for women to meet other like-minded types. On the flip side though, compared to the pre-Internet Dark Ages, there are definitely more women actively looking for men for fun and games too.
Heterosexual Monogamists, Bisexual Tarts
Another reason why bisexual women are exclusively looking for female companionship on the Internet is that they already have a significant male other in their lives. Many advertise on Internet personals as couples seeking single women for the highly coveted FMF threesome, but there are also women who, usually with the permission of their partners, seek other femmes for one-on-one fun. There are, of course, attached women who are also free to meet men for sex and good times, but by and large, most men have less of a problem with their partners having fun on the side with another woman, than another man.
So What Are Guys Meant to Do?
There’s really not much a guy can do if a woman is only interested in meeting other women, but by understanding and respecting her right to explore her bisexuality, as well as accepting her attraction to other women as a valid feeling, a guy may feel less rejected or unwanted on the net. Men can then focus on the profiles of women who are actively interested in meeting for straight sex. This is an important point if you want to make RHP work for you, and to save yourself a great deal of frustration. After all, women who are not seeking the attention of couples and men (and specifically say so in their profiles), are not necessarily going to reply back, even to say ‘thanks, but no thanks’.
It’s OK, Women Do Still Love Men!
Happily, men shouldn’t be concerned that women are losing interest in straight sex with men. Women who are bisexual are, after all, so called because of their sexual interest in both sexes. It’s just that for most women, it is easier to find men for casual sexual encounters than it is to find a similar arrangement with another woman.
Most women have no trouble finding male playmates within their own social circle or simply at a bar or club, but meeting women is more of a challenge, especially for shy ladies who are perhaps more ‘bi-curious’ and not sure how to get first base. There may be lesbian and bisexual bars and clubs that work as good meeting points for many women, but for those who need a level of discretion, the Internet has become an ideal means to meet people in a non-confronting way.
Men’s Fantasy, Women’s Reality
Just like men, many women have very horny fantasies about lesbian sex. However, unlike men, it’s something that woman can, and do, turn into a hot reality. Some men do get caught up in the porno whirlwind of blonde heads, taut bodies and silicon, that they forget that women do actually enjoy sex with other women for their own personal pleasure. In a way, it is almost an affront to men that their fantasies are indeed a reality for many women and it’s one that can totally exclude men. The increasing number of women who are interested in exploring their bisexuality may make some men feel uncomfortable to think that women can enjoy sexual activities that don’t involve a penis. They may wonder if there’s any use for men if women can find gratification with other women. However, men should consider all the reasons why they are attracted to women, aside from the fact that as a heterosexual male, it’s the ‘normal’ way to feel. Women are equally attracted to the soft sweetness of the female form, just like men. Given that, men should be able to relate to why women want to act on their urges.
Is It Just A Phase?
Thanks in part to those numerous lesbian scenes in both porn and mainstream films, it is socially more acceptable for women to have bisexual tendencies and act on them these days. For that reason, bisexual women have become more visible and their presence has therefore become more prominent in Internet personals web sites. It probably isn’t correct to suggest that this seemingly recent trend towards being bisexual is a phase that will eventually pass. In fact, many long-standing bisexual women would argue that there has always been a community of women who love other women. It’s just that now there are far more convenient avenues for women to meet other like-minded types. On the flip side though, compared to the pre-Internet Dark Ages, there are definitely more women actively looking for men for fun and games too.
Heterosexual Monogamists, Bisexual Tarts
Another reason why bisexual women are exclusively looking for female companionship on the Internet is that they already have a significant male other in their lives. Many advertise on Internet personals as couples seeking single women for the highly coveted FMF threesome, but there are also women who, usually with the permission of their partners, seek other femmes for one-on-one fun. There are, of course, attached women who are also free to meet men for sex and good times, but by and large, most men have less of a problem with their partners having fun on the side with another woman, than another man.
So What Are Guys Meant to Do?
There’s really not much a guy can do if a woman is only interested in meeting other women, but by understanding and respecting her right to explore her bisexuality, as well as accepting her attraction to other women as a valid feeling, a guy may feel less rejected or unwanted on the net. Men can then focus on the profiles of women who are actively interested in meeting for straight sex. This is an important point if you want to make RHP work for you, and to save yourself a great deal of frustration. After all, women who are not seeking the attention of couples and men (and specifically say so in their profiles), are not necessarily going to reply back, even to say ‘thanks, but no thanks’.
